So is he your boyfriend?

If I understand this somewhat correctly, I think the transgendered term could be applicable upon the birth of someone who is a female by identity but who was issued a male body and you are in the process of correcting the error. It has to be inherently confusing- and not the easiest issue to hash out with parental units who harbor hopes and dreams- often living vicariously through their offspring. I imagine that if this is the case with Madcap's folks, the wild ride has more than its share of surprising terms.

The photo shows what most definitely appears to be a female torso... so I imagine the dysmorphia facet of this is being mitigated by blocking testosterone. Madcap's mom may not be ready for the full truth of the situation- she may never be. I guess you need to have faith that as a parent, she will love her child unconditionally. Would I be out of line to suggest an appointment with a professional to help ease her into this in hopes of cementing a healthy mother/daughter bond via open and honest communication? Keeping her in the dark about what's going on cannot be good.

 

I'm not drawing from direct experiences here, we are talking about a lesbian. Guys can be dicks. If Heats father worked in a more upmarket job, the guy talk would have been more civil. If he was something like a truckie, that guy talk would have been far more full on. "Ya daughters a lesbian eh? you gonna get her to put on a show for us" "Ya daughters a leso eh? Oh she just hasnt tried the other white meat yet *grabs crotch*" guys stand around and laugh, slap each other on the back, all that kind of crap. I've seen that a plenty.

Seen the other side too, how bitchy other mums can get if another kid is different somehow. Even if that bitchiness is in the form of overt condescendance.

This isnt confined to my circle, or my part of the world, its human nature.

Now either none of this kind of thing happened, or the parents and the gay sibling protected Heat from all of this. And theres a whole world of stuff that gay sister may have protected the family from: Experimenting and ones sex life is not something anyone talks about with their family, the guys that may try turn her straight - dont tell dad he's likely to do something stupid, the number of gals with boyfriends asking her to experiment - boyfriends aint going to be happy, and mums likley to get overprotective. Or simply just protecting the sibling from the fact she's getting more of that kind of attention - cos siblings more likley to hate you a little bit more

As for mothers ALWAYS know, cos they always do, they are the ones usually focused the most on the child, the most overprotective, they pick up all the signs from very early on. Part of the coming out process is finally working out that pretty much everyone thought you were that way anyway, the siblings of a gay person are usually the last though, because everyone else around them was overprotective and they dont often want to face how having a gay brother/sister made them different

Now back to the thread at hand:

Is the kind of think a lot of people will just assume, a guy dressing up like a girl - well thats got to be gay (cos all gay guys dress up like girls apparently)

I'm going to cross gay off the list, cos he wouldnt be boobing it up
I'm going to cross tranny of the list cos theres no body hate talk, they absolutley fucking hate being trapped in the wrong body

I'm going to go with a mini Orison, its just a kink, and a kink that the OP has probably already worked out works very well on the girls

So when the mother asks is that your boyfriend, its to nudge a reply "Please girl, he's not my type" - sounds like trying too hard to shock / get attention. The mother obviously knows him better than I do, but sounds like she's a couple steps ahead of him. If she really thought he was gay, instead it would be the sit down, hug, "Its ok if your gay, mommy still loves you" talk

 

im not gay.... But considering if there is enough money involved.,, Ill be what ever you want..

 

I've known some assholes in my life, and I know plenty of people who would say things like that in private, or among people not related/friends with the person, but I have no idea who anywhere would say that to someone's father. People normally are dicks behind people's backs, not to their face, especially, always especially when it involves their kids.

Nah you struck out on this, go back and read more of the thread.

 

i agree with you on this...i turned down 100 dollars once to let a dude blow me...who knows what would have happened if he had doubled it...

...someone asked about how men cram their peckers into such tight jeans..this organ[penis]is remarkably pliable when flaccid and will fit into a very small space...guys like me that can pop boners with as little inspiration as a strong breeze or the bus going by?....we cant wear these tight jeans ....


i wanted to ask op if he ever wears manscara or guyliner as a regular part of his wardrobe...


....for several years in a row in the 80s i dressed up as mick jagger for halloween..complete with tights,scarves...usually in white and make-up...one of those years i even payed a pro to do my make up...i got laid each and every time i dressed like that..of the non girlfriend mick years i banged the cat woman ,scarlet ohare and a 1920s flapper....good times

...chicks go for dudes not afraid to dress up a little i guess...i only wish i had dressed like that a little more often when i still had the looks haha

...now i just look like old mick.. :mickey:

 

I think it really boils down to who is doing the sucking and who isnt..

 

Oh, so you're just assuming then...

Why would somebody assume something about another's sexuality?

Oh, so you're just assuming then...

Why would somebody assume something about another's sexuality?

 

the gay pride parade out here needed a flatbed towtruck for a float.i rented them my truck for the day for 400 bux.got it back sparkling clean,armoraled the whole 9 yards with 2 full tanks of fuel.:2thumbsup:

 

MadCap, are you seeing a therapist?

 

I Hope Not, He Seems Too Intelligent To Fall Into That Bottomless Pit...



Cheers Glen.

 

My therapist with the VA asked me how i deal with stress.. and I said "wear high heels, sniff nail polish, if that fails auto erotic asphyxiation" that was the end of that..

 

LOL!

Wasn't allowed to rep you or GLEN.

 

Nah, personally I think therapy is a crock for either people who have no friends to talk about their problems with or can't work up the nerve to. Especially when you already know what the route cause of the problem is.

In fact I pissed off a hell of a lot of other trans people in a thread once with my "fuck therapy do drugs" stance since apparently therapy has helped a lot of people. But really, you might as well just take a bunch of mushrooms in a dark room with your thoughts, you'll get the same results in 4 hours probably that 5 months of therapy will do for a 1/10 the cost.

I'm just kidding kids don't do drugs.........................

in dark rooms, way too boring after a few minutes.

But really it's true, I'm pretty sure I've found out more about myself, both on purpose and by accident in a few psychedelic trips than months and months of therapy could've ever done. I also don't like the idea of an intermediate(i.e. the therapist between my thoughts and I)

I have also discovered while tripping that weirdly enough if you look through the viewfinder on a camera, what you see in your vision will go back to essentially normal.

 

Dude I tried to rep both of them to and I can't either

 

Every So Often On The Internuts Along Comes A Post That Causes Me To Furrow My

Brow, And Partially Close My Eyes In Disbelief.....This Is One Of Those Posts....



Cheers Glen.

 

I suspect that Madcap might favor the use of different pronouns here. Madcap's mom is either unable or not willing to comprehend what is plain to be seen... or maybe she suspects something is afoot and is trying to coax confirmation out of Madcap. I wonder what the lady is telling herself- perhaps the question was motivated from having braced herself for a response that she may have already convinced herself was true.

 

:love::love::love::love:< limit 4.. I think tapping the creative ass is probably the best thing someone can do with gender conditions.. / Its society that calls it a condition though.. But again we are not in everyone shoes.. And sadly I wouldnt doubt some undereducated person with gender issues reads: Risperdal-anti psychotic ;may cause breast tissue to grow in males.. They may want to get their hands on as much as possible.
Remember drug seeking behavior isnt limited to the mind and euphoria alone.

 

Once again you make far too many assumptions and make far too many generalizations. This and the other posts are not about me or my sister or our family, they are about you and your view of what must have happened. Your prerogative of course but hardly accurate.

The reason this was even raised in this thread by me was as an example of sharing with a family the reality of who someone is. That while it may take a little time and discussion that letting those you love and who love you know what you feel is not necessarily always a disaster and the end of everyones world and relationships. Sometimes families just do what a family should do which is continue to love and support each other.