Saying goodbye

Of course... but I gotta leave my cats for a long time and I'm just gonna miss it here. I lived here longer then I've ever lived anywhere else.

 

Well you know I have been right in the same boat, and it was extremely hard.

I still miss and love my ex, a lot actually. i worry about her being safe, i miss her humor, I can generally get tears in my eyes whenever I want to over it, even though I feel it was the best thing for both of us.

All you can do is explain what an important part that person has played in your life, and that you will always love them, and stress that not only will you be better off not married to them, but they will benefit as well.

Its a long road, and its incredibly dramatic.

I echo what has been said above, you don't need to say goodbye, and he doesn't necessarily have to be out of your life.

BEST of luck, and I mean that

 

Thanks Gary. It's great talking to you about this stuff....

and I just threw a beer bottle. Yeah. Um :spliff:

 

Pray for strength and bring a joint for the car ride. (((Lucky)))

 

I usually do not say goodbye as I have found that those that matter in my life do come back into it.

 

You are grieving your relationship with him, and that's normal. It'll get easier, may be tougher for a bit while you adjust too... anyways.... I know that you can handle it.

 

you can do it. it's feels hard right now only because itis proof of your growth and your strength.

oh gods, getting on that bus was the hardest and most wonderful thing i ever did. i was terrified.

it was worth every painful step of the way.

i'm getting ready to leave again, btw. much less dramatic this time, lol. i mean, i still feel like i'm having a nervous breakdown because i don't like transition, but this time it's a lot more peaceful, more like an awakening than a scary plunge into the unknown. then Hanged Man swinging down from the tree, not the Fool taking the leap off the cliff.

funny thing is, i don't know what lies ahead of me now any more than i did then. (still fluctuating between sharing my business with the IC or opening a storefront. just have to see what manifests first, i guess.) perhaps crazily, i'm actually more afraid of this risk, because i have more to lose this time. but i feel stronger, more competent, if not always confident. This is an opening, a dawning, a new day.


well, anyway, my point is that you're not alone on this journey. you may feel you are, but you're not. because it's going to be like that for you too. awakenings, openings, dawnings, new days. you will get through this bottleneck of grief, you will pass from the river into the wide, wide ocean. i know you will. i promise.

 

thanks kitty. i LOVE you for that. seriously. it's nice to know i'm not alone.

the ocean...mmmmm...

needs to focus :boat:

 

you're welcome. pm me if you need to.

besides, yurts are so fucking cool! :tongue:

 

I pm'd you.