Hi everyone.. So Im a single guy now and i think i want to try and enter through the back door. Me & my ex tried a couple of times but i was always scared to go in. Reason being is im about 8" not to wide not to slim so i didn't want it hurt her & throw off everything so i would usually just massage her as*hole with the tip, along with other things. I must say i loved the way it looked & felt with just the tip so i didn't really want to go all the way in anyway.. Now this may be a stupid question to u dudes out there so i really would love to get a womans opinion, but am i missing anything or whenever i get another shot at it should i just stay shallow???
If she is happy for you to try, you should make sure you use plenty of lube & make the initial penetration as slow as you possibly can. Once you have the head penetrated, the rest is easy, as no additional stretching of the rectal sphincter is required, so the depth you choose to thrust is immaterial.
Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned.. The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and sphincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all. Anal play for beginners Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY. First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure. Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP! Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in. Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug. Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK! After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco! GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE! The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.
Grate advise. I definitely think that going slow is the key. I loved to put just the head in so Im not really concerned about going deep just because I really love the way a females ass hole grips my tip so Im good there... Anyway thanks for the post, hopefully ill have another interested partner so i can put the advise to some good use..
If you're going to do something ..... do it properly! neither of you will know the full fantastic range of physical sensations unless you're all the way in!
Maybe your right silk896. I just got so familiar with just playing with the rim & just barely going in until i started to just enjoy that instead of wanting to do full insertion. I've gotten so use to that and now because i don't have anyone right now when i think about and jackoff to it i just grip the tip instead of my whole penis.. I feel like i need help because when it happens again & i go all in i might be ANALWHIP & end up with no one again
