She doesn't feel like going out

With all due respect, Vanilla, I think that was a bit uncalled for. I mean you are entitled to your opinion, yes, but to put all women into one single category like you did does not seem like a sensible approach to understanding them to me at all. Everyone is different. Some may like to go out and have fun often, some may like to stay in often. Some, like you said, worry too much about what other people think about them. I've come across people like that, too. But some are for the most part content just being who they are. Making assumptions without taking individuality into consideration may give one an impression that you are being judgmental and insulting.

To the OP - I'm probably going to be repeating what many other posters already said in a lot of parts.... But allow me... I understand you want to spend more time with your friends and at the same time include your girlfriend in the same picture, but sometimes it works out better if you think about your friends and your girlfriend separately. Some days you can all hang out, you, your girlfriend, your friends, everyone. But you're in a relationship, so there should be times where the two of you spend some time alone together, too. And here comes the important part. Save some time for yourself too, and I mean the time you spend all alone, without your friends, without your girlfriend, without ANYONE BUT yourself.

You say you have a life, that's wonderful. But it isn't sensible to equate having a life to going out with a whole bunch of people all the time. Everyone has a life. Every living thing has a life. The phrase is all too often used inaccurately as a form of social status, but "a life" and a "social life" are two different things. You have friends you wish to be with often. I understand it's fun to hang out with friends. But you also say you enjoy spending time with your girlfriend, too. Friends are wonderful, and so is a girlfriend. Treasure both. But one thing you might want to ask yourself is, "is this about LOVE, or WANT?" I say this because, based on your post, your situation is about what YOU WANT. Not necessarily trying to understand what the other two parties in the picture want, but only what YOU want. It's great that you love her to the point where you want to spend every second with her, but remember she's also an individual. She makes her own decision as to when she feels comfortable being around your friends. You can't expect her to want to be around other people all the time. Besides, in my opinion, going out every four days isn't that bad. That's just me, though...

All the best

 

Yeah, I gave up on the OP half way through due to the lack of paragraphs.

As far as I´ve read, the girlfriend sounds perfect for me. "Going out" games is 50% of the reason why I avoid women.

When I feel like going out, I go out. When I don't, I stay home. Can it be that it was all so simple then?