So I wonder

Just the other day I had a distant friend contact me on FB to let me know that he was Transgender. Now he is married and probably in his early 60's. Not a bad guy and I have no issues what so ever with this and I told him so.

But I have questions and how do you ask these questions? I don't care what his choices are, I'm good with that. But being the straight heterosexuals guy I have very little experience with any transgender other that what the porn world has shown us which I know is not true.

So I would like to ask him more but first I will talk here and maybe get educated. I know it is more than guys (or gals) wanting to be the other sex and it may not be as much about wanting sex with the same sex.

I do welcome any education in this.

 

I have no predjudice but I am straight.
I think if I add some research it will help.

 

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I just wish to second your emotions.

 

Transgender is a very involved subject and almost everyone involved in a relationship plays it differently.
As you said, you have no phobias about your fries lifestyle, so I would strongly advise you to meet up and enjoy his company with a completely clear and open mind.

 

We only get to really talk online, he lives on the other side of the state. I do wonder about why after so many years, why did it take him so long. Maybe he always struggled with it and just recently got the courage?

 

Thank you. As a transgender how does that effect your sexual life? I'm probably way off and I don't mean to offend but when I think of myself as a guy, I crave women sexually. As a transgender does this come into play?

 

Okay that makes sense.

I think one of the hardest things in my case to understand is how to separate it from sex. I don't question that it is real or wrong. and I'm trying so hard not offended but I just can only truly relate to what I know.

What is the feeling that tells you that your gender doesn't match your gear? If not sexual attraction what is it? and I know the "it" is hard to define even as I struggle to figure out how to ask the question.

Does any of the questions I'm asking even make sense?

 

Interesting reading through.

I do not believe for a second that it changes the persons personality.
Once a friend that shared the same interests, always that friend.

 

Now I'd never try to add to the great input from KathyL but I did think of something that my wife and I have thought for years.

My wife is a retired educator. Through the years we've seen numerous times that a gay male teacher has been scrutinized simply because he's a gay male. Too often parents, and even administrators, worry about the gay male teacher being around young males.

So, why not worry about heterosexual male teachers around young females? Or lesbian teachers around young females? Or hetero female teachers around young males?

Sexual preference, identity or just gender in general, like Kathy has said, has nothing to do with sexual activity except for the fact of what they're attracted to. It's simply about who they are.

Also, your friend just might be reaching out to you. He may not understand much better than you do but would like a trusted friend to research it with.

 

Thanks for all the input. I now have a little bit better understanding than I did, but still a lot to learn. It is is strange to call him a her, but I get your point and I'm sure it is extremely difficult for her. So I will learn from what you say and start by using the her/she labels. Even though at this point labels are just labels. She is a person that builds pretty good boats and place pretty good guitar.

It doesn't shed some light on some of her past actions. There is a forum that we are both members of although she doesn't go there much anymore. But for years we were plagued with a troll that kept coming back time after time after being banned and banned again. It was always rumored that she was the troll. I think I can see that now, because for so many years she was hiding who she was and that could have manifested into an alter ego. I could be wrong but that could have been her reaching out for someone to help her understand what was going on.

And I know over the years she had struggled with alcohol. I can see how this could have been an underlying factor.

Either way I understand more now than I did before.

 

I definitely learned something new today.

 

I have had a transgender girlfriend for the last two years and knowing her has made me want to learn more about what it means to be transgender.

My girlfriend is very unusual. She never transitioned. She has always been a girl from the time that she was a small child. She has always worn feminine clothing and long hair. Her parents and family have always accepted her as female.

She is also unusual in that she has a naturally feminine body. No Adam’s Apple. A female voice. Small delicate body. Feminine hips. She has never taken hormones or had surgery. She is content with her genitalia and likes being a top sexually.

The only thing she would like to change about herself is her breasts. She would like implants and hopes to be able to get them this year.

Although she is what most people would describe as passable she is proud of being transgender and never hides the fact that she was assigned male at birth.

 

She's pretty.

 

Thank you! She is beautiful inside and out!

 

Wow yes your girlfriend is absolutely gorgeous. I am a trans woman and I take estrogen and purarea murifica (I know I spelled that wrong lol) but the pm and to some degree the estrogen has given me feminine breasts as well as sensation in my breasts and nipples in a few months. I would estimate I am more than an a cup probably almost a b. They jiggle and bounce and feel great. I never thought it would work at least not this good. Either way thank you for sharing her story <3