Want everyones opinion. My wife and I have only been with one other partner before us. We are in our early 40s. We have no desire to be swingers but in the past I have asked if she would get an erotic massage while I watched. Not all the way intercourse but limited to hands and maybe mouths. She said she would down for that but there would be limits obviously. We are going out of town in a couple weeks and I have scheduled a massage for her with an upscale male and female provider who specialize in just this. My question is, do I tell her in advance or just take her and surprise her? I am on the fence both ways, pros and cons of each. If you are a wife and your husband did this, which would you prefer? Know or not know and be surprised?
Awesome idea. Talk about it with her again to gauge her interest and if she would do it if the occasion arose. I like the idea of a surprise but you can gauge your next move from her answer and how receptive she is. Careful though if she is one who can change her mind, or say one thing but not really mean it.
Well, I ended up deciding to tell her. She was on board with it but wasn't sure what to expect. She was nervous at first when we got there but didnt take her long to let go and enjoy it. The male and female provider both worked on her st the same time with the massage and then it progressed to more. The man massaged her clit for quite some time and then so did the woman who eventually starting giving her oral. She had never been with a woman before but the woman knew what she was doing and my wife came so hard. It was so hot watching that. The guy also had an awesome technique to make her squirt by fingering here. She squirted twice in 10 minutes. I got to watch it all and take it in. After that my wife and I fucked on the bed while the man and woman provider fucked. It was amazing! Now my wife wants to go back to see just the woman, her switched got flipped and she is all down with some more girl/girl play.
Sounds like a Tantric Massage, my wife gets them about once a month - always comes home satisfied. Had to shop around to find a true Tantric massage person as many say they are but are only in it for the sex we have found out after many tries with various people
Congrats. Never thought my wife would do it but she did. With one guy I was fucking her after the massage and I told here to suck him. She did and let him cum in her mouth and loved that. After a later massage we had a threesome. She loved it. He is gone so we are searching for another person.
Hmm I wish I could find a guy or woman to give my wife sexual pleasure via massage, we live in a very country area that does not provide such sexual and erotic experiences.
It really depends on the venue. We have had massages all over and the mrs. is open to a massage with having someone being very sensual. Both couples and also single. I can tell when we are having a couples massage if she is into the male massage therapist and she will be very receptive so it really depends on the circumstances and if she is hot for who is giving her the massage as she will “coo” as he plays around. Generally if they are open to play they will then move towards her head as he massages her so she can slowly touch him in front and if he is receptive then something can happen as he then will start to move onto the next stage.
Wow, I have given my friends wife massages but did not know this was a thing people haunted for. I totally believe in the sensuality of a massage and would love to get and give one that lead to more fun but I am just not into paying for sexual pleasure. I love to make things happen organically. Even in the lifestyle it is hard to meet couples willing to take it that slow or really be with couples when we both have that much time on our hands.
