She says she has never had orgasm

Any advice on how I can get my wife to orgasm? She has said that she has never orgasmed in her life. She will have sex all night long and will love it and loves to enjoy wild stuff. I am thinking maybe I need to use some form of restraint ( bondage tape? rope?) so she cannot resist, and use a vibrator on her until she chums. Anyone have any thoughts? Any advice? I have suggested this to her and she seems eager for it.

 

And you're worrying??????????

Stop looking for expectation and just enjoy what happens.

 

Tie her up & stimulate her clit & g spot for as long as you like until she starts shaking & hopefully squirts. Place some ice cubes in her anus or vagina & rub some over her body. That must surely make her orgasm !

 

I understand. I am hoping she gets to feel how great an orgasm feels. I like the suggestion of nz male.

Also silk is right, I should just enjoy and not worry about it.

 

Yeah, good call. I'm sure the reason she has never had an orgasm is due to a lack of ice-cubes shoved up her asshole. That must be it.

 

This is exactly why most women don't orgasm. Men do things as long as THEY like, rather than how long the woman likes.

Also, don't put any goddamn ice cubes in her fucking orifices.

 

Hey don't knock it till you try it!

 

Love her up and gently blow into her ears.Ask her to masturbate you with her feet.Rub noses - that kind of thing.Try the gentle approach occasionally.That's all I got.

 

If he can't turn her lady bits into a shooting star, then he doesn't deserve to put ice cubes in them.

 

This thread gave me a pretty good laugh. I guess I will need a full ice chest to give her multiples!!!

Seriously though, why not just let her express what turns her on the most and work from there? Everyone has specific things that turn them on more than others. In sex therapy I have seen where masturbation is used so the person can figure out their sexual desires by imagining while stimulating themselves. As much as she says she likes this or that you need to figure out what it is that she enjoys the most and use that to elevate her sensations.

 

If you are gonna use ice, boil the water you intend to freeze first to get the oxygen out of it so air bubbles don't stay in the ice.

As it melts it can get sharp and you wouldn't want that, I also recommend using a condom to freeze the water in to make it penis shaped.

Still though don't fix what isn't broken, MAMA's advice isn't wrong in its moral about men not listening to women when it comes to sexual do's and do not's but sometimes it's okay to push boundaries little by little if you can and know you will shatter their limits of what they think they can't do in bed.

Also determining if sex barriers are physical or psychological is important too.

 

Ah ya, ice cubes, that's what makes me cum every time,,,
NOPE! What does freezing do? It makes things freeze, no feeling. Go with what's been said about stimulation but I wouldn't tie her down. She might not be relaxing into it enough, just talk your way through it, tell her you are gonna do "this" or "that" till she begs for more,,,, try different things, a little at a time,,, some like it a bit rowdy some soft, slow and sensual. You might not have hit the right note because she is too shy to say what works.
You know some guys think stimulation of the clit just means rubbing all over the place, try massaging the man in the boat till he falls out, stay on him, around him and speed up, slow down, bet she cums.

 

What she says turns her on and she fantasizes about is to have a threesome with another woman, and to wear a strap on and use it. She also seems to be turned on by the notion of showing her body publicly

 

Bets are it is a fantasy but some people can't seem to bring that to reality, or maybe they don't really want to. Talk with her more about what she likes that makes her want to cum. Maybe then once she has she could see turning one of her fantasies into real.
Sounds like she needs to experience that first to see what it's all about. She needs to feel the real thing happening.
I had a friend tell me years ago she had never cum. At first I didn't believe her. Then I thought it's too bad she wasn't with a chic who would know how to give her one because chics know what it takes them, I am not gay, (not that there is anything wrong with those who are) so I couldn't see me being the one to do it. Still don't know if she was telling the truth, to me that's like saying you never need pain killer when having a tooth extracted when I think that's impossible because the first time I had sex it happened. Freaked me out at the same time it felt awesome. he promised I would go right into a different place.
I am sure some women might not the first time,,, fear, the unknown, holding back thinking this is wrong, but lemme tell ya,,, my first knew it happened to me, there was no hiding it, still isn't. I couldn't even try to fake what happens to me when I have a real one.

 

That's why you use a condom over the ice dildo and you don't leave it in her for a long time, just pop it in there for a stroke or two and then replace with something warm (like a penis) for a contrast. (again only if she likes that sorta thing too) Glass dildos might be safer and can give the same effect).

But enough about that, if you want to discuss that more just send me a PM.

 

I have put water into a condom & froze it to make it a penis or dome shape for easier insertions into my anus. But I remove the condom from the ice first & then push the ice dildo in my butt. It feels unusual having something freezing in your butt compared to something warm. Can it cause damage thou - the ice in anus & into rectum ?

 

When I was a kid I stuck my tongue on an icicle, just not gonna stick one in me after I thought I was gonna be talking funny for the rest of my life,,,



Besides I hate the cold and cold stuff. I am a suck that way. Peeps tell me my house is too warm for where we live... Yup, it sends them heading for the door in short time. I love people who come,,, and go,,,

 

Hmmmm. a lot here and I appreciate it. I am going to try to communicate more and listen more to see if there a things she says that I can do. For example, she has told me she wants me to tell her to go into the bathroom, sit in the tub, and have me grab my cock w
"with two hands" and pee on her including on her pussy. I did not do this becasue I do not understand it and I guess I was not drunk enough. She has said other things that she would like me to do too, and some I have done. I need to listen to her and do more of what she asks.

 

Doh! I never got that pissing on someone stuff either, just saw it on a sick video a friend sent me as a joke. They both looked totally wasted on something. How can someone pissing on you be fun?
Are you sure she isn't doing drugs behind your back? Or maybe she is on meds and they are running out. Not trying to be mean or nothing but that's weird.
I don't even think I ever need to watch a guy take a piss on a tree, would turn me off I think. If my guy asked me to do it to him I would say not on my sheets or in my tub and that would be the end of it. It's waste product, meant to be disposed of not bathed in. Ikkkk!

 

I understand you. I would say that she has always seemed to have a fascination about my cock. For example, there have been times when out at a lake camping, and I'd have to run into the wood to take a piss and she has asked to either come watch or to stand behind me and hold it while I pee. She seems to have a fascination with cock- or at least I hope just my cock. I am OK with that, I just didnt feel comfortable doing the so called "golden shower" thing.