Social Etiquette

Should you attend the memorial and funeral service of an ex boyfriend or girlfriend that has passed away, but had a life of their own after you?

Is it appropriate to go and pay your respects if they played a big role in your life and you became acquaintances after a mutual breakup or is it improper to attend a declared open service for them?

 

I think it would be appropriate, I don't see why it wouldn't be. Especially if the break-up was mutual.

 

I would attend. If they had married since dating me I don't know that I would join the receiving line to personally speak to his wife (not even sure if all funerals do this or if it is a southern thing) but I would quietly grab a seat in the back to pay my respects.

 

A memorial service is a celebration of their life.

YOU were part of their life.

Therefore ... you belong there.

If you think there could be issues with their last life partner, however, have a quiet word with them first. Explain that you would like to attend, but don't want to cause any awkwardness. Then take your cue from their response.

 

It's your last chance to say goodbye. I would attend.

 

I would attend, they were part of your life, and you should say goodbye

 

You have the right to go.

 

I would consider the friends and family. If there was a good deal of bad blood with people around this person, you may not be welcome. If you remain on good terms with others around the person, it should be fine.

 

The "purpose" of going to a funeral shouldn't be about you (although sometimes it is). It should be about paying respect to the deceased.... Now in that if this person was a significant part of your life and in some ways helped mold you to the person you are today then hell yeah you have a right to go.

However you being an ex, if you foresee a lot of conflict by you being there, then best to duck out and avoid it. Last thing you want to bring to a funeral is conflict.

 

Why and why not.
If you were friends afterwards, do it to show respect.
If you guys weren't friends afterwards, do it to show respect.
On the bright side, maybe they left you in the will?

 

Yes. I have actually done just this. However, discression might be prudent.

 

If the relationship didn't end in a horrible manner...and it was someone who once meant a great bit to me, then yes, I would go.