Sharing My Girlfriend - Advice Needed

My point is that he is as much a part of this as you and her. Include him in all of your discussions.

 

Very valid point. He should be included in discussions

 

For us it was the first time she was, with another man. The man was a friend of girlfriend of hers. So she had heard all about him. We meet him at a party, and they ended up having sex that night. The thing is we didn't live close. So her seeing him on a regular basic, wasn't possible. Later we meet him together, and had a mfm threesome.

 

So, up until that point, she'd never had sex with anyone but you in her entire life, right? (Just clarifying.)

 

not to my knowledge. A few other women, to the point where she questioned her sexuality, about only being attractive to women. which was not true.

 

Yours is the biggest fantasy men have at this time. Yet few have a clue as to why. Saying it arouses you is not the reason. It is the symptom. You can research the reasons but 60% of the time it is due to latent bisexuality of the man. He gets to have sex with a man through his wife. Don't laugh. My wife enjoyed watching me have sex with all of her girlfriends until she realized that she is bi. After that we shared her best friend for 30 years.

I watched my wife with another man once. It was not exciting or evoked jealousy. The sex afterwards was great due to what is called sperm competition. See below. I want to warn you as someone who was in a non monogamous marriage, that you are playing with fire. Your girlfriend may do it out of fear of losing you and then wake up the next day regretting it and blaming you. Just watched a show where they had two couples who had a MMF threesome that resulted in the female's pregnancy and in both cases the father was not the husband or boyfriend. They used condoms but condoms are not foolproof and with enough alcohol, things happen.

I lived with a girlfriend for a year. She had sex with me and with a few other guys each week. She did it because she was a former cheerleader who no longer had the muscular lean body that men drooled over. She had to have sex with any guys she met to validate that she was still attractive. What she never realized was that men view all sure things as attractive. One day she asked my three best friends who were visiting, to gangbang her and I told them to go ahead. Afterward she started to have sex with one behind my back and others found out and talked ill of me behind my back. I kicked her to the curb. What started out as sharing turned into the destruction of our relationship. Even after I kicked her out, she asked me to impregnate her because I had good genes; I was good looking, very intelligent and had a good sense of humor. She thought that we would make a good baby. I told her to get lost.

BTW, my wife still regrets having sex with another guy to this day 38 years later. I also regret it but it is one of those things that once let out, cannot be put back into the bottle anymore. Also keep in mind that reality seldom mirrors fantasy. What you find exciting in your mind does not affect your other emotions. You may get jealous after seeing how much more she enjoys sex with another guy. One guy I knew said that his wife forgot all about him and focused on the other man. She let him do things to her that she never let him do. She was moaning and yelling out in ecstasy unlike she ever did with him. The next day he called her a slut and that ended their relationship.

One more true adventure. I was cuckolding a husband for 25 years. After I shared my girlfriend with many men I figured that the other guys had the best part so I dated women whose husbands wanted to share them. I was attractive and sterile which made me popular. No pregnancy fears. One day her husband said that he wanted to watch. After many years or fantasizing about what I did with his wife, he wanted to see it. He freaked out as soon as I started to undress his wife who was passionately kissing and fondling me. He ran out of my house and his wife had to leave to take him home. She came back the next day and we continued from where we left off. She said seeing her with me was not like it was in his fantasy. He got very jealous seeing his wife make love to another man rather than using me as a human dildo like you see in most cuckold porn. Beware.

 

I think letting them have sex alone is a horrible idea. Imagination is much worse than reality. If, as you say, the point is for it to be a shared experience, then you should be there, especially in the beginning. I have experience. I love sharing sex with my woman with select people. Watching her being penetrated and watching her enjoy herself experiencing someone else inside her is an intense turn on. Even watching the other guy experience the rush of sex with my hot woman is also a turn on. From my perspective and experience, she doesn’t feel conflicted or guilty because I am there. The pleasure is an experience that WE SHARED TOGETHER. I don’t have to be jealous of the other guy because I was there and it’s clear that he’s enjoying intimacy with her because I’ve allowed it. I’m telling you, if they have sex without you present, you’re going to have problems. You’ll always wonder what really happened. There will be a separation of sex with you and sex with him. And she’s already hot just thinking of it. She’s going to cum very hard, if he simply shows up. She will feel guilty after she does.

 

Me and my wife are interested in a MMF threesome but there's no way we'd do it with someone we knew... That's just asking for trouble!

 

It all sounds crazy to me. If your girlfriend sleeps with another guy, who's girlfriend is she on the night????. Do you REALLY want a relationship where she casually mentions that she slept with someone the previous night and forgot to send you a text first.
Jane and I have a wide group of friends who we both spend time with. It is sexual activity that draws the line and has kept us as a couple for the last 40 years.

 

Thank you for posting this. I’ve dated the same woman for 3yrs now and almost from the very beginning I’ve had this intense desire to share her. She’s got a gorgeous body but you’d never know as she’s very discrete and casual in her dress. I love the idea of a guy that would do everything with her, but it would probably have to be slow to start. We’ve been out before and I like her to dress in a way to attract attention. She was a college athlete and she has a body that still gets me going after all this time and I’ve felt horrible about myself because of my thoughts so it’s so great to hear someone else has been through it too. Idk if she’d ever go for it, but I definitely fantasize about it a lot.

 

Okay

 

I can only tell you what i feel what's right or wrong....it's up to the individual... I love sharing my wife it turns me on big time! Yes my wife has falling in love with a few guys she has been with (they were better lovers then me she says" but she always comes back to me "why" because she loves me more is her answer!................Maybe it's because were a older couple!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I’m not sure she’s going to totally go for it but I think it’s something I can ease her into and once she does, particularly if it’s the right person I think she’ll be fine but yes I worry about her getting emotionally attached and him not understanding the boundaries.

 

That's the chance you take when you share your wife......................!

 

Let's talk in private and I can tell you more about sharing one's wife......?