I have placed this thread here because its slightly sexist but I dare say some women may have had a similar system . So I am just wondering if some of you guys perhaps mainly singles have a scoring system for potential partners? I must admit I used to have one when I was single with one being the worst and 10 the best . I was watching with my partner the move "10 " starring Dudley Moore and Bo Derek which centres around this theme . So I am just wondering if its still used or is out dated these days ? My OH was quite surprised that I had such a system of which I kept notes in a little book . She compared it to a meat market and now with me having a new attitude, I tended to agree . Obviously she disapproved .
What is the scoring system based on? Whether she sleeps with you? Looks? Personality? Everything combined? As for me, noooooooo. I don't date but even if i did i don't foresee myself ever using a scoring system.
I had everything marked down . Its more than likely an outdated system these days but I still hear references on Dating programmes like "she is a good 8" when talking to a mate on a mobile . So I am guessing it is still used by some to a degree . I am going back to my dating days of the early 80s here and obviously as I am married I don't use it.
my understanding of the 1-10 scoring system was just that it was a way to rate a woman's looks, nothing more than that. i don't use any such thing. my system is a simple pass/fail.
Now this sort of pissed my wife of 47 years off when she found out, after we'd been married a few years. I did have a score sheet that I would start filling out if I had more than one date with a gal back when I was single. I was about 21 when I thought of it. I'd seen too many of my friends get divorced over compatibility issues. I realized that it's easy to overlook things that can be very important when you're horny and with a date that looks really great! I remember being in a remote jungle and knew I would be there for days. I had pen and paper and began thinking of things that would be important in a relationship, other than sex. Now I did include some sexual compatibility things but they weren't the major considerations. I wasn't dating anyone at the time so I wasn't influenced by any particular race or traits. I considered religious beliefs, political persuasions, thoughts about family, and other things. I knew that I didn't want children and would never get along with anyone religious. And there were numerous other, less important, categories too. I even came up with a scoring system. Now, after I made this test, there were probably 8 or 9 girls that I dated enough to complete the test and only two passed. Now, by passed, I don't mean they weren't really great young women, they just weren't compatible with a jerk like me. When one didn't pass, I didn't ask them out anymore. It just wouldn't have been fair to them. The one, other than my wife, who passed didn't work out because I was transferred.
I don’t rate looks, I’ll rank people in a room as to whether I’d like to fuck them or not. Outright no’s are eliminated, the rest are ranked by who I would like to suck or fuck first, second etc. M or F, either all. I don’t see it as sexist’ I’m an equal opportunity objectified.
Aside from the sexism, maturity problems of a scoring system like this, it is not reliable. Ratings can vary widely depending on a number of factors, including makeup, lighting and ...
As an introvert with a very outgoing wife I attend more public functions than is within my comfort zone. She’d have me attend all, I’d go to none. I probably go to about 2/3 of them. Inevitably, at some point I find myself sitting alone staring at everyone. This is my own little game I play to pass the time. No one knows the results but me.
I think we all categorize people, to an extent. But I doubt that most people have a formal scoring system. We do, however, all know a dime when we see one.
