I just want to know how many men out there function this way: Your not like the stereotypical man who can FUCK every hour of the day, even after orgasm. You blow your load, go limp and then dont really have the slightest desire for sex for at least another 48 hours. And even after the 48 hours your still very low in libido and drive, and erections are difficult to maintain. At some point, maybe like day 3 after your last orgasm you can get pretty hard, and your physically capable of giving your partner some hardcore sex, but you yourself really aren't getting your own rocks off on it. Your basically just pleasuring your partner because they want it, but your still waiting for yourself to "peak". And my peak could take anywhere between 5 to 7 days. Im a physically fit man, nearly 30, great muscle tone and BMI no health problems, no signs of low testosterone(other than my slow peaks maybe???), and I always have plenty of energy and im pretty much always able to physically exert myself and have fairly decent strength for a guy my size. Is this a bad sign at all? Ive always thought that most guys can just fuck and fuck and fuck continually without any drop in sex drive even after cumming. I was told by my S.O. that im the only guy shes been with who loses it all after cumming(I work around this by holding off my orgasm). And it feels bad when im having sexual advances made and I think "not now..." Because I just feel like im supposed to be able to do it 24/7 without any problems.
say what? well, not continually. but it doesn't take hours to start wanting it again. it depends on the guy and on his age too. i'm 30 and i feel desire again in 20-60 minutes after sex. but there've also been times when it's been just few minutes after having already cum, depends on how turned on i am. anyway, what you describe above hasn't ever been the case for me. 48 hours without wanting sex? i haven't measured it, but the longest has been like half a day, a day maybe. and it's rare, it only happens when some major psychological/emotional stressor is present. i don't know if this is medical in your case or not. how old are you and has it been this way your whole life? extra testosterone gets converted to estrogen in the body, by the way. you might not be low on testosterone, but your estrogen levels might be too high. if you're worried about it go consult a doctor.
Im 26 I dont know if I got estrogen or hormonal troubles. Cuz I dont have tender breasts or any feminizing symptoms. My body is lean and tone like a guy's bod should be. And like I said im always full of energy physically. Im really really hairy compared to most men and im told I got this really masculine jaw line and all that women love. I just woke up today and my lover wanted sex, so I banged the hell out of her without cumming. Was able to get pretty hard in spite of the fact I didnt really have true motivation to have sex with her. She turned down oral from me though =( so I hope it was all good. But its going to be about a week before I really truly want to fuck her hard and cum. Though today I couldnt cum, even masturbating wouldn't really do it and I didnt want to work real hard on it. I actually wanted it last night and I came so this is about 16 hours later im able to get hard and physically have sex without actual libido. Im not always able to maintain a boner within that short span of time after orgasm. I guess my bod is just weird I dunno.
Maybe because you aren't really attracted to the girl you are with ? Its the opposite with me, i want to bang a lot but the girl i am with doesn't as often. So i have to wait
ok, I always talk about the traditional chinese medicine perspective, and this thread is no exception. From the tcm perspective, you lose a lot of energy when you ejaculate. When your libido is strong, that's generally a sign that you've built up enough energy that it's (at least relatively) ok to ejaculate. Low libido is a sign that it's bad for you to ejaculate, and it's better just to wait. If you want to please your gf, you can give her manual or oral sex without losing energy. Keep in mind though that you don't have to make yourself a slave to someone else's desire, or some stupid expectations about sexual behavior that men feel like they have to live up to. From the tcm perspective, it's best not to ejaculate during the winter time (the classical texts say that it is 100 times worse than any other time of the year).
I find that if i shoot my load quickly i cant get up for a few days however if i delay shooting i can go for ages and day after day for possibly a week. So my moral is prevent shooting it quickly pull out and relax then go again oing this i can stay a lot longer than normal maybe 2hrs rather than a few minutes:sunny:
I can hold off shooting my load pretty well. But I have to let it out at some point, I can't just get off her back, and go to sleep without shooting or ill have issues where I feel like I just got kicked in the nuts, and like I have to take a shit, but cant shit. Blue balls they call it. Im considering getting a pump and a ring, cuz sometimes I get the opposite problem mentioned in the OP, ill be soft, but aroused.
My cycle is about 4 days, and i love the build up! In many ways even better than my teenage cycle of about 8 hours, it was too frantic and disruptive in those days.
Three thoughts: I am thrilled that TCM is being discussed rationally. So thank you for that influence. Two, you said If you want to please your gf, you can give her manual or oral sex without losing energy. Keep in mind though that you don't have to make yourself a slave to someone else's desire, or some stupid expectations about sexual behavior that men feel like they have to live up to. I'd add, based on my take of the TCM I've studied, or your own desire.
Just remember that everyone's libido is different so not everyone can fuck all the time. I know my sexual limitations and recognise that as the way I am. I don't think it's a big deal really because you shouldn't be having sex all the time anyway, there are other things you could be doing instead. Too much sex isn't good for you just like everything else in life, you need to strike a healthy balance between what's good for you and what isn't. With me after 48 hours I'm good to go any less and I'm not interested.
Oh, please, do not mention the word "testosterone' at me! - I began to lose my hair in my early 30-s. Actually I'm ready to sacrifice part of my sexual drive only to return my vertex hair! :afro: You see, I'm always wearing a hat :bandana:
If your sex drive is low and it is hard to maintain an erection of course it is not good at all. These symptoms are similar to the first signs of erectile dysfunction. You have to treat them ot prevent by the natural remedies.
