To cut a long story short, I have been seeing/speaking to a guy for the past ten weeks or so. He initiated everything and chased me to begin with, and I’ve ended up really liking him. Over the past week he’s backed off a little and told me he just wants to be friends as he doesn’t think he will ever be as happy as he was with his ex wife with anyone. How do we just be friends? Should I just wait for him to contact me again and hope he changes his mind?
i can't see why he would change his mind. it sucks but i'd accept that as fact and get on with things. if he changed his mind, would you really trust it had changed anyway? wouldn't you wonder if it was just going to change again?
I would just move on. He could be one of those guys who just likes the thrill of the chase to boost his ego. . I am sure its through no fault of yours and you should try and forget about it. Obviously if you bump into each other again just be polite and say hello.
If he's backed off already and is distancing you what do you think he'll do if you let him into your life further and fuck up the life you have now that you are familiar with who will be around and who won't/?
