Shy bi-Guys and Bisexual.com members check in

Hey, guys - I am glad to see a few names I remember- and recall great conversations from the old SBG days... I'd love to give you guys an update on things from here. But, I am here - thanks to dd788snipe and COVID restlessness...

 

I can't remember where I was on my journey when I last posted any updates on SBG forum, but I am pretty sure this past year or so has been off the public radar. A few years ago I came out to my family - my adult children - surprisingly enough, they were pretty cool about it- but as time went on, my oldest son became arrogant and angry and mean... I am not sure, to this day, why - but I have some theories... nonetheless, I kept pursuing my own truth, and while I remained determined to live my life, on my terms, I was mindful of my wife and my family, and tried to protect certain borders... My son kept harassing me. He was angry that I was known to some of his friends, embarrassed? I don't know. He accused me of living a lie and being cruel to his mother. A friend sent him a video of me at a dance - and it was innocent enough - my son even knew I was there - but my son attacked me and demanded to know who I was fucking. Not too long after that incident, my wife finally asked the question she had avoided for many years... was I sexually active with anyone? I always promised myself I would never lie to her - I may not tell her the truth, unless asked - but I would not be a liar. A cheat, maybe... but not a liar. So, my wife was stunned - she really did not expect to hear the answer I gave her - and initially, her response was to tell our kids - and they, in turn, confronted me, too. A terrible, terrible day for all of us. I still am somewhat amazed that any of these adults would actually be surprised that a gay/bi father/husband would go without any sex from his wife for almost 10 years and not have sex with anyone else - but, that was how they were responding. My wife took off her wedding rings and said she wanted to divorce me. So, in a way, I was relieved - as she said to me, a couple days later - "well, now you are completely out" Very True. And I was surprised at how relieved I was at that point. I removed my wedding ring as well, and I began to prepare for the next steps... Well, as life would have it - we are still living together - still not sure what our future will hold. I think it will be up to me to leave, to be honest. And I can't yet. I can't afford it, for one thing. I am nearing retirement - this house would need to be sold - so much of our 35 years together needs to be divided or distributed and it is overwhelming. We get along fine. We have agreed to live our lives independently - and that is not always easy or smooth - but it is amicable. My oldest son is still angry - but he has his own issues. My other kids are OK. We just keep living in a somewhat of a tepid, suspended atmosphere... A new chapter awaits but is unwritten.

 

I remember that situation... So, I have to ask, though - how are you dealing with things? Personally, I think I will crave an emotional/physical relationship with a man until the day I die - but I also know that those relationships are rare.