So I've slept with over 100 people...

i feel sorry for people who are so closeminded and judgemental that they can't believe that someone can have different values than them and still be happy.

 

Well the overall divorce rate puts a few holes in your theory there don't ya think? All types of people get married and divorced apparently and a lot of marriages aren't happy ones. A lot of those serial monogamist's husbands and boyfriends are always trying to fuck me so clearly being married and monogamy comes with its own set of problems.

I personally don't feel like the number of partners you've had is anything more than a statistic. It has nothing to do with your capacity to love or be loved. Everyone has things in their pasts that another person won't be happy with whether it be sex or something else. There are a whole lot of parts of me that have absolutely nothing to do with sex. I have a degree, a career, a mortgage, friends and a family full of a whole bunch of adorable little kids that I cannot stop spoiling. If a guy just focused on 100 then he shouldn't get to enjoy all the other great things about me. Furthermore, I'd be more ashamed of having given my heart away to 6 or 7 men who didn't deserve it than giving my body away to 100.

My parents have been married for over 30 years, both sets of grandparents have been married over 50 years so clearly the institution of marriage is not quite dead yet.

 

Precisely! There are married couples who partner swap and within a marriage quite possibly have pretty high numbers. Doesn't mean they don't love each other and aren't very happy.

 

of the 120 you claim to have slept with, how many were someone else's husband or boyfriend? When you fuck someone else's partner you are stealing from the other woman. Those types of men would probably end up fucking someone else but that doesn't mean you need to be part of the conspiracy.One of my wife's friends found out yesterday that her boyfriend was cheating on her. The anguish and heartbreak that woman is going through is real, not theoretical.

A woman gives her the heart thinking she has found true love, there is no shame in being deceived or thinking a man was better than he turned out to be. The shame comes from giving away your body like a Walmart greeter handing out smiley face stickers. One day someone will be torn apart when they realize that they feel that you are are a priceless treasure only to find out that you were as cheap as a discarded newspaper.

The thing you and a few others in this thread don't get is that physical intimacy without emotional intimacy is hollow. If it weren't why would you keep fucking different people all the time? Of those 120 how many would you fuck again, given the chance?

So, why didn't you think you could be like your mother or grandmother? How many sex partners did they have before getting married?

The thing is, sure you grew up in a different world than your mother and grandmother, so maybe you, like a lot of other young women in the past 50 years slept around a bit, but at some point you must have realized what you were doing was not leading to your happiness. I'm guessing that is what drove you to making this post. A 20 y.o. girl who gives her pussy away is silly and stupid. A 30 y.o. woman who does is psychologically damaged.

We all make mistakes and I am no saint. There are a few things in my sexual past that I am not proud of but I know that no matter what we all want to be loved, to feel special, to feel safe in someone else's arms, to trust that the person we are sleeping with is not going to hurt us. Why don't you try and find someone whose company you enjoy and who pleases you sexually and just stop running? You must be getting tired of the game you are playing.

 

Agreed and the amount of health and safety risks a person like her is putting herself in. OP can you even remember all of the faces of the men you've slept with?

 

The divorce rate though...isn't solely based on sexual reasons though.

People get divorced for lots of reasons, but the other big one is financial.

 

Impressive circular reasoning there. What makes you think you can define what sex should mean for everyone else? Sure, sex with someone you love is amazing but it doesn't follow that its therefore the only way sex can be enjoyed. Some people can separate sex and love. Others can't.

I'm going to quote myself from page 2 of this thread:

"They have some pretty definite ideas about what the "right" attitude to sex is, so if you don't see it their way the only explanation is that you must be damaged."

So you don't approve of the OP's (and other promiscuous peoples) life choices. That's fine, no one is asking you to. But just because you don't get it doesn't mean they are psychologically damaged, it just means you are unable to understand them. I'm fundamentally unable to comprehend the world view of American right wing religious conservatives but I don't conclude from this they must be damaged in some way.

You make it clear in your post your distaste for those who are promiscuous and to support this you make a lot of unfounded generalisations about the OP. She must target other peoples partners, she must feel empty and hollow inside, she can't possibly be happy doing what she does, she must be psychologically damaged... All you are doing is projecting your own world view onto her.

 

My first inclination was not to respond to any of this, but there is just so much bullshit piling up here...

Unless you were in Nevada or overseas at the time, it was illegal. That technically makes you an unconvicted sex offender. You live in the same glass house as the worst of us. Stop throwing stones.

No, most have just learned to say things like that to men like you. It's much easier to recite the standard regret speech than to deal with judgmental men in a more honest way.

Okay, that's one person. So what? Maybe she got married for the wrong reasons, like social pressure. We don't know.

You don't know what other people are looking for, at various times in their lives. You're making a truckload of assumptions. Every study on the subject shows that people are pursuing serious relationships later and later in life. Everything before that is fun and games, or at least it can be. Some people like casual sex, under the right circumstances. Some don't. I don't think anybody wants your sympathy.

 

I could never imagine sleeping with 100+ guys...I have only slept with 3...I am not being judgemental of others I am purely speaking of me.

 

The health risks are largely inflated by the uninformed in society. Anyone who's been with numerous partners can attest to that.

 

I cannot stand kids at all nowadays, they are all little monster As for spoiling them, thats kind of depressing too, give them a present watch their eyes light up, all of a sudden you are their favourite, then watch them fight over somesilly thing cos its shiny and from their fav tv show, oh geez this is where it all starts, its in our nature to be greedy little shits


And human babies are kind of ugly anyway, they all kind of start off looking like Don Rickles, with the bug eyes tripping off their heads on neuro chemicals

Bah Humbug

 

i've probably imagined myself sleeping with a thousand different women.

 

The health risks are not "largely inflated." Its common sense that the higher the body count of nameless partners one screws, the more likely you're to contract a nasty genital disease. Anyone who thinks they're not risking their lives and others by sleeping with numerous people regardless of condoms is in denial. This isn't the 50s anymore.

http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats10/surv2010.pdf

 

I like sex



That is all

 

You keep right on believing that myth. There are a lot of people with a ton of personal experience that prove otherwise. If things were really like you say, sex would be like a game of Russian roulette, and STDs would be the number 1 killer in the world. The reality is more people die of heart disease each year than they do from STDs.

 

I don't think the point is to make lasting memories to cherish or deep personal relationships. "It's not about Mister Right, it's about Mister Right Now"...

Oh I think that's a fairly safe assumption to make. On some level there is a discord of something occuring, I couldn't be more specific but anything that acts malignant usually is.

It's not about dying from STDs, it's just getting them period. Modern medicine makes every STD except HIV be incredibly unlikely to be fatal, and even HIV now is no longer the killer it was 20 years ago. These days if you catch gonorrhea you just take some antibiotics. The point is that if you are promiscuous, there's no two ways about it; your odds of getting an STI are proportionally higher. Combine that with lax condom use and you'd be surprised who amongst your friends has had a bad case of the dick puss and just never quite felt like sharing with you, same for the women who are easy come easy go, sometimes easy go to the clinic and pretend they don't get your texts for a few days .

 

Sounds more like your the uninformed one.
Go read the study linked above and inform yourself.

Plus I doubt the numbers of really promiscuous people are nowhere near what you seem to think......
unless of course you actually believe all those girls on "fuck buddy" sites are real. LOL

 

That's hardly a relevant statistic. Anyone can be at risk from heart disease (even pre-pubescent children), but only those who have sex, by definition, can be put at risk of STDs, and the risk is increased with the number of partners and even more by not using protection.

If you want to use inane statistics, you could say that far more people die of old age than those who die of STDs - but as the number of terminal STD victims increases, even the difference between these figures lessens.

 

Continue to think with your little head.

 

Which proves that sex to OP is meaningless and unemotional hence my statement.