So I finally learned how to control premature ejaculation. I have been doing Kegel exercises and learning how to control arousal and breathing. Yay.. The problem is that now sex is 50% work turning my partner on, 45% boring, numb sex and only about 5% of the sex is actually good to where I can enjoy it. The good part of the intercourse lasts about 10 seconds including the orgasm. I feel frustrated and the appeal of sex has completely gone for me. So basically, eliminating premature ejaculation isn't about enjoy sex longer, its about not enjoy sex longer so you can last longer. This really sucks. Am I doing it wrong? Are men destined to boring 20 - 45 minute sex and only about 10 seconds of pleasure?
You're doing it wrong. Bust a nut, and keep going - premature solved. It'll be boring and you won't be interested for like two minutes - then you'll be fine.
You're obviously going about this all wrong if you fixed your sex-breaking problem with a solution that makes sex terrible for you. Rethink the mental aspect here. Is sex just about the orgasm? Do you care about your partner's pleasure? Why are you bored when you are literally inside your partner bringing them to climax?
Think of a woman as a bundle of nerves from head to toes. Make those nerves sing with pleasure starting with those cute little toes and feet. Take your time brother. By working her up and making her feel loved and cared for mentally and physically--I think that perhaps you won't worry so much about you and your simplistic way of thinking about it. Could be wrong though, if the only time you enjoy sex is when YOU ejaculate-------don't know why you'd even need a woman. Edit: feet and toes are just a BEGINNING. MUCH, MUCH MORE TO DO!
LOL, so basically once it takes you too long to cum and sex is too much work....you have a new found understanding and appreciation for the female half of the population
Thank you Vanilla Gorilla! I began dreading sex because my husband insisted on me cumming and it took so much damned work to get there, it became all about getting there and the added stress made even harder to cum! Viscous cycle!
Its a double edged sword though, maybe there wasnt enough diesel in the tank to begin with. See what I did there, a play on words with your username, Im clever like that
I think you are mentally not present. Or in a restless mode. All I will suggest, just before the start have a shower. If required talk some dirty also.
