I haven't drank in a while. The last time I drank I embarrassed myself, even if it was only in front of one person. But I have acquired a bottle of wine, that I didn't have to buy and I'm thinking when my friend comes to visit to share it with him if he's interested. I don't think it would be worthwhile to give it to him, I know he has plenty access to alcohol. But I kinda want to stick with my not drinking. Since I didn't spend money on this one though, I kinda wanna drink it. What would you do?
Maybe just have a glass or two, and cut yourself off. Or if you really want to stick to booze free I wouldn't drink it just because it's free
It's also something I haven't tried before. I'm not sure how good I am at cutting myself off either. That was also my plan the last time I drank, but I get to this point like, "this isn't working" so I drink more and overdo it and that happened often enough for me to want to quit. If it's here, I feel like I'm either going to drink it or I'll have to give it away, so I thought having a friend over would be a good time to drink it, he's way bigger so maybe I could ask him to help me by drinking most of it.
Hmmm... this is an awfully big decision for a person to make, so I am going to need to give it some serious thought. When I reach a verdict I will be sure to rush back here and let you know whether you should drink or not.
Just have a glass. Are you an alcoholic? Have you had problems with drinking in past? I mean serious problems. I'm sure almost everyone thy drinks alcohol has embarrass themselves. I have on a few occasions with the moat recent beig about 4 nights ago I stumbled off the train and threw up everywhere in front of other passengers. Are you trying to make yourself less tense when you meet this friend by drinking? What did you do to embarrass yourself? Is it the same friend coming over again? Oh and do you have red or white?
You're such a ray of light sometimes. I say drink it. Screw it. But then again...IPAs are a favorite hobby of mine so maybe I'm not a great person to answer this question.
Listen,,If you don't feel you have a problem, ,and you should know if you do or not ,,its no problem if ya have a drink or 2- - -If you feel like you DO have a problem then stay away- -Im not proud of but I do know a few things about this kind of stuff>. be careful ,,,especially thru the holidays- - - much peace- - jj
if you only have one bottle, and there will be two of you drinking from it, you will be cut off after 2 or 3 glasses anyway by the fact that the bottle will have become empty.
OP, do as Iminmyunderwear suggests. Do not drink alone. I take it a step further - seems to me that you do not know how to drink (and that is on a person-to-person basis). Make an effort to learn how to drink as is suitable for you. Most occassions, slight inebriation is enough. Drinking to a drunken state is usually a mistake, save the death of a dear friend, your daughter's wedding (if you are the father of the bride). You get the idea. This goes hand in hand with drinking responsibly. Are you a wine drinker? What kind of drinker are you? Why do you drink [at all]? Give it some thought; it is your life. On this subject, if you do not learn the answers early enough it is not hard to become a drunk. It especially looks bad on women. They tend to look like wrecks. good luck and have a happy Christmas, JKHolman
I responded to this but my browser closed. I wouldn't really say that I get drunk. I have been drunk before and I lost money, wallet, ID, it was stupid and unexpected, it was over a year ago though. Other than that I got drunk once about 2 years before that and then a few times more in my early 20's. I went several years without drinking. I don't puke or stumble around or anything like that, but I just want to be someone who doesn't drink at all. I've quit everything else effortlessly, but I keep going back to alcohol. The embarrassment the last time I drank was probably going to happen anyway, it was just a bad choice in company and a very delayed reaction. I was slightly tipsy, you could say. I'm not going to say exactly what happened, but I woke up the next morning wondering how did I get from one second to the next, while remembering the whole thing...it was just slightly hazy and I don't like that. That happens sometimes without even drinking but still I don't like it. I have drank alone for the past couple years or whatever it's been and that is maybe my problem. When I drank alone I didn't have any way of regulating how much I was drinking. I don't like the feeling of not being able to remember exactly what happened, 100%. I don't like the feeling of wondering what happened with all that time I had. I don't like the feeling of a wasted buzz. I typically drink thinking I'm going to feel a certain way, I'm going to get something done that I would otherwise not enjoy. The times I've drank with people I don't drink much and I almost feel like it's not enough. What's the point in drinking if you feel nothing? So I don't know how to get that in between level of not drunk, but feeling something. A few months ago(before I embarrassed myself) I drank socially and I enjoyed it. I've gone very long periods of time without drinking. I avoided friends wanting to celebrate my birthday with me last year because I didn't want to drink. I avoided a lot of friends due to not wanting to drink. I have been around a lot of people who have serious problems with drinking. I don't have an issue with ever becoming sloppy drunk, but I just feel like it's a slippery slope. I did tell myself I wouldn't spend money on alcohol and I've kept to that. I don't think I will spend money on alcohol ever again. But I just thought it'd be a nice thing to share with someone. It's not to help me relax while around the guy, it's also definitely not the same person I was with the last time I drank. I think I want to feel like I can drink, every now and then, around the holidays and my birthday and not regret it the next day. I don't want to avoid people because I don't want to drink, at the same time, since this is a nice bottle of wine I've never had before I'm interested. Part of my problem might be that I drink too fast and I rarely use wine glasses, although I have plenty. Also I'm very small. I just don't know how much to drink. Damn...that was too much writing.
For someone who doesn't drink often...you sure spend a lot of time thinking about it. My vote is for more practice and less worrying.
Hahaha. Yeah it's true, I think it's because I've seen a lot of bad things from people with drinking problems, up close and personal. It has defined the last few years for me because of what has happened to people around me. I went on this search for people who don't drink a couple years ago. Around my age it's not that easy to find people who don't drink. But just because someone doesn't drink doesn't mean they're worth being around. Obvious, I know, but I spent a decent amount of time with someone mostly because he didn't drink. :/
you definately need to consume liquids to avoid dehydration. alcohaul does not bennifit this. most people today don't seem to know or care, that the whole thing with mary jane started when kids didn't want to fallow in their parents footsteps of becoming alcohaulics.
by Usedtobehoney: But I just thought it'd be a nice thing to share with someone. It's not to help me relax while around the guy, it's also definitely not the same person I was with the last time I drank. I think I want to feel like I can drink, every now and then, around the holidays and my birthday and not regret it the next day. I don't want to avoid people because I don't want to drink, at the same time, since this is a nice bottle of wine I've never had before I'm interested. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ That last sentence is a good reason not to drink [in your case]. Sounds to me like you have a drinking problem. This is coming from personal experience. You can either throw caution to the winds and let this habit run your life (and it will), or you can tackle it and gain control. Yours is not a case of no control. Otherwise things would be rather obvious. However, I do believe by what you have shared that you are more likely losing some control as opposed to gaining more control. You do not have to quit drinking forever, but it would behoove you to give up drinking for a while. And I do not mean a couple of weeks or months. If what I said sounds scary deep down inside where the rest of us are not permitted, you need to keep reading. Without making any big thing of it, give that bottle to someone you hardly know, leave it on a park bench, or just throw it away. Get rid of that gnat. Now comes the hard part. Do not drink for at least a year. This is not just about drinking, but about getting real control of your life. Forget about what others say. They can never care about your life the way you do. Picture what you will look like in five years. That should give you incentive. Go one further. Picture what you will look like in ten years. I gave up drinking for seven years. I did not know it would be seven years. I thought it would be forever. Now I drink moderately. Guess that makes me a lucky guy. good luck, JKHolman
