To the OP- Sometimes you have to decide what is the right thing to say and what is the wrong thing to say. Being honest is extremely important, and getting your feelings out is also equally important. However, you might need to learn how to filter what you say. My fiance and I had an issue several weeks ago. He's an extremely honest person, and that's why I love him. However his honesty would sometimes be hurtful to me. One day, when we were driving around, a man gave me a lewd and disgusting look. I had completely missed it. Once we had passed the guy by and were further down the road, Chris remarked about what had just happened. He described what the man had done and I got mad. The reason why is because rather than doing something about it (short of pulling the car over and decking the guy) he chose to drive on. Which, in all honesty, is the right thing to have done. But what hurt me more was the fact that he chose to tell me about it. The knowledge of what had occurred and my inability to do something about it (I'm a big girl, I probably would have yelled at the guy) upset me. It was hurtful to him, to have a guy do something while he is sitting next to me, on top of the fact that it was disrespectful. After an arguement, we agreed that if he ever sees something like that happen again and I miss it - he isn't to tell me. If I see it happening, I will handle the situation. It's not being dishonest, we were honest with each other on how we felt about the situation, it's filtering what goes on. Sometimes holding your tounge is the best thing to do, and like someone said - find another person to talk to about it, or write it down. If you're the person who is on the receiving end of too much honesty; then sit down with the person and explain what I have just told you. You may also have to learn to guard your secrets a little bit closer to your heart, but don't let it adversely affect you. It's protecting yourself, but continue to be an honest and open person. I am, and have been hurt time and time again for it. But once I struck up a balance between telling people things about myself and keeping things to myself I haven't run into any problems since. People love an open and honest person, it puts them at ease. They know that they can trust you with what they have to say and seek you out for advice. It's a blessing to have people like that, because they help make the world a little brighter and happier for those who are unhappy. You seem like a bright and wonderful person. Don't let anyone get you down - it's not worth it. I hope this helps.
*touch* word to what Shambhala said there is such a thing as too much information. I mean, sharing is good, but if it's to everyone's detriment rather than to their benefit, it might be a better idea to bite your lip unless you really need to talk it out
Thanks for the help.I don't wright a journal,but I wright poetry and that realy helps,but I stil nead to say what I think and feel to the people I know and hang out with.I'll try to have some balanse,like one of you said. So,thanks again,and I'll stop now,besouse I realy don't want to be to boring.
You only have one life to live. And I'm not saying that there's no such thing as reincarnation. I'm undecided on that, and I'm also undecided on the afterlife... heaven/hell, etc... But. This is what I mean: You, the person who you are right now, has only this life to live. You have no other opportunity to be this same exact person that you are right now. From what I've read about you (I didn't read that far into the thread though. I'm lazy), you like yourself. Why would you want to "become" someone you really aren't. If you do that you'll always have two sides to you: the person who others see and the person you truly are. You have this one life to be who you know you are. Why would you want to waste even seconds of your life going against who you know you really are only to please other people, especially over trivial issues. Think of life as a whole. Are these problems that get caused honestly that big of a deal? If they arise, dont spend so much time on them. Only if they are huge issues that are going to affect the rest of your life should you worry about it. Problems and issues are always going to happen. Wouldn't you rather go through life knowing you lived your life as best you could, including being true to who you know you are?
wow man, thats really cool advice. If everyone thought that way how much better would the world be?? bye love n rock
