So awkward being promiscuous ?

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  1. BenS Alaskan

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    Why does it feel awkward being promiscuous ? I’m single. And want to be promiscuous. Curious of what the opinion would be.
     
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  2. Ray Roberts

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    Best helpful response would be "keep it to yourself" no one wants to know what you are up to and thousands, no millions of people chose to live a life of "playing around with sexual partners" There is no story here, as any Journalist would say and that is also my opinion to this silly question.
     
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  3. TwinT

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    In this example, promiscuity is at least used in a more positive context. However, a life in which someone has only fallen in love four times seems rather bleak to me:

    Emotional Promiscuity Scale (Daniel N. Jones)

    Strongly disagree / Disagree / Neither agree nor disagree / Agree / Strongly agree

    Rate your agreement using the above guidelines

    1. I fall in love easily.
    2. For me, romantic feelings take a long time to develop.
    3. I feel romantic connections right away.
    4. I love the feeling of falling in love.
    5. I am not the type of person who falls in love.
    6. I often feel romantic connections to more than one person at a time.
    7. I have been in love with more than one person at the same time.
    8. I fall in love frequently.
    9. I tend to jump into relationships.
    10. During your entire life, how many people have you fallen in love with?

    A = none
    B = one
    C = 2
    D = 3
    E = 4 or more

    Source


    Let’s now have a look at the etymology of these words:

    promiscuous (adj.)

    c. 1600, of people or things, "mingled confusedly or indiscriminately, consisting of parts or individuals grouped together without order, consisting of a disorderly mix," from Latin promiscuus "mixed, indiscriminate, in common, without distinction, to which all are admitted without distinction," from pro (see pro-) + miscere "to mix" (from PIE root *meik- "to mix").

    Meaning "indiscriminate in sexual relations" is recorded by 1857, from promiscuity in the related sense, the meaning then shading into "not restricted to one individual." The Latin adjective also was used sexually, with conubia (of sexual union between patricians and plebeians). Related: Promiscuously; promiscuousness.

    promiscuity (n.)

    1834, "indiscriminate mixture, confusion," from French promiscuité (1752), from Latin promiscuus "mixed, not separated" (see promiscuous) + French -ité (see -ity). By 1844 in the sense of "promiscuous sexual union" (originally as among races of people). An earlier word was promiscuousness (by 1773 general; 1808 sexual).

    *meik-

    also *meig-, Proto-Indo-European root meaning "to mix."

    It forms all or part of: admix; admixture; immiscible; mash; meddle; medley; melange; melee; mestizo; metis; miscegenation; miscellaneous; miscible; mix; mixo-; mixture; mustang; pell-mell; promiscuous.

    It is the hypothetical source of/evidence for its existence is provided by: Sanskrit misrah "mixed;" Greek misgein, mignynai "to mix, mix up, mingle; to join, bring together; join (battle); make acquainted with;" Old Church Slavonic mešo, mesiti "to mix," Russian meshat, Lithuanian maišau, maišyti "to mix, mingle," Welsh mysgu "to mix."

    pro-

    word-forming element meaning "forward, forth, toward the front" (as in proclaim, proceed); "beforehand, in advance" (prohibit, provide); "taking care of" (procure); "in place of, on behalf of" (proconsul, pronoun); from Latin pro (adv., prep.) "on behalf of, in place of, before, for, in exchange for, just as," which also was used as a first element in compounds and had a collateral form por-.

    Also in some cases from cognate Greek pro "before, in front of, sooner," which also was used in Greek as a prefix (as in problem). Both the Latin and Greek words are from PIE *pro- (source also of Sanskrit pra- "before, forward, forth;" Gothic faura "before," Old English fore "before, for, on account of," fram "forward, from;" Old Irish roar "enough"), extended form of root *per- (1) "forward," hence "in front of, before, toward, near," etc.

    The common modern sense of "in favor of, favoring" (pro-independence, pro-fluoridation, pro-Soviet, etc.) was not in classical Latin and is attested in English from early 19c.​


    monogamy (n.)

    1610s, "practice of marrying only once in a lifetime," from French monogamie, from Late Latin monogamia, from Greek monogamia "single marriage," from monogamos "marrying only once," from monos "single, alone" (from PIE root *men- (4) "small, isolated") + gamos "marriage" (see gamete). As "condition of being married to only one person at a time," by 1708

    monogamous (adj.)

    of humans, "having or permitted to have but one living and undivorced wife or husband at a time," 1778 (of animal pairings from 1770), from Medieval Latin monogamus, from Greek monogamos "marrying only once" (see monogamy). Also sometimes "not remarrying after the death of a spouse." Related: Monogamist (1650s); monogamistic.

    Source: Etymonline.com


    I think you will feel much better if you use much simpler and clearer terminology:
    • Sexual exclusivity: He is sexually exclusive!
    • Sexual inclusivity: He is sexually inclusive!
    In this way, we too can benefit from the high regard in which inclusion is currently held.

    We are the avant-garde, leading by example to help the uptight little minds of this world achieve sexual liberation.

    Avant-garde - Wikipedia
     
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  4. Thom7

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    It must be instinctual...in one's DNA! Just kidding about the DNA part. But I perhaps, do believe you're born with that...attribute? You can't let guilt or morality be your guiding waypoints. I think I've always been a slut/whore dog....and obviously, I'm not alone!
     
  5. Kama'aina

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    Be promiscuous AF. But be discerning about sharing that info.

    Awkwardness goes away with time.
     
  6. Jenna1995

    Jenna1995 Promiscuous and Daring!

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    I share here that I’m promiscuous, but not to my parents or friends…obviously my coworkers have a clue as they notice my funny walk in the morning
     
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  7. KDaddy23

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    I've always been promiscuous because being a prude just doesn't work when you love to have sex with others. Y'all say it like it's a bad thing...
     
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  8. Scharff

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    I no longer feel awkward about it and some of my promiscuous friends with benefits are doing what they love because they are promiscuous. I do know that some women feel they would be judged by being that way but take comfort with the men that don't judge them.
     
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  9. Jumper58

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    The double standards of society, if a guy goes out and gets laid every night he is a stud. If a woman does the same she is a slut. Women love good sex just as much as men so there should be no judging and let people do what makes them happy.
     
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  10. Jenna1995

    Jenna1995 Promiscuous and Daring!

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    Well, my doctor told me translated to English that I’m “wantonly promiscuous” person. I have some ideas, but how would you describe that?
     
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  11. jimandjan

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    Something every man wants.
     
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  12. Jenna1995

    Jenna1995 Promiscuous and Daring!

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    And please tell why :D
     
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  13. jimandjan

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    Every man wants sex and good sex. I am lucky to have a woman who liked sex as much as me. and wasn't afraid to show it. Took her awhile to get started but once she did, all was good. She may not be quite as bold as you, but threesomes group sex was all good.
     
  14. Jumper58

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    Lol every man wants sex when they can get it, I know me if I just finished and needed time to recover I would still enjoy watching you with another
     
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  15. Rod2024

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    I would say it might mean that you want as many cocks as you can get and when you’re getting fucked, you’re not thinking about possible consequences?
     
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    I think the recklessly promiscuous would be the better term than wantonly (that's an older word not used as often. Carelessly would be another.
    One other synonym in my search that came up was debauched or debauchery, a fancy old time term for having sex without worrying about the consequences. Typically used more for men who would fuck and not care or help if they got a woman pregnant, before birth control pills existed.
    You are very conscientious woman though, and routinely get tested, and take preventative medicines, and vaccines. I think the doctor meant more about the physical harm from hard sex?
     
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