So Sandy will only orgasm when I'm using my penis. she says my fingers or tongue just don't produce the same power that my penis inside her and body against her clitoris makes. Is this good? can i be doing something better with orally or manually? thanks
If I may, I think that you should be asking this Sandy person the question directly. We're not her, so we can't give you an answer with 100% certainty. But if she masturbates regularly and is able to achieve orgasm in this manner, then she is perfectly capable of reaching climax without your penis. Ask her how she masturbates, observe what she does to pleasure herself, and learn. All the best.
well, we're eachothers first sexual partners. she doesn't masturbate. never has. frankly it surprised me that i couldnt bring her to orgasm with my mouth or hands when i could with my penis.
Hmm, it could be at least partly psychological, especially considering the lack of masturbation in her lifestyle. This is only a speculation but she might be finding the IDEA/CONCEPT of sexual intercourse to be highly arousing and essentially conventional(and comfortable for her), thus she feels at ease about orgasming in that fashion. However, manual and oral stimulation may not be something she necessarily feels comfortable with not in a physical sense but from a mental/emotional standpoint. It may be an idea to suggest she introduce masturbation to her lifestyle to get to know her own sexuality better.
At the other end of the spectrum the masterbation for females when they use toys like vibraters if used to much or too often that can desensitize the vaginal area your fingers tounge and penis do not vibrate and it can get to the point where its only the vibrating that gets her off so if you plan on getting her to try masterbation have her try the good old nuckle shuffle first if she is not at all willing to do that whick some wemon don't like to hav her tell you what feals the best when you are doing that for her have her gide you its really cool what can happen when you give the woman the power
You should buy her a hitachi magic wand a set her up with some private time and a link to literotica. You also might want to look into your own technique - there are some good videos on how to give oral sex
Sounds like she needs clit and g-spot stim together. Use your tounge on her clit and give vigorous g-spot stim with your finger at the same time.
Well that is actually a lot more common for women then some would thing. It is okay though. But she may not have stimulation in the g-spot. She might was to consider getting a g-shot to help her feel it if she'd like.
Just a thought here, is she into it when it's happening? Some guys think being all over the place gets a women off orally, yes in some cases but there is one particular spot that's most sensitive, the little man in the boat. Concentrate on him and she concentrates on what you are doing. Should work if that was the problem. The fingers too. Play with the little man, move around now and then and go back to the Man. I heard some women lose sensation if you play with other bits in there too long, especially when close, because some guys go off to those bits and take too long to return the sensation fades. The hood and around the little man may not have the same sensitivities, try to get him going first, see if she moves to it then move a bit and back again. Many women like the little man played with while a finger or two goes inside as well, if she is pretty new to sex then try the insertion after you establish your technique on her hot spot. Try other things as well. Wouldn't hurt to use the other hand to roam her ass and legs unless it tickles her and is annoying. I like a two handed man. When both hands are busy it gets intense, kinda like how many guys like their penis played with while she fondles his balls and ass area too or, some guys like kisses while a hand job is happening. Some like to play with her tits while a BJ is happening. Also as said above, ask her, maybe she knows what works, don't ask while doing it tho, get some sex talk going on if you both know each other enough.
