Sexual function as we age...

Aye Papa we're getting old...and all have different health n vulnerabilitiesi...I mastabate very little generally, tho being in my sexual desert island home a bit more now. But like you not always getting hard enough when I'm on my own....no problem at all if another cock is in the vicinity... haha.....and I produce very little cum now, and more thin n watery.

But then last night I was hard (w/o porn) and came ...and then again in the morning ...whereas other times go days or even more than a week

On the other hand I'm really a pure bottom sub nowadays, and very happy with it, even tho I was vers top most of my life, esp. being bisexual n fucking women

I've come to the conclusion that we have to adjust our sex lives as our abilities decline ..so long as we are getting and giving pleasure and climaxing from time to time....then..... .for me I love the journey to an orgasm more than the orgasm!

I'm 71 btw

As to supplements...I occasionally use ciallis if I know I'm going to have a night session, or a few guys, but find I don't really need it ..after all if the activity is good then I'm hyped and no need .. it's as LL in the brain after all. I'm just always wary of taking any kind of supplements.

Main thing imho is not to stress and accept that u are not a 20/30 stud and adjust to what gives u the most pleasure n fun

Simon

 

Might be age...or something else. I'd suggest getting seen by a doctor, just to rule out bad news.

 

It’s likely age Papa, I’m 63 and have similar experiences. It can take a long time to cum. I suppose if I was rock hard it wouldn’t be as big of a problem. But most of the time I’m not fully hard. I don’t know if it’s anxiety with being with a guy and wanting to perform or what. It seems if I’m by my self I’ll get rock hard and stay that way as long as I need to.

 

When I was younger I could fuck for well over an hour and not cum, now I can only go for a few minutes, if I don’t cum within about five minutes I lose my erection. I need viagra as well, what I really like about viagra is the next morning I get really hard and can actually have longer and better sex the next morning. But we do age and can’t perform as well as when we were in our teens or twenties

 

A lot of older men take longer to cum, but I enjoy that, as I enjoy sucking and the longer it lasts the better

 

I guess I'm fortunate that at 65 I still get hard easily and feel I can keep going for a long time. The guys I've had sex with in my age group are always done for the day once they cum where as I want to keep going. I spent a couple of hours with one guy who was younger and pounded me good. As we showered together was surprised to see I was hard again, lol. We played a little longer. Too bad I had to leave to be somewhere...

 

Same here. It comes with the territory I guess. I have to be careful with viagra or sildenfil the generic. If I take more than 40mg it gives me a stomach ache. Other than that it works fairly well. Anyone else have that side effect?

 

At 69 I can still ejaculate without fail, and I ooze heaps of pre come. I can ejaculate before I get a hard-on which is not good. With oral that didn't matter so much. Strangely, I lasted longer and had bigger volume with mutual sucking. We'd keep playing and he'd get a boner again before me. Just sucking so it wasn't such a big deal. The older guy who started me off with oral had prostate problems so came into his bladder. I don't know how the plumbing works in that instance.

 

Sometimes Cialis gives me a headache, but I take it daily. Wondering if I could take more when I know I'm going to be having sex?

 

I love precum. Love it when a guy makes alot of it.
I knew an older guy who had had prostate surgery. He leaked a little urine when he was being sucked. Not a lot, just a few drops. It didn't bother me.

 

I been prone to get headaches since I take Cialis.

 

Cialis gives me a stuffy nose. Sudafed can help with that but it also counteracts your erection (if you have an erection too long, sudafed is what you take to try to get it down as a first step).

I'm on daily 5mg of cialis hoping to improve my circulation down there. My dr says if I want to, I can take 20mg (four pills) one morning as long as I skip the next three regular low dose doses. You should not be taking 20mg every day tho, he said.

 

I'm 60 and have also been taking, in my eyes, too long to cum in the last 5 years, with partners and definitely in masturbation. I would far prefer a 2 hour masturbation session than wasting many more hours of precious sleep time trying to get myself off. I don't know if that's because I learned to edge myself in masturbation for countless hours a few years ago, staying at that blissful edge, forcing myself not to cum, and now I'm paying for it (I did that multiple times a week for a minimum of 8 hours each time, often 12 hours, up to a record of 36 hours nonstop), all in the throes of major gay fantasies, porn watching, and writing. But more likely it's age related. But I haven't had enough male sexual partners in the last 9 years of personal hookups (compared to the 21 prior years of anonymous oral sex in bathhouses etc.) to really come to a definitive conclusion, but it certainly has been an issue with some guys, about disappointing them with my inability to cum sometimes, at least within the time period they expected.

During the last year of my very rocky 3-year relationship with a woman that ended just before the pandemic hit, we often had to give up getting me to orgasm, even though I got her to multiple orgasms every time we had 2-3 hour sex (multiple times a week). By the end, the only way I could cum with her was to imagine I was having sex with a guy while fucking her.

I also experienced some ED problems once or twice with a guy when I was trying to get hard enough to insert my cock into his ass, even though I was hard throughout foreplay. Some of that was fumbling with condoms, but a lot of it is where I get into my head, thinking there's going to be a problem, and then my mind creates a problem! But again, I really can't come to any conclusions about a pattern without a larger sample size, i.e. more hookups.

But the difficulties of navigating the hookup site and app scene in my neck of the woods is so tiresome that I'm now looking for something more meaningful with a single partner, which is why I'm getting together with a large gay social group at least once a week. I am ready to fuck my brains out every week with one guy. Then I'll be able to report back on my ejaculation and erectile issues more definitively.

But I feel for you, Papa, and truly hope that you are able to get out of your head and be at peace with whatever happens, and that your partners are 100% satisfied no matter what, as you are.

 

I'm the opposite. I come too quickly and I am trying to learn control by edging. All too often it's a mess of pre come and I come in a very short time. When I was happily sucking with a friend I lasted a lot longer. Perhaps mine is anxiety driven. I have zero sex now.

 

I did get pre-come when sucking a few times, but never took a load. At my old friends place with another guy, when I tasted pre come I let the old guy take over and suck the load out of him. I remember I was a nervous newbie at 50, seeing how much this guy's cock throbbed and how much he shot into the old guy's mouth made me hesitant to be on the recieving end.

 

You are fortunate. I’m 54 and I don’t get fully stiff rock hard boners anymore. I can still get sufficiently erect to have intercourse with my wife but I don’t last long.