Socialising Isn't Friendly With Healthy Habits

It's one thing not to drink, but the only think I drink is water. You'd think that would be a good thing! But when I'm out I can't even have a soda? No, of course I do drink, in a social manner. I just have no idea what the temptation for drink actually feels like. The most I've really had was 2 pints, or maybe a pint and a shot. I can't say with 100% certain that it made me feel any different. And if it did, then I wouldn't exactly say I'd desire that feeling... just perhaps felt a bit kiddy. I often wonder what would the Irish do if there was no alcohol. Their youth's courting scene depends on it.

Socialising is often very much dependent on being unhealthy. For example, offering a cigarette can often be a way of starting a conversation, and if you don't smoke, you can look quite awkward. But what do you when you're such a health freak and have been away from these vices, such coffee and hot food, for so long that you no longer even desire the way you used to.

 

It can be......to the title......Either, just be who you are and socialize anyway.....and if people do not accept you for that, find other social circles who will.....

 

TOTALLY.

For the most part socializing revolves around drinking alcohol and eating crappy food (at least for the majority of people). While I have never been a huge fan of the former (socializing, that is), the latter two were quite familiar to me up until just a few years ago.

Being not the most social person has been of immense benefit to me and my current lifestyle. I could not imagine adhering to my diet while going out every weekend, whether it be to a bar / club, or simply a restaurant. It would pose a major challenge.

For about seven months I abstained from alcohol completely. It wasn't until just recently I started to drink again, but it's on a very rare occasion since I don't even like the way alcohol makes me feel now. If I drink any more than a couple drinks, I can feel the alcohol's toxic effect on my body for at least a day or two afterward. When I do drink, I stick to the clear alcohols (mostly vodka). But I almost never have the itch to drink like I used to. Just like I have lost the desire for sweet things.

I think socializing while being healthy can be done, but it's much easier when you're somewhat hermetic like myself.

 

Man, vodka has done me in in the past...I cannot even smell it now without gagging...and it is odorless, but I can smell it anyway...........I don't drink, either, much.....However, I did buy a bottle of rum in Cape Cod.....so it is here, if I do want a rum and pepsi.....some day.

 

you can always socialize in a healthy manner..go to a yoga class with a friend or take a bike ride or go on a hike.

 

I guess at 30 I don't hang out with people the way that I used to at 20.

It's probably not a bad thing.

 

i saw a bunch of moms with toddlers at the park....they looked like they were having a lot of fun.....i didnt see any of the moms or the kids puffing smokes....eating crappy food or guzzling b-52 shooters



.that is only 1 example....there are many many examples of ways to socialize that arent as unhealthy as what y'all are saying


lets also remember most bar/restaraunts have a few healthy choices for food....you dont always have to order deep fried wings and fries

ever heard of 'straight edge'?

.dont y'all know its cool to be healthy ,eat well and not consume dope or alcohol?


i have no problem nursing a single beer for a couple hours.....tip the waitress well and they dont care.......way easier to meet women if you arent a drunk slob

 

Cafes aren't as wild. But when you consider how flaky alcohol-mediated relationships tend to be, at least in cafes you eventually learn how to be happy on your own.

 

that's what i tell myself until i get there and see them on the menu.

 

i think what the OP is talking about is very common in your teens and 20s. most people like to get fucked up and get fucked up with their friends. but eventually, it starts to feel like the majority of your friendships are based on getting fucked up.

but really, i think it just boils down to hanging out with people that you share common interests with. (it just happens to be that a lot of people like to drink alcohol)

but you could find friends who really like music - go to concerts with them
friends who like to go on hikes or ride bikes - have an exercise buddy

some people are work-a-holics, always building or fixing shit. maybe you could have a friend to help you with projects and vice versa

i'm with rolling along, i think there are plenty of ways to socialize in a healthy manner. and sure, maybe some unhealthy food or drink or other activity might come up, but it doesn't mean you have to partake.

i have some friends who are SUPER into playing board games. not exactly the most exciting night when we hang out with them...but it's pretty "healthy" i'd say. although our wives usually do make a dessert or other type of snack.

 

sounds like talking about things people do TO socialize. which mostly don't gratify anything either.

to me this seems like 'having' to be around other people, is just like any other kind of addiction.

anyway its just not something i care that much about.

i like once in a while to meet and get together with people who share something that interests me.
(as in maybe once a month if that. once a year is enough for some things)
but when its only one thing and nothing else, well that just isn't very interesting either.

and excitement just doesn't really interest me at all. so there's just not much point to me, about all that crazy stuff people do just to have an excuse to be around each other.

 

yeah, a bike hike probably won't get you laid! But I guess most people who are into getting laid are into drinking.

 

if you want to get laid...sure, go try to pick up some skank from the bar.

if you want to maybe build a relationship with a female...you might be better off meeting her somewhere else.

 

oh so by socializing you mean hook up with drunk girls. If that is your perogative you can't really complain about not getting up in time for your am workout.

 

Go find a nice girl at church. I think that should cover all of the bases right there.

But seriously, find different friends. My friends don't care if I drink or not.

 

I can see where this could be a problem. (Un)luckily, I don't socialize enough for this to present a problem. But I sympathize. Really...

 

you see I just want the skank from the bar!

 

I can get down on some monopoly or risk.

But now that I think about it, considering how much better everything is with drugs, I'd probably rather do it really stoned, with other really stoned people.

It's true, drugs make you friends - they give you a common interest - everybody likes them, so you can ask to do them with anyone, and go from there. I mean everybody likes sex too, but it's more socially acceptable to start with drugs and go for sex later.

I was here to call OP stupid, but fine, whatever, you make a good point.

 

hmmm, ever played 'cards against humanity?'

 

No it isn't more socially acceptable to do drugs than to have sex.

What world do you live in?