Sex Survey 2.0

Wonderful answers! ;-)

 

How old are you? 47

Sexual Orientation? Straight

Where did you lose your virginity? College dorm room

How often do you have sex? Once a month

How many sexual partners have you had? 12

What positions do you like? Girl on top, finish in doggy

Do you believe in friends w/ benefits? Yes

Have you had a one night stand? No

Where is the craziest place you have had sex? Women’s restroom of a education office building

Have you had sex in a car ? No

Do you like oral sex? Yes

Giving or Receiving? Receiving

Have you had oral in public? And where? No

Are you an exhibitionist or a voyeur? Little of both

How often do you masturbate? Once a week, sometimes more

Do you like Porn? What Kind? Yes. CFNM is a favorite

Have you made your own porn? Yes

Do you like sex with the lights on or off? On

What is the biggest age difference between you an a partner? I was 9 years older

Have you had anal? Do you like it? No

How often do you have anal? N/a

When was the last time you had anal? N/a

What positions do you like for anal? N/a

How many anal partners have you had? N/a

Have you ever had anal in public? N/a

What sex toys do you own if any? No

Have you ever been in an FFM threesome? No

Have you ever been in an MMF threesome? No but I was asked to be

What is your record number of times in a day for sex? 5

Do you believe in open relationships? No

Do you and your partner swing? No

Have you ever cheated on a significant other? Yes

Have you ever had an orgasm? All the time

Multiple Orgasms? Sure

Does Size Matter? Wish I were bigger

What are your turn ons? Big breasts, cute face

Turn Offs? Bad smell

What is something you would never do? Anal

What is something like, but never thought you would? Giving oral

Have you ever had sex with a co-worker? Yes

Have you ever been caught having sex? By who? No

Have you had sex with someone you met online? Yes

Do you role play sexual situations? No

Do you prefer to be naked during sex? Yes

Do you believe people were meant to have sex with just one person? No

Does religion factor into your sex life? No

What is an unfulfilled fantasy of yours? FFM threesome

Do you like Romance ? Sure

Do you Romance your Partner ? Try to

And lastly, on a scale of 1-10, how important is sex? 7

 

Yeah…I know I’m boring….

 

How old are you? 63

Sexual Orientation? Mostly gay now

Where did you lose your virginity? With a girl, finally at 27, in her apartment. Girls and women just kept rejecting me, time after time. She became my girlfriend for three years, and when she broke up with me, the gay desires started. With a guy, I lost my gay virginity, as a top, at 51 in a gay bathhouse in Berlin when I was visiting. By then I had already sucked hundreds of cocks anonymously in all kinds of different gay sex venues, but finally fucking another guy--having actual intercourse with another man--was the greatest sexual experience of my life. From that point on I stopped all anonymous sex with guys in these gay sex venues, and instead just started hooking up with local guys in each other's homes, and it was wonderful.

How often do you have sex? Since breaking up with girlfriend #2 of three years as well just before Covid hit, and going back to sex with guys, it's trickled down to on average just a couple times a year, especially after gaining weight during Covid and being unable to lose it since and feeling self-conscious. Honestly, I want it every day, or at the very least once a week. I masturbate multiple times a week, but it pales in comparison to being with another guy.

How many sexual partners have you had? Three women (the third was a prostitute once), hundreds of men for oral sex, but only about 10 guys for anal play.

What positions do you like? I prefer missionary or my partner on top so there can be lots of passionate kissing, but I also enjoy changing positions during our long time lovemaking.

Do you believe in friends w/ benefits? With a girl: Near the end of our insane rollercoaster 3-year relationship, my last girlfriend wanted to just be friends with benefits so that she could fuck other guys, even though I wasn't fucking other women or men, and I hated it. It just wasn't the same as when we were in love, or least I was in love. During that period of four months in the end as just friends with benefits, I could only orgasm while fucking her by imagining I was fucking another guy. When I finally broke up with her I realized that I was actually a gay man, and finally felt so free and so excited to begin living fully gay life. But then Covid hit. With a guy: Now all I wish is to have one or more special gay friends with benefits, because I'm tired of all the effort needed in hooking up with guys using gay dating sites and apps, and I'm no longer a fan of the different anonymous gay sex venues like bathhouses. I'm certainly open to love and having a boyfriend too, but I think I would prefer several friends with benefits.

Have you had a one night stand? With a girl: Never--unless you count being with a prostitute once in a brothel. With a guy: Having oral sex with hundreds of guys over the last 30 years in different gay sex videos like bathhouses could, I suppose, be called one night stands, but only sort of. Most of my actual hookups with guys since stopping that in 2014 were one night stands, but it's less than 20 guys. But there have been multiple get-together's with a few guys. But I've yet to date with another man long term.

Where is the craziest place you have had sex? With a girl: One girl in a brothel. With a guy: It's hard to pick the craziest place because there's been so many bathhouses, gay sex clubs, straight porn theaters, gay porn theaters, video store arcade booths with gloryholes, back rooms of gay bars and nightclubs, back patios of gay bars, in a guy's backyard hottub, this past summer in a large clearing in the woods at a co-ed naturist camp I visited with a bunch of gay friends, and the latest in a threesome with a gay couple on a large coffee table on their backyard patio. And years ago I participated in a huge monthly gay orgy, with 30-50 guys every time, in a very large hotel suite in Toronto.

Have you had sex in a car? No, unless you count hours of jerking off while driving solo on long trips, once while a guy in an 18 wheeler watched.

Do you like oral sex? With a girl: (Giving With my first girlfriend, yes, even though she hated it (she found all oral sex yucky, and wasn't a fan of fucking either); with my second girlfriend very much so, both cunnilingus and rimming her asshole. (Receiving Of course, always. With a guy: Giving and receiving very very much so, absolutely love deepthroat cocksucking, both giving and receiving, and both of us swallowing cum.

Giving or Receiving? See above.

Have you had oral in public? And where? I've had lots of oral with guys in straight porn theaters, either in the seats or aisles, including when MF couples were there. That's probably the most public, exhibitionist sex I've done.

Are you an exhibitionist or a voyeur? Both, though more an exhibitionist. I love guys watching me suck and fuck other guys.

How often do you masturbate? A few times a week, though to orgasm only once or twice a week. It takes me a long time to cum, so I often run out of time, though it's always hard to stop.

Do you like Porn? What Kind? I am a gay porn addict. It was really bad years ago, when I would be masturbating to gay porn for minimal 8 hours a day, almost every day, often 12 hours straight, a couple times 24 hours straight, and once 36 hours straight, edging my cock to gay porn, posting gay porn, and reading and writing about gay experiences and fantasies, all nonstop. It's less these last 4 years because I've gone back to work. Once in a while I still enjoy lesbian porn because I still find women attractive, but especially love everything about homosexuality. Same sex love is just beautiful. I hate--and have hated for the last 33 years--straight porn, ever since my gay desires surfaced. I enjoyed straight sex with my girlfriend #2 for three years since then, but hate seeing it in porn.

Have you made your own porn? Not yet, though I'd love to get some footage of oral and anal sex with guys, and edit it into some private videos.

Do you like sex with the lights on or off? On, though both girlfriends and most guys seem to want them off. I'm a very visual guy, and love to see everything about the person I'm making love with, oral or intercourse.

What is the biggest age difference between you and a partner? I lost my gay virginity, as a top, with a young 20 year old twink man when I was 51. That was the greatest sexual experience of my life, and changed everything for me. I was finally really in touch with the gay side of myself, and loved and was so proud of it. I've been with young guys in their 20s and 30s since, as well as countless guys in their 40s, 50s and 60s too.

Have you had anal? Do you like it? With a girl: I really loved rimming, fucking and breeding bareback my girlfriend #2's ass. She didn't want to be on the pill, so insisted on vaginal intercourse only with a condom. So it was my very first experience of ever fucking without a condom when she started wanting it anally. I loved that more than I can say, I suppose particularly because of my powerful gay side and how much I adore the male asshole. She also loved to peg my ass with her strap-on dildo, loving the powerful feeling it gave her. But when she was fucking my ass, all I could think of was how I wished it was another man fucking me. With a guy: I absolutely adore with every cell in my body rimming and fucking guys. A couple years ago I went on PrEP for the sole purpose of finally being able to fuck guys bareback like I did with my girlfriend, and to breed their ass with my cum seed essence, but I've yet to do so. I've come pretty close a couple of times, but had erectile issues because of my meds. Dammit! And I've also changed my online profiles to say that I'm also looking to finally lose my gay virginity as a bottom: I can't wait to have another man fuck and breed my ass.

How often do you have anal? Rarely compared to how much I want to, which is every week. I know I was just born to fuck and be fucked by guys. I stopped hooking up with bisexual guys because the vast majority of them just want to do oral. I prefer gay men anyway, because I love everything about another man's body, including passionately kissing him, and I want him to feel the same about me, and I want that close connection with another man through intercourse. But even not all gay men want to do anal. I spent the night at my place with this one gay guy who was a "side": they don't do anal, giving or receiving. The worst of it is that I'm the problem for me not getting all the anal I want and need. It was as I said above, I gained weight (30 pounds) during Covid which I haven't been able to shake, and so I have been feeling self-conscious and not getting myself out there enough. That's got to stop, because I'm definitely wasting my PrEp pills, and wasting my cum seed essence, which has always been produced in me to breed with other men anally.

When was the last time you had anal? I tried fucking my close gay friend's ass this past July 1 while his husband (my best gay friend) was fucking his throat, but I couldn't get hard enough to penetrate his hole. I've been having some ED issues because of my meds. My psychiatrist tells me I should get on Cialis daily, but I haven't contacted my family doctor yet. So all I was able to do was rub my semi-hard cock all over the opening of his asshole. I felt like such a loser. So his husband and I switched places, like we did a bunch of times, though I never got hard, so there was no fucking his throat, and I couldn't cum. But I did manage to give him and his husband a simultaneous orgasm, his husband deep in his ass, and me sucking and jerking off his spouse's cock.

What positions do you like for anal? With my girlfriend, it was doggy. With the guys so far, it's been doggy. But I think my favorite, if I can fix this erectile disfunction problem, would be fucking another guy (or having him fuck me), in missionary position so that we can passionately kiss, look into each other's eyes and hold each other tightly while having making love.

How many anal partners have you had? One girl and 4 guys.

Have you ever had anal in public? Not yet, but I would love to fuck a guy in public.

What sex toys do you own if any? I own and have owned many dildos of various sizes and shapes, and one vibrator. I've used them all over the last 33 years to suck and to fuck my ass, all the while imagining they're real cocks and attached to real men I'm having sex with. My favourite is this 8 inch very realistically looking rubber cock with a suction cup that I attached to my closed bedroom door to fuck myself with. It's the best because I don't have to use a hand to hold it, and it fills me beautifully, just like a real man is going to one day.

Have you ever been in an FFM threesome? The closest I've ever come was with two exotic dancers at a strip joint 20 years ago, who were doing a lesbian show on stage, and then I got them for a lap dance, but over multiple songs the entire time they were just focussed on each other, passionately licking each other's breasts, pussies and mouths, while standing over me or sitting and laying on me. I thought it would be hotter to see that in real life and so close up (I've always loved lesbian porn), but I would've loved a little bit more attention on myself too. I have for many decades fantasized about two bisexual women having sex with me (I've never been interested in FMF--two women just focussed on me: I just love lesbians too much). But since breaking up with my last girlfriend 6 years ago and identifying as homosexual, I've had at first no and now still little desire to have sex with another woman again.

Have you ever been in an MMF threesome? No, and I have absolutely no desire to ever be in one, and have never had such a desire. In fact, I've always hated bisexual MMF porn. It always confused me, because even though I was identifying as bisexual, at the time I would either be in complete straight mode, only interested in a woman, or or incomplete gay mode, only interested in a man. So MMF porn would just confuse me, and seeing the guys' cocks would just immediately switch me into gay mode, and I would have to turn to watching gay porn. And as for straight MFM, I have zero interest, and I've never had any interest (see above).

What is your record number of times in a day for sex? For oral sex, probably 10 guys in a single day, but that was always anonymously in bathhouses or large gay orgies. For anal it's always only been once in a day. And with girls it was always been just once in a day. That doesn't mean I don't fantasize about having a boyfriend I live with and having anal sex together more than once in a day--something that I can see happening and very welcome.

Do you believe in open relationships? This is a huge one, but not really. In the last four months of our 3 year relationship, my last girlfriend wanted a friends with benefits relationship, but I hated it (see above). But at that point I guess we were no longer girlfriend-boyfriend, so it wasn't a love relationship. And regarding my gay world, even though open relationships are very common in romantic gay relationships, I don't think they are healthy or moral. A close female friend of mine is a therapist in a college and in her private practice, and she sees a lot of people of all ages in open relationships, both straight and gay, and when the one person from each relationship sees her and opens up, every single last one of them admits that there is a lot of heartache the open aspect of the relationship brings. There's a lot of jealousy, even when the couple openly declares how well their open relationship works. Deep down it's always bullshit. Even in some of my closest gay friends who are in open relationships, they admit to me that one or the other feels more jealousy, and it's not necessarily ideal. But in the gay community it is so prevalent, maybe because guys are so sexual, and since both parties in gay sex are men, it's always a wild time in the gay community. But I think the different religions all speak about monogamy being the only kind of relationship to have, and any kind of sexual relationship one or both partners have outside that relationship causes suffering, so they call it "a sin". For example, in my own Buddhist faith, which I've been practising for over 30 years, it's considered sexual misconduct to have sex with someone who's in a relationship or with anyone else if you are in a relationship, and therefore, according to the laws of karma, or cause-and-effect, causes negative karma to be planted in your mind: that negative karmic seed potential planted in your mind will ripen as future suffering for yourself in a future life, or later in this life. But Buddha, 2600 years ago when he brought these teachings and practical advice to our world, was only giving us advice to avoid those actions that cause our suffering, and so out of his great compassion, advised us not to do them. Never having been in a committed relationship with another man, I don't really know what it's going to be like. Even though I've developed romantic crushes on a couple different guys (unrequited), and am open to being in love with a guy and even becoming boyfriends or husbands, I think maybe having multiple friends with benefits might be a better way to go for me.

Do you and your partner swing? n/a

Have you ever cheated on a significant other? No. The worst I've done, while in a relationship with my last girlfriend, is look at and repost gay porn on the Internet in my Tumblr and maybe chat with other bisexual guys online. But I only did that when we were on a break, because she broke up with me time and time again, and then came begging for me to come back. Every failure I've ever had with a woman, starting with my first girlfriend who broke up with me when I was 30, and with the 30 or so women that I've had first or second dates with and then they didn't want anymore, I always turned to gay porn to help my grief perhaps, but probably mostly because those failures gave me the excuse to allow the gay side of myself to come up out of the depths and be. But I never even felt gay feelings, let alone went online, whenever my girlfriend and I were back together again from our breaks: I was just focussed on her, and her many needs. But during our many breaks, she would always be fucking other guys. Even in the last four months of our relationship, when she just wanted to be friends with benefits so that she could date other guys, I didn't see other guys myself, but just did online stuff.

Have you ever had an orgasm? Dah!

Multiple Orgasms? Yes, a few times with other guys.

Does Size Matter? For me, yes. I definitely prefer guys with above average size cocks, 7-9 inches. They look when erect absolutely magnificent, and they feel amazing down my throat. 5 or 6 is ok, but only if they're very passionate in their lovemaking, even if it's just oral. I've yet to bottom for another guy, but I think my preference would be 6-8", as have been the length of the dildos I have fucked my ass with.

What are your turn ons? Men, men, and men. I just love guys, hanging out socially with my gay friends, or having sex with guys. Even though I absolutely love and have had a lot of sex with guys of all ages, including a little older than me, both masculine and feminine guys, moderately hairy and smooth, my biggest turn-on is still young smooth twinks, with their absolutely perfect tiny asses, and slim young bodies and cute faces--like the 20 year old boy that I lost my gay virginity with, as a top, in 2013, the greatest night of my life. I'm very turned on of course with cock, but I am also absolutely insanely in lust with the male asshole, my biggest turn on by far. Other turn-ons include intelligence, passion, compassion, wit, humor, and adventure; and female breasts, beautiful female faces, and tiny boy-like female asses (with no hips). And a super turn-on in general is just everything homosexual, with guys or girls.

Turn Offs? Pussies (especially any kind of external vulva), selfishness, inconsideration, stupidity, scat, bad hygiene, extreme overweight, and guys who are too hairy.

What is something you would never do? I purposely never hurt anyone (try my best not to).

What is something like, but never thought you would? I have yet to do golden showers with a guy, but I think I might be open to it, because I've done it a bit with myself during masturbation. I would start masturbation with already a full bladder (the first time by accident), be looking at a lot of gay porn, reposting gay pictures and porn and writing about it, and reading and writing gay stuff in forums like this, edging my cock for a long time. One time as I was doing that, a few hours into the masturbation session, I would go a tiny bit over the edge, and I would squirt, just like a girl squirts. This clear liquid would come squirting out of my cock, and it would feel orgasmic, an incredibly pleasurable feeling. I'm thinking it's coming from my bladder, but clear and diluted of the "golden" colour because my bladder was so overfull. I have the same idea about girls that are squirting, contrary to what the porn community claims. And I would be edging my cock for another half an hour, and it would happen again. And this would continue, with even bigger squirts that would shoot further away from my body onto the bedsheet, always feeling extraordinarily pleasurable. And I have repeated this kind of masturbation session a few times now. And I am thinking that I would love to play with another guy in the same way, both of us edging our cocks in this way. This is not far off I suppose from a golden shower, but I think I'd like to do it this way, where we would eventually hit the bathtub/shower, and continue the edging, until finally we just let loose with emptying our bladders all over each other. I never thought that I would ever want to do golden showers with anyone (yuk), but whatever has been happening when I've done it with myself and enjoyed so much, now I'm wondering about doing it with another guy.

Have you ever had sex with a co-worker? No

Have you ever been caught having sex? By who? No

Have you had sex with someone you met online? 15-20 times, guys of course, through gay online hookup sites like squirt.org.

Do you role play sexual situations? Not yet.

Do you prefer to be naked during sex? Always, always, always. This is my preference by far. I just absolutely love nudity, nakedness. And I'm in naturist at heart, having enjoyed practising naturism a number of times throughout my life at naturist/nude beaches, wooded areas, and resorts. And I love everything about a man's body, and want to enjoy it fully, skin to skin.

Do you believe people were meant to have sex with just one person? In the end, despite the moral issues I discussed already, I don't believe monogamy works, especially in our modern society. I believe we should do away with marriage entirely, and go back to the village raising a child paradigm. First, in heterosexual relationships, men and women are sexually very incompatible, with, usually, the male sex drive being 10 or more times greater than a woman's, causing a lot of problems in the relationship. And then menopause almost totally destroys any sex drive for most women, leaving husbands in a terrible state. And, similarly, in homosexual relationships, in general, one man is rarely enough for either of the guys. Men just like lots of sex and lots of variety. It's how we're wired.

Does religion factor into your sex life? It didn't used to factor into my sex life. First, as I've already discussed above in the open relationship question, my Buddhist faith specifying that it's sexual misconduct to have sex with someone who's in a relationship or with anyone else if you are in a relationship, has never yet come up in my life (until this past summer when I had threesome sex with a gay married couple in a open relationship) because I've never been in a relationship with another man (and the two relationships I've been in with women I never even wanted to stray). However, last spring I heard for the first time in 30 years that homosexual activity is also considered sexual misconduct (and since I'm doing that a lot, I kind of thought, fuck it, I might as well break the other sexual misconduct action of having sex with someone in a relationship). I've only once ran across this homosexuality thing when I was studying one of our principle Buddhist texts in a very advanced teacher training course 30 years ago specifying this. The text was written by the founder of our modern Buddhist tradition here in the west, who was a Tibetan monk, and the course was being taught at our mother centre in another country from mine by one of our founder's principal disciples. It was very early on in my gay explorations, so it really freaked me out because I was really looking forward to doing a lot more exploring having sex with guys. In fact, I felt like I just had to. So I sought out a fellow classmate who was a senior international teacher, and asked him about the distress I was feeling about my going to female strip joints and having dancers do lap dances for me, and how maybe it was sexual misconduct. But he saw through my ruse, and said that actually our founder's assistant had snuck in that homosexual line into this edition of the text, and a new edition was already being prepared with it back out again. Boy, was I relieved. So fast forward 30 years of sucking hundreds of cocks and playing anally with a bunch of guys, and now identifying as a homosexual man, and I have my present teacher, a Western monk in our tradition who actually started out as a fellow classmate of mine in Toronto 28 years ago, giving a teaching on the sexual misconduct section in the same text, once again saying homosexual activity is sexual misconduct, but it's not included in the passage he was quoting because our founder took it out of the text almost 30 years ago because all of us in our modern society now, a society that is quite degenerated, could not accept this line and it would cause lots of problems. But he was saying in reality Buddha did say that homosexual activity creates negative karma, and would lead to future suffering. I can't tell you how much distress this brought on to me again, hearing that. But it was a vow ceremony that we were engaged in, where we promised not to do certain non-virtuous actions--no killing, stealing, lying, sexual misconduct, and taking intoxicants. For a moment I thought that I would just have to stop all my homosexual behavior, and thought that I would be able to with the help of all the Buddhas. So I retook the vows again, like I did 30 years ago and a bunch of times since. It was just a small group of us that were receiving this teaching and taking the vows (mostly because most people, even some senior people, are unable to take the no intoxicants vow at this time, and you have to take all 5 vows at this particular vow ceremony). And so I probably was the only gay/bisexual person there in this group of only 15 people. So I was thinking maybe this teaching was specifically for me and me alone, and the vast majority of our local Buddhist community in this Western tradition would not hear this teaching because it would disturb too many minds. It certainly disturbed my mind! But a few days later I realized there was no way that I can stop having sex with guys, and enjoying social get-togethers with my gay friends, and even enjoying gay porn and writing online, because I'm gay, I'm a gay man, it's who I am. I know the porn is bad, and I really wish I could stop it, maybe someday will. But stop having sex entirely?! And it would be entirely because I'm only interested in having sex with other men. So of course I have broken this vow since, something that deeply troubles me. I'm figuring that that senior teacher 30 years ago made up the story of the assistant slipping in homosexuality into the text to relieve my mind because I wasn't yet able to handle that (senior practitioners are very "intuitive"). I'm thinking that the new edition that was being prepared was just for the first time finally going to remove homosexuality because our founder understood that it was more important to help get these teachings to as many people in the West as possible so that they can begin to tame their otherwise very distracted and unruly minds, than mention one "little" non-virtue like homosexuality. Upon reflection I actually do understand why Buddha identified homosexuality as a non-virtue, and I kind of agree with it: but it only presents as an issue in a very advanced practitioner in the last stages of achieving full enlightenment, but too advanced for me to talk about here. I'm nowhere near that final stage. But I am working towards full enlightenment, that state of mind where you are permanently free from all suffering and can then help every living being get to that same state. But for now I'm going to continue having sex with men.

What is an unfulfilled fantasy of yours? For over 20 years I had this fantasy of being in a long-term relationship with or even married to a bisexual woman, where once or twice a month we would get naked together with another bisexual couple, but only same sex side-by-side sex was allowed. The men would be paired off and the women would be paired off, and no touching between man and woman was allowed, but only hot MM sex and hot FF sex was allowed. What really turned me on, besides having passionate sex with another man once or twice a month, was to think that I would be passionately fucking the husband, and can look over to my female partner in a very passionate lesbian 69 with the wife, and we my partner and I would catch our eyes and smile at the beauty of our beautiful homosexual behavior. Even though I have almost no desire left to ever have sex with a woman again, I still love to fulfil this fantasy of myself and another gay man getting naked together with a couple of lesbian women, with both gay couples making hot same sex love together, side-by-side, rejoicing in each other's homosexuality.

Do you like Romance? I'm definitely a romantic man at heart, and I love having romantic, loving feelings for another person. I adore romantic drama and romantic comedy films, even the vast majority of which I've seen between male and female protagonists. I was in love with the two women I had relationships with. And I felt it in the two romantic crushes I have developed for a couple different guys in the last couple of years, though unrequited. And I just love being romantic with someone, and doing romantic things together, like all the Hollywood films have shown between a man and a woman. But the idea of courtship and romancing someone (and now it would be another guy of course) just sounds like too much work. Sure, it would be great to have a romantic crush on each other, instead of just sexual like it mostly has been, but really let's just have sex and see where things go. At least I would love to grow to really like each other, and be ongoing friends with benefits. If we happen to fall in romantic love with each other, that would be OK too, since I love that state of mind. But I don't think I would want to get married, though that has been my lifelong wish with women, which has left me with deep feelings of failure. But at the same time I realize that it was a good thing I never got married to a woman, because, first of all, it would've been a nightmare just like the two relationships I had with women, but most importantly, because she's just the wrong sex for me. If I had not been driven by the regular societal homophobia that I then internalized, I think it would've been a lot better for me to have been openly gay from high school onwards, fell in love with a guy, and married him and had children with him. But at 63 I'm too old for that shit.

Do you Romance your Partner? If I had a partner, sure I would romance him, and would hope he would romance me. Doing romantic things together it's something that I would enjoy.

And lastly, on a scale of 1-10, how important is sex? 20