Well I need some help because right now I am so confused and hurt. Well I have been with a guy for around 5 years and we have our ups and downs. I emotionally connect with him really well but there is no sexual attraction for me. I have tried everything to fix it. About two years ago we had a big fight and took a break from each other. During that time, I found another guy who was interested in me. He was older than me and the relationship turned quite passionately sexual very quickly. The sex was amazing. He too was very caring towards me. But he new when I got back with my bf and we continued the secret relationship for about four months. Now fast forward about two years that guy has recently emerged and we went to sit in his car at my work to just talk and catch up and it turned sexual... We exchanged numbers and planned on meeting up sometimes to just have sex no strings attached because he has a gf and I have a bf. Though just now he said he wants to have sex with me but it's to hard on us to find a way and we don't want to hurt our partners but the sex is just so great so I am so disappointed and sad... There went my only chance for some great sex and attention. And now I'm sitting in my room crying. I know I was in the wrong but it was just amazing and I knew it was the best part of my life with him. He even admitted that he loved me just now but said bye forever....
You need to break up with your boyfriend no matter what you so. He doesn't deserve a gf who is wanting to chest in him. If the relationship isn't meeting your needs, move on. I can say this as I had a 15 year relationship with that. You aren't married...leave. Or........ talk to bf! Tell him how you feel. Either way, put on your big girl panties and stop crying. You make the choice. It is going to hurt either way... But you need to do something.
*Bump* Yeah you need to break up with your man. That is all sorts of shitty for everyone. You're not married, didn't mention any kids, probably donlt have a dog, and I bet the cable is in his name. best to cut this out. And that dude should as well.
To be totally honest, I think this is a really shitty thing you have both done. You don't belong with the guy you're with. Why hurt someone so deeply? Don't tell him about this relationship. What would be the point in that? You would just hurt him. I really think you ought to deeply consider what you've done and what the consequences might have been. That's just really not right or fair in any way. That "side guy" did the right thing. But to be honest here, let's call this by its name. You were cheating. It's not "having a side guy" or any of that bs. You cheated on your boyfriend. Plain and simple. Face up to it. That is one of the worst things you can do to a person's self-esteem. You did not get his consent to break the commitment, therefore you cheated on him. Realize that and leave him immediately. You have no right to be sad, and that is the hard truth. Find someone with whom you are compatible. I sincerely hope you don't do this to anyone else.
Yea, that boyfriend you have will never satisfy you and you'll spend the next twenty years wondering why you wasted twenty years with him. Get a new guy, let him find someone that connects with him. You likely won't end up with the old guy with the girlfriend, but regardless, you need to enjoy life and sex too.
Another vote for breaking it off with your BF. As someone who has been a victim of a similar situation, I would have much rather him been honest with me and broken it off earlier than just continue to let this drag on. It's disrespectful to both him and his time. Let him have the chance to be happy.
