I have recently been noting a change in behavior by my wife that I have never noticed before: 1) In the morning as she wakes up and still covered by the sheets I see her move one hand or more in between her legs. There is sometimes rhythmic motion and even snapping of elasticated ribbon when I move or there is any unexpected movement. She even sometimes than goes running to the bathroom. 2) Whilst watching the TV she always covers herself or exactly her intimate parts and the same thing happens as above....hands between legs, rhythmic motion and touching and snapping of elastic ribbon. In some cases I even noticed that she closes her eyes as if with pleasure 3) When having sex she is wanting more and more touching of her intimate parts and orgasming with my hands rather than penetration. She is also doing the same to me. Not sure how to tackle this and understand what she is really doing as I would prefer that I touch her rather than she masturbating in my presence. Any ideas how to understand what is happening secretly
I have tried approaching her...but she is not in the mood. She seems to be wanting this pleasure all by herself. I am willing to understand that sometimes she wants to be enjoyed her own way, but not daily !!
I often touch my cock when my wife is around and even masturbate as she lies beside me. I think what your wife is doing is really sexy! If my wife was pleasuring herself in that way,I would be very turned on.
My ex-wife used to masturbate beside me when she thought I was asleep. It turned me on greatly to hear her breath get faster as she got off. I had to pretend to be asleep. She also used to masturbate in the shower a lot but never if she knew I was in the bathroom or immediate area. I used to listen at the door like a good little voyeur and jerk off while I listened to her masturbating in there. I think she thought the water covered up the sound of her cumming but it really didn't. And I had some great ejaculations that way.
[SIZE=10.5pt]Communication [/SIZE]is the key to a great sex life. Tell her you have noticed what she is doing. Tell her it’s ok. If it turns you on let her know. Ask if you can watch. [SIZE=10.5pt]Tell her I want to watch. It turns me on just hearing about it. In fact I think I will masturbate thinking about your wife.[/SIZE]
In regards to 3), it sounds like your together sex is including masturbating each other to orgasm. Have you suggested watching each other masturbate as part of that. Change from your hand in her crotch and vice versa to everyone's hand in their own crotch until orgasm. The thing that I noticed is the running to the bathroom to orgasm in part 1). I'm thinking that at her morning sessions, if she stayed in bed and orgasmed next to you, you wouldn't feel rejected. (You might even be inspired to emulate her.) Communication is key (as so many have said), it may take time for her and you to be comfortable with the idea of masturbating to orgasm in the presence of each other.
Maybe you should "secretly" begin to masturbate next to her... I would be super turned on if my husband did that when I have tried to quietly rub myself!
How long have you been married? In the beginning of my marriage, I was so nervous about everything. I have a very high sex drive, but I can't cum without clitoral stimulation. He made it very clear early on he likes the idea of watching me play, so as the years went on, I got more and more comfortable with it, and now we both masturbate in front of each other. I'm wondering if maybe she's embarrassed like I was, but has a high sex drive.
There is nothing wrong with masturbating daily...even if you are married, in a relationship...whatever. Maybe try stimulating yourself when you see her doing it...see what she does. If she likes it, get her to move the blanket so you can watch her and then she can watch you.
Some fab posts.I love the thought of mutual masturbation, watching each other all the time.When the mood is just right,this can be even better than full sex!
I have sex often yet masturbate daily. Every opportunity free to myself I'll push a few fingers in my vagina and make myself feel good. I do it if I use the loo at work. Under my desk. In the kitchen. It's perfectly healthy. Most Women won't admit it
