So, I was flirted with today

God I have a soft spot for the nerdy boys.

 

Seeing these flirting threads has got me thinking and I really have no idea of how I flirt. I dont think I flirt at all, it's just me and if I like the person Im with it's gonna show. I probably just get extra silly, smile a million times more (like I dont do that too much already haha) and stare at people.
I dont know, I've always been very straightforward whenever Im attracted to someone, so it's pretty obvious. I dont think I ever liked flirting games.

 

Two people flirted with me today. One is my friend from Canada, but she flirts with everyone. The other is my gay friend, which is a bit awkward, since I don't feel that way, but he also flirts with all of my friends.

 

dave... don't worry about flirting. there's no reason to flirt. just be yourself. if she's into D&D and whatever else you mentioned that you two vibed on, chances are GREAT that she's gonna totally love your nerdy little self.

just talk about what interests you. compliment her. tell her that it's awesome to meet a chick who'se into the same things as you, since it's rare. if she's a nerdy chick too, chances are she gets typecast into the "friend" department a little too easily. letting her know that it's an attractive quality is a guaranteed make her smile move.

just make her feel really good about being herself. that's the number one only thing you really ever need to do. girls just want to know that they're liked for who they are. period.

 

Does she work there?

 

yes. which is why I think I am going back tomorrow for some small percussion instruments for the nephew, which he needs anyway.

 

What I would say actually is that flirting is the language of our bodies and feelings.

Whereas you are attached to the language of the intellect.

 

it's more precise.

body language is so very subjective.

 

If you're trying to ANALYZE it, yes.

But if you're FEELING IT, it's VERY precise.

 

my empathometer is broken

where can I order spare parts?

I understand what you are saying. at least basically.

 

Ask her out at work man. It takes guts to do something like that and she'd be really reception if you did something kindda bold like that.

 

as an expansion on that, I really don't know what a good date is, I can be romantic, but it's not an on cue sort of thing, it just sort of happens spontaneously sometimes.

 

Good dates are fun. Going to a record store, a book store, an animal store would be excellent on a first date, or doing something like mini put or going to an arcade. I dunno, I like doing anything. I can't really say that many women are looking to be romanced on the first date judging by today's standards.

 

the first proper date I ever went on was dinner and coffee...

that was 8 months ago....

I am thinking circus circus might be good (casino with a section set aside for carnie games)

 

Oooo, yeah. Take her there.

 

that sounds like a fun first date!!

 

Circus Circus is fun..ride the indoor roller coaster..it has a loop..then take her over to the Stratosphere and ride the rides on top..those things are a blast..

BTW..I got married at Circus Circus..

 

I recommend something very ordinary and short for a first date. You don't want to build up wild romantic expectations at first. Especially if you have a tendency to feel awkward, like I do.

If romance develops, good. If not, then allow it to develop over time. I've had coffee dates to the tune of 45 minutes which turned out well. And I'm horrible at dates.

The circus may be a good idea IF you're comfortable around someone. Otherwise I would just go shopping for tubas and grab a sundae before calling it the night-

If things go well, the second date should be ROMANTIC "So- what kind of person are you comfortable around?"

Ugh. Hate dates.

 

Just be prepared to drop a lot of money if things go the way you supposedly want them to. It's pretty much bullshit, but unfortunately that's the way these things work 99% of the time. I don't understand it....if women want to be treated equally and git rid of these double standards (many exists on both sides of the spectrum) then START PAYING FOR SHIT! I'm not meaning to sound like an asshole....it's just that I'm broke, along with many other dudes and if we're expected to pay for the majority of "activities" we'll have even less. I suppose the whole love aspect comes in to play, but any sex related activity is basically socially accepted prostitution in that case.
(I'm being sarcastic....so don't hate.)

As a side note, I really don't mind paying for things if it involves those I care about (friends etc...), money is just money and the friendship/relationship means much more to me. When you're first getting to know someone and there's a potential for a relationship though....like my man Peter Tosh said, "equal rights and justice!" (Of course he was referring to an entirely different situation)

 

Girls still expect to have guys pay for stuff on dates?

My friends and I are strange birds then.