When my wife first found my collection of sex toys, she didn't believe that I used them on myself. They ranged from buttplugs and vibrators to several dildos, from my size realistic, to extra large penis types and suction cup dildos.. When she saw them she wanted to know what I did with them. I told her I fuck them when I masturbate. She couldn't believe that I would take a dildo in my ass, nevermind dildos that are a lot bigger. She didn't believe me and wanted to see. I was more than excited to have the opportunity to show her. I told her I only do it when she isn't in the mood. The other 364 days, I play around with my toys.
Sounds ideal to me. I have two, a Pure Romance Playmate that my wife bought for me on her birthday party sex toy party lol, and a Fleshlight Quickshot. She knows what i like.