SO Confused....

So he has told you he is not interested in sex with you, but is also addicted to porn and masturbates a lot? Maybe it is time to move on to someone more interested in the real thing when it is right in front of him. If sex is important to you then you should be with someone that feels the same way. That does not make you a bad person. Took me a long time to figure that out.

 

^^^^ This ^^^^

I agree, he should see the real thing in front of him.

 

My advice remains the same. Go see a sex and relationship therapist and just bring the porn and masturbation addiction up as a talking point or issue.

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But if the problem can't be resolved after therapy....break up.

 

If he isn't interested in sex, and you want it... well... it sounds like an ending to me.

 

I sent him a well thought out email...it read....
Chris,
I am going to try to put into a email the things that are swimming around in my heart and head, because clearly when ever we try to talk about them I am unable to produce conversation that makes sense or for what ever reason it is not being understood or delivered in its full capacity. So here goes...as I said I feel us drifting farther and farther apart. We don't really do much together anymore, even our sleeping together and cuddling and over all communication has continued to diminish. I hear you when you say that you are right where you want to be, 100% dependent on me, and I am OK with that, I know that is a important part of a relationship to you and for you. I do my absolute best to meet your needs, and always will, Sometimes I fail.... but since I am not perfect that is to be expected. One thing I want to stress is that I Love You, You are My Best Friend. I can tell you anything, and I have told you things I would never tell anyone else and probably never will. I Love that we both feel the security to share with out being judged or ridiculed. That is so important in any relationship. Physical closeness Is important to me, it is one of my needs, that may or may not include making love, but It is a important part of closeness for me, Being wanted and desired is important to me, but not in the way of some guy wanting to take me home to bed, if that was the case it would be simple, because I have that opportunity. It Is NOT about Sex......it is about making Love, I Like To Kiss..........I am a hopeless romantic, maybe sex and making love are the same....but not to me....they may start the same way and end the same way....but so not the same.....I am not sure you will understand what I am saying.... To me it is elementary... but I am not sure your brain works this way...I Love You In this way.....even if you had five eyes on your face and your penis had teeth I would still want you, Love You, and want to make Love with you...are you getting what I am saying Is any of this starting to make some sense?? I Love You With May Heart....its Love from the heart that causes people that don't seem like they match to be and stay together...Like Scott and Kelly....although you and I are very much alike in many ways...we finish each others thoughts and find humor in things most people don't!! And for the most part want the same things in life. I think we have a great future together, but at some point I/we need to look at this with our intellectual side and ask is this really going to work. I want it too, but I can not ignore my needs as you can not ignore yours....with that being said if I expected you to go out and get a full time job, and take on all the financial responsibility and buy me a nice house and diamonds, you would NOT be able to meet my needs or want to for that matter!! I am sure there is more to this but I think I made a good dent in it, and hopefully it has rid my brain of enough clutter that I can think a little more clearly. I hope the delivery of it is adequate and understandable................ Love You, Me

 

I need advice
My question is...
Is it wrong for me to go on a date with the guy I've been sleeping with for the past 4 months Ex-Girlfriend when they broke up because he cheated on her with me and I told her the truth when she asked me about it... Please keep in mind that she was the one who asked me on a date explaining that she has had feelings for me since we were coworkers at the same restaurant but she wanted to make sure she was done with this guy first... I'm not going to lie I have had feelings for her as well... Please help

 

Orison you have won my heart