Just putting it out here, feel free to comment. I was married for 10 years, now separated but living in the same house due to financial pressures. My wife said she wanted a divorce as grown apart, when she then looked into it found she could not live on her own financially at the moment, so i told her that for 2 times a week if she had sex with me she can carry on living at our house, use the downstairs area has her own with the patio door being her entrance and i use upstairs. She aggreged and this has been now for six month our arrangement, which we put into writing, but now she is getting very reluctant to have sex, am i wrong to insist force it?4 times now she came up stairs and just said are you ready for your payment if so lets get it over with, went to the bedroom dropped her leggings or lifted her skirt and just said, stick it in i have not got all day!
Your getting what you ask for in the agreement. She doesn’t have to be all smiles about it. Unfortunately, many couples are in the same financial situation. She must feel like a prostitute. Obviously, she wants to move on with her life. Personally, I wouldn’t want to have sex with someone who didn’t want to have sex with me. Your not getting a meaningful experience and neither is she. This is a self sintered agreement on your part. Just my honest opinion.
I find the situation unbelievable as nothing ever works out in the bedroom when you are both so set about the separation and Panama Jack is correct in liking the situation to making your wife a prostitute, in her own house, what a terrible partner you must have been!
The contract is the contract, but try to infuse some sort of an actual bond with each other so that it doesn't have to be completely transactional. However, if you're going to build that bond, you may as well just work on the relationship. Unless you both can find some kink in the arrangement, there's probably not much of a chance of you getting what you asked for, to the letter.
Be factual when you criticize please, it is our house, not her house, I own the largest share and she does not pay any cash our utility bills at the moment, so i think i am rather fair. It is no different from other men using other prostitutes, so why not? I could charge her rent then use the money on a prostitute, which would leave my ex in a bad situation financially. So it is a win for her.
A few years back, an ex was in town for a couple weeks. She hit me up. We chatted about this and that. The fact that i'm married and she was as well. Then she said that she'd just get to the point. She would only be in town for a couple weeks and wanted to know if I wanted to hookup a few times while she was in town. So I said fuck it and met up with her.
The grass is not greener on the other side and you do not know how good you have it until it is gone. I know many people who think they have a miserable life and once it is taken away from you, they regret it. Regret is very difficult to live with. To avoid regret, do the right thing or try to. I am a hypocrite and it is easier said than done. I have four kids and a girtlfrined. Not yet married and maybe never will be. But the thing that I feel proud about is I have not slept with anyone since we were committed. Very tempted. Did I think about them? Absolutely. But we did not hold hands, bj, or screw. So many peiople I know cheat and get caught and are more miserable than ever.
Good advice for those who must always be looking on the horizon and the sun is setting at their feet. One simple rule I try to live by. Don't do the crime and you don't have to worry about doing the time. Makes life a lot easier.
Before she got remarried? I would have gone back for some, if given the chance. After she remarried, and meeting the "FNG" I wouldn't stick my dick in her ever again.
I know at least one or two couples who have that exact same arrangement where they divorced and since the wife didn't have the resources to move out on her own they made an agreement that she may stay in the house as a roommate and occupy the upper level while her ex has the lower level. Their three kids still have both parents under their roof and when the ex husband gets a little needy for some good ole pussy he just goes upstairs and she lets him revisit her pussy and she says she doesn't hate it. Weird.
