Seek and Admire

What qualities do you seek and/or admire in a relationship partner?

Do you posses those same qualities?

Do you also seek and/or admire qualities you lack within yourself?

 

Sense of humor
Fun
Loyal
Dependable
Patient, that's a biggie.
Open
Honest
Soft, but stern
Fire in her heart
Lil pocket rocket in bed.

Do I have all that? I'm not patient. Questionable sense of humor too.

I'm actually not good at answering the qualities questions. I'll just like the posts below me that do it better.

 

Intelligence and curiosity about the world
Similiar values and outlook on life
Sense of humor
Sense of adventure and fun
Kind
Easy going and good natured (mostly to balance out my more mercurial traits)
Loyal
Accepting

I like to think I have most of those traits. As far as seeking traits I dont have, i've found extroverted people balance me out and help pull me outside of myself. But extroverts can be annoying too sometimes and take it personally if you need like 3 days alone lol

 

Can talk his way out of a drug lord killing him by proposing an elaborate money laundering scheme.

 

This is funny because his character on Ozark kind of does that. Or maybe that was intentional and I'm dense.

 

Haha I won't agree on the dense part but yeah it was intentional.

 

I like someone who is really adventurous and outgoing and brave, because I do not possess these qualities myself. Basically to be drug around like a play thing.

 

I've given up on this relationship stuff...

 

I am a bit of a different type of person, so I want someone who is also a bit weird and who isn’t afraid to embrace the dark and twisty side of life.

The problem I have encountered is that different people with whom I usually make friends tend to be so fucked up that they can’t function in society. So I need someone who is off-beat and bright but still able to live in the world. A fellow high functioning fuck up, like myself.

 

Common sense.
It's astonishing how many people lack that shit.


Also, this is actually an ineresting topic and I'll elaborate a lil better later.

 

Someone confident--borderline cocky--who challenges me and makes me strive to be a better person. Someone whose style, wit, playfulness, and intelligence is effortless; they're not trying to be anything other than what they naturally are.

Someone calm, cool, and in command who is comfortable enough to at least give me the illusion of control.

A best friend, whose clothes I want to tear off...

 

pretty much this. and FYI, they are absolutely taking it as a sign that we're not interested.

this isn't so much an issue with relationships for me, but it absolutely describes how i make friends.

 

I'm a sucker for women who are playful and can make me laugh. Like a goofball but with the maturity to go along with it. I have fantasized about running into a fellow lone wolf much like myself. Such a person would likely be very independent and we would respect each others need for space and privacy.

Traits i find admirable. A person who doesn't give up on themselves, their dreams, their passions despite greater odds against them.

 

I wish I'd understood this earlier! I was too shy most of my life and then when I got into my late twenties and wasn't, so much, I realised I could proposition a man I liked and it was so exciting and fun.

I like that term. I like high functioning big kids.

 

If YFM is a fuck up, then I'm a lost cause.

 

You say that like you expect someone to argue that point

 

No, just playing Captian Obvious

 

money...and no I dont have that quality myself

 

said sommeone about every bus rollingalong has been on since the age of 10

 

it reminds me of the joke about introverts making friends. 75% is 'a dog or cat counts as a friend' and the other 25% is 'an extrovert found them and adopted them'

I think I need someone to find me and adopt me. because I damn sure can't pick em.

 

A miracle you are perfectly able to perform. You don't feel your chances would be very good... Why? What is the mysterious "some reason"?