So, you want to join a commune?

Huh?

 

Just met with a dude in my town, and we're starting a commune. I'm celebrating. Just smile and nod, you'll be okay.

 

Hello Tom,
In the short time I have been on this forum, you do always seem to strongly interject your opinion into threads that have nuthing to do with you. Your like the guy who sits quietly in a crowd having a conversation, then screams bullshit when the time is right. Even though your interjections come off a little hostile sometimes you always seem to have a good point to add. Written most times logically and intelligently.

Don't think I'm kissing your ass because I still think your somewhat of an asshole. If we met in person, I think we would get along well though.

Nice thread also, I learned more from this thread then I did reading threw a number of the threads in this section. I've become very interested lately in visiting a commune and seeing if I would fit in a environment like that. I see now its more then just finding one, its about finding the right one.

Thank you for sharing your experience on this. Hopefully it will keep me from learning the hard way.

 

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hahahaha
Show me any person who speaks their mind who does not come across as an ass hole to some one
thanks for the laugh on that

 

A) You mean like you just did?

B) Your determination of what has to do with me and doesn't, doesn't concern me in the slightest.

As for the rest... including the asshole part.

Thanks

 

Tom, I betcha he's kissing up to you for something.

 

I don't resort to words when I want something. I go all out and pull a MacGruber, its not purity but it works every time.

If I wanted something from you Tom, you would know it.

 

So, when you want something, you take it by force...

Yeah, people are going to be beating down your doors to invite you to their home...

 

Bad general reference, my bad. I forget sometimes sarcasm does not translate will into text for me.

Better specific reference:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUBhf3TFUmU"]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUBhf3TFUmU

 

My apologies FT for judging you as I did. That was wrong, unjustified and I'm sorry.

 

No need for apologies Logan but thank you just the same.

Tom, I have a question for you regarding your topic. Like I said I'm interested in communes but I don't have any experience with them. I like the idea of what it has to offer, the working together for the whole, being away/off the grid, and the knowledge I could gain from the people there. I'm tired of moving place to place looking for something different, only to find the faces have changed but the people are the same.

My question:
If a commune is looking for people but they don't have specifics about there goals or living arrangements. What are some good questions to ask when contacting them?

Because I'm new to this and want to know all about what they have going on, I think my questions are too detailed and might be considered intrusive to the owner. I understand what you are saying about, "go for a visit and see for yourself". But I want to make sure I'm not going to end up in a off the wall place I just traveled a couple hundred miles to get too.

Basically I don't want my first experience with a commune to leave me jaded and skeptical of its true meaning.

Thank you

 

okay, first off, how many things have you done in your life that have worked out great? How many were great the first time you tried them?

You don't know what you are looking for, you just know you haven't found it... so how would you know if what is being offered is what it is?

Even if you could define 100% what it is that you are looking for, what someone tells you on the net, on the telephone, in letters or whatever other means of communication you can use, means absolutely fuck all.

Even if you could define it, and could believe what you were told about how things worked and it was perfect for what you said you wanted, you could get there and find out there is an instant clash in personalities with someone who is already there that completely destroys any chance of it being a good thing.

Even if you could define it, and could believe it, and it was perfect for what you said you wanted AND you got along with everyone, you could quickly discover that thinking it would be great to live like this isnt the same as actually doing it...

Which is why, I keep repeating over and over the same line...

If you want it, go for it... find one, anyone, and go... you can always find excuses as to why you shouldn't do it just yet...

Just fucking do it already...

If your first experience is a bad one, and it makes you jaded and turns you off the idea, then you were just looking for an excuse to say... "see, I tried it and it doesn't work" and it wont matter how much preparation you make.

As for what questions you can ask and can't ask... With a few exceptions, if a place wont answer questions about what it is like there, what accommodations are available and such... DONT FUCKING GO THERE!

Those few exceptions relate to things like drug use and such things...

Read my first post again... Pay attention to the cell phone part and the part about making sure someone knows where you are going. Make sure the people you are going to visit, know that others know you are coming...

and then..

SHUT THE FUCK UP AND GO!

 

Thank you for the advice Tom, I appreciate it. I have a bad habit of over thinking things sometimes.

 

It's not just you... many people trap themselves in their own hell simply because they are afraid of what may come if they take a chance...

Sad part, is that most end up taking chances anyway, just ones that even when they win, they still lose... (ie, relocating cities for a job, only to discover that the reward (having the job) still makes them miserable).

 

Well put.

I know the feeling too well. It's a feeling I cant describe and its too easy to describe it as being in my own little hell. I haven't felt that way for a few years and I will end up in the funny papers before I find myself there again.

The sick part about it is, when I was there it felt comfortable in a way. Finding my way out was the hard part, at least getting this far out. haha

I have the feeling like I'm living on borrowed time today. Just not sure what to do with it yet. I'm like the people you described, in a place where I need to take a chance and make a choose that will direct my journey. I'm not too sure if that made sense or not. If I really tried to describe these things it would be a lot longer then 8 sentences.

Just wanted to say I know the feeling and finding this site, reading about people like yourself is an inspiring thing for me. Thank you.


Lengthy bump

 

things that go bump in the night...

 

Nothing wrong with taking chances, especially if it's on something that's worth it...sometimes going somewhere and just doing it and checking it out is the best thing...and the trip would give you some clarity, and maybe give you the right perspective on everything you've been over thinking

 

I live in a crazy commune right now but I am gonna change to another one for spring

 

I have but an acre to share, and have had lots of people come and go, but either there were unbearable habits, or addictions involved that were the focus of peoples lives, not staying home and farming.

People of like mind are really hard to find, and those who do come, and would like to stay-don't like MY quirks.

Someday I hope to have 2 more people here to stay, this place really needs 2 more pairs of hands.

But for now, I'm going to make it liveable for me, and the odd guest or two.

Lois

 

Apparently I should have made the title of this, So you want to join OR VISIT a commune...

Regardless of your reasons for wanting to visit, or join up with others, keep in mind that you are talking about people's homes and their very lives.

Don't waste thier time with stupid bullshit games.

If you want to go see one, go see one... if you aren't sure if you want to or not... think about it and read more FIRST... BEFORE contacting them...

If you tell someone that you want to come, or especially that you ARE coming, and then change your mind... Contact them and let them know.

Otherwise, you just demonstrate that you are an inconsiderate piece of shit whose only concern is themself.