Hello all, my name is Michael, and I'm new to the forum. So a little bit about me, I'm 20 years old and am a paraplegic from the waist down( have been since I was 5). I am currently in a 2 year long relationship with a wonderful girl, who I believe is the love of my life. She and I were both virgins when we met, and so we both spent a lot of time getting used to one another, exploring the basic, vanilla ins and outs of sexuality. Here is my situation: I use prescription viagra to maintain an erection, but have almost no feeling at all in my penis, and I'm only about 4.5 inches hard, and not very thick ( most of my sexual pleasure comes from nipple and neck stimulation). I can give my girlfriend an orgasm, but only occasionally, and I can tell that bothers her, even though she insists that it doesn't. She is unlike a lot of other girls, in that she hates getting her clitoris touched, licked, kissed or anything( it makes her squeamish and uncomfortable), but she responds very favorably to penetration. I was doing some browsing at sex toys online and I began to wonder: since I don't get much sexual pleasure from my penis, I could use an extension to please her vaginally and I could still maintain the same pleasure I've had all along. I think it sounds like a good idea, but how should I broach this with her? if I do decide to, are there any downsides I should be aware of? How will she respond to me bringing this up?
first you should talk to her about how direct you are with one another when it comes to sex.......then afterwards slip in that you ''read about'' these extensions and you want to know her opinion about them....... but seriously...congrats on scoring a girlfriend while confined to a chair....but holy fuck what are the odds that a parapleglic finds a gf that doesn't like her clit touched....what a bummer good luck man..... ps...get her smoking weed and maybe she will loosen up with the non clit action
Weed is probably a no-go, I enjoy it myself and she doesn't get on my case about it, but she herself won't smoke it. It's our unspoken agreement. But that's good advice, the first part... I'll somehow subtley slip it in when we're talking about sex and see her reaction from there. Thanks!
You need to have a discussion with her about this and assure her that all you want to do is help to prove her more pleasure. Make it about her.
Mike, my wife was also a virgin and I was not overly experienced when we started. Our sex life remained very vanilla for the first 6-8 years but now we're into all kinds of wild stuff. I learned that a woman's sexual limits can be pushed and tested by her man. After 18 years of marriage, I continue to push her limits. However It is an earned privilege to be able to do that to a woman. Don't think that you can push her limits just b/c she's willing to *uck you. In order to do that to a woman, she has to [-=A=-] COMPLETELY trust you and [-=B=-] LOVE you more than life itself thereby making it easy for her to entrust her body to you. These must be EARNED by you and takes TIME.
