STDs!!! oh yes, I forgot to note that too. Oh man, that is a big fear for me. Not only that -- but I HATE condoms. They just feel so sucky, I like it natural. I don't have to worry about pregnancy though because I had my tubes tied...even though I have weird thoughts that I would be 'punished' somehow for having casual sex and have a rare pregnancy or something, I think too much!
I love this topic, 1st when my husband and I have sex we don't fuck, we make love and it's special. When we play with another couple it's fun sex. I love texting my husband friend and tell him I need to be fucked and when he comes over he finds me naked on the couch and we play. My husband and I have lots of sex with this Bi couple and my girlfriend often just fucks my husband.
Right now i do it fir fun with my freinds for the high and thrill i guess soul bonding sex does sound wonderful sex betweentwo people who really love each other like a married couple I am fourty i think i have gave up on that happening
All of my sex has involved commitment, but my wife had several "sex for fun" partners in college. We only got together once or twice a month, so she was free to date others. She made sure they knew it was only a "friends with benefits" arrangement. If they got serious, she dropped them. She enjoyed the sex with friends with no strings attached.
Most of my sex has been for fun. When I was married it was different, but from when I first had sex up until yesterday it is all for fun. I like the no strings attached approach, but then I have slept with a LOT of guys, so attached strings would get tangled quickly.
When we were dating in college, my future wife was free to date others when I wasn't available. She made it clear to all the others that the sex was for fun, not an indication of love or any kind of attachment. When any of the four guys who had sex with her tried to get serious, she dumped them. She saved the "love" sex with me for our wedding night. It's still fun.
It can be both of course! When Phil & I went through our "swinging" phase, sex was just that....SEX. It was fun, it was pleasurable, it was gratifying, but it wasn't love. (well, maybe there was some affection when we were with the other couple we did most of our swinging with). But when it's just me & the old man, then it's pure love. We have fun, but what we are doing is expressing out physical love for each other.
Do you even understand what you mean by that? Your "physical love for each other" You have nothing to compare it to, you havent been together with anyone else over the same length of time and the same time frame
You've lost me there....I can't see what you are getting at! We have been together for nearly 34 years, I think I know the difference between sex & the physical expression of love! When we had "sex" with the other couple the depth of emotion was not present, the depth of pleasure was, but not the "love". Can you elucidate your thought process.
No, not obligation. Sex for fun is for me, sex without strings attached or commitment. I just want to have sex and say goodbye. I'm not into long term anything right now.
First off, can you even define "physical expression of love" what it even means, and in a way everyone else can understand and understand in the same way. The answer is likely no on all counts. Secondly, how on earth would anyone be able to seperate, familiarity, being comfortable with each other, he'll even things like basic biological functions or genetics. ...with love. You were meant to be together can just mean genetically or personality wise you are both a good fit. Even after 34 years unlikely you really understand morning wood. Your libido different at different times of the month, and he by now has synched to that without even realising it. Or even by now how much of it is just muscle memory since you've been together so long. Then there's the objectivity part, can another guy you've just met understand certain things about you better than he ever can, especially with things he has never been objective about. Physical expression of love - what on earth does that mean?
I can't imagine trying to explain it to somebody who hasn't experienced it. If you have to ask the question, that makes you an outsider.
Define "fun". How light hearted does something have to be in order to be fun? Who has sex and smiles happily and laughs throughout? That's normally what I think of when I think of "fun". I don't think anybody really has sex for "fun". It's more like therapy.
Yeah that's a good point neon. I think that sex is meant to be enjoyable, derrh. I also think there's a lot of emphasis regarding sex to be fun too. That's what you read. And that's why certain toys are generated, to bring more fun and more pleasure. But is fun the same as pleasure? A pleasurable orgasm sure feels different than a fun night out, that's for sure. Then there are those that seem to struggle to find pleasure and fun until they can achieve orgasm. Then it's relief. Can something be fun when you need a release from doing it? And if you're specifically searching for that release, does sex become frustrating until that point? Sexual frustrations? I have sex because I enjoy having sex and expressing the sex with my partners. Though I feel deep inside my heart that I'm searching for something very emotional and romantic, when I really think about it. On the outside I'm the bundling sexuality who's ready to get in on for enjoyment and fun and games, but I don't think that's what my heart really feels anymore. I feel like I've outgrown that. I feel like I've outgrown a lot of sexual activity, which is why I find myself with a constant need for exploration and experience. Once something is routine, I don't find it enjoyable. It's like a chore. And yes, with certain people and their set ways, sex does feel like an obligatory chore with some people. When all you want is to break the mould and try something different, but you can't because one person isn't branching right now... Then in those circumstances, no sex is not fun. On the other hand if you're with someone who likes expressing themselves in different ways etc. then sex is fun and exciting. Double edged sword, pending who you're sleeping with. I think. I admit, that these days, I need a lot of foreplay and role play to get me going. I'm all about bedroom role play at the moment. It's fun and exciting, to create or recreate your own desires. To me is the definition of fun. I'm wearing a grin. Sex is good.
