Hi, I m 18 and recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend. It was what you d expect, painful and unpleasant on my part, but I felt overall happy with how it went and it was romantic and sweet. But then the next day I tried to have sex again and it was THE MOST PAINFUL I ve ever experienced, I was in tears and shaking from the pain and felt I was going to throw up. So we lay off it for about a week (it helped that I was on my period throughout that week). Then yesterday morning we had sex again and it was painful but like the first time where I could bare it but still very painful but kind of how I expected the second time to be, not the third. But I was overall happy with the progress. Then last night we tried again, and it was JUST like the second time where it was way too painful and I was in so much pain that I couldn t help but cry. I could get the tip in but if he tried to push further it hurt way too much and we used lots of lube. It s like my vagina is tensing way too much up the top so he can t push it in but I don t understand why it s tensing only every second time I have sex? Or if it even is tensing up or it s something else! I m just looking for some advice on if this is normal, with all the stories I hear it shouldn t hurt by the 4th time, and it shouldn t be just hurting every 2nd time?? Please help because I m honestly worried this is how sex is always going to be!
Go to a gynecologist. You need to anyway if you are becoming sexually active. There are several things that can cause pain during intercourse.
My wife had to have a bit of minor surgery because she still remained too tight, even after losing her virginity. The lube was there and no amount of relaxing would alleviate the pain.
I wonder if he's too big for you....if he's ramming it instead of going easy on you . If he's a decent lover, he'll lick it till you orgasm, so that you learn the XTC of sex. I'm available if you need a smaller one. Another first post.....why just get your feet wet when you can take the plunge?
There are several things that can make sex painful for a woman. Off the bat.. 1) Are you overly nervous, or tensed up? This can reduce/prevent the natural lubricants your vagina excretes when you are sexually aroused. Dry sex is painful sex. Also this will tense up the vaginal wall increasing the effect of above. 2) You should get a pelvic exam. There are several possible problems that are easily treatable that can be causing this, overwhelming chances are at your age it is not serious. 3) STOP HAVING SEX until you find out what exactly is causing this. If it is a mild infection it will get worse. Much worse. If it is a small tear, it will get larger and cause a secondary infection. STOP. You will make whatever it is worse until you see a doctor.
