Should I care more about my virginity?

I don't feel like I care as a should about having sex. You are always told that sex needs to be after marriage or with the right person or whatever. I can respect those decisions people make but I would happily lose my virginity/have sex with any girl my age at the drop of a hat. If a girl came up to me and wanted sex I wouldn't think twice. Is it wrong of me to think this? What do you think?

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

That's just your hormones talking.

It matters, even if you're a guy, because the girl you end up having your first time with will still shape the experience for you.

She she gonna be nice or a bitch during the experience? What if she gets pregnant, and you might have to deal with her for the rest of your life because of the resulting child. Is that kinda person gonna be someone you could associate with long term generally speaking?

Sex is also very much enhanced by emotions, even for guys, but not many know this because it is not talked about.

 

so i assume you're a male. sounds pretty normal then.

it's just sex, i personally don't see why your first time is supposed to be some perfect sacred experience. but then, i also don't see the point in celebrating birthdays; obviously i have a different view of milestones than most people do.

i do feel like i would regret having sex with an unattractive girl less than i would regret not having sex with anybody.

 

Nothing wrong with that, most guys and a lot of women feel the same way. It is only our social programming and taboos that are holding us back. I definitely do not believe in waiting until after marriage to have sex. How will you know if you are sexually compatible if you wait that long. If you are going to make a life long commitment to each other, you should be sure that you are sexually compatible, otherwise you may find yourself married to someone who just doesn't do it for you.

Also marriages between people who have lived together for at least a year are far more successful and less likely to end in divorce then marriages between people who did not have that shared experience before marrying.

 

That's the kind of issue where only your own opinion should matter. If it isn't important to you, don't lend to it importance others give. If you do find it important, then cherish and keep it for as long as you please.

But you're asking, so, I'll give you my opinion.

I wonder how many minutes a year people who think virginity is something to be cherished spend thinking on how they've lost it once the deed is done. Life involves working, enjoying the company of partners, friends, family, taking care of house, vehicle, having fun, traveling... how many minutes per year does anyone spend reminiscing about how they first sex happened? My guess is that only people with very unhappy lives find the time to live in the past, instead of enjoying the present and anticipating the future.

Relationships are so complex, that even if you'd be with a partner who'd appreciate very much the fact you were a virgin until you've met him/her, that wouldn't be enough to make him/her be less of a jerk to you, or more of a saint. There are a great number of variables playing on relationships and the virginity matter ends up being a negligible one.

Do you think men/women who married virgins are more happier/unhappier than others? It's a lot more complex than that.

I also think that people who have that fixation with being the first on anything have nothing in common with me, so, I've never wanted to spend any time with them.

My husband was a virgin when we met. I had a lot of experience. I wish he had not been a virgin. I wish he had had sex with hundreds of women, had enjoyed lots of group sex and wonderful lovers. I wish, for his sake and mine, that he had experienced sex better than what I give him, so he'd teach me stuff and the learning thing would happen from both ways. He wasn't a virgin by choice and virginity for him had no value whatsoever. It's just that he's an introvert, shy guy and finding partners was difficult.

Sex is good and the more the better. Just play safe and fair.

But if virginity is important to you, what I think about it shouldn't matter at all.

 

This post reinforces my point even more: http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showpost.php?p=7650888&postcount=2

 

Don't overthink it mate. Times are changing.

 

Dudes aren't ever truely 'virgins', it's just an idiotic figure of speech when applied to men.

It's honorable to have morals, but don't take social conventions too seriously.

 

How are they not truly virgins?

 

How are they? Men don't have a hymen.

 

Neither do some women. Are they not virgins either? I think it is strange that we put a label on a person who has never had sex. Like having sex for the first time is some defining moment in your life. The only purpose that that serves is a religious one. Instilling fear, apprehension, and guilt in men and women.

OP, your virginity ought to mean exactly what you say it does. If it doesn't mean a lot to you, than don't think twice about it.

 

I completely agree.

Some women do not have hymens? I did not know that.

 

i suppose if you define it strictly as penis-in-vagina, males lose their virginity at birth.

except for those c-section losers. those chumps couldn't even get their mom to lay them.

 

:2thumbsup: hahahaha nice

 

No actually, virginity serves another purpose and that would be preventing The transfer of the new drug resistant diseases that spread through sexual contact.

That's why virginity is valuable, as long as you define that virginity means lack of ALL things sexual (vaginal, oral, anal, sharing of bodily fluids).


Sure you can say that's what STD/STI testing is for, and that's all well and good, but keep in mind those tests are AFTER possibly contracting something, and they are tools to keep tract of the epidemiology of certain diseases and health conditions for statistical purposes.


The concept of being "tainted" spiritually is bunk, I agree.

But the concept if being " tainted" with herpes, will affect your sex life with your partners in the future and in that sense, yes you are " tainted" and it will be a hassle to deal with; one both you and your partner will probably wish you didn't have to deal with.

 

+rep......:2thumbsup:



Cheers Glen.