Hello, SM is not strange to me for many years. However, only a few years ago the problem of the terms used in SM became clearer in relation to "pathological". This has/had also something to do with the queer initiatives against pathologization, but not in the public discourse, but with individual persons and only purely as a consideration. In several discussions on SM platforms it turned out that in the SM scene there are also pathological SMers and even SMers with criminal records. The platforms have problems to ban these people. These platforms were already the root of crimes with deaths. In further dicussions, it emerged that non-pathological SMers use the patholgical terms only because they are associated with danger. This leads to the situation where non-pathological SMers are not distinguishable from pathological SMers. This is exactly what some of the non-pathological SMers risk being perceived as pathological SMers. This is similar to the fans (fanatics) of mass murderers. The danger becomes the (SM) game. It is forgotten that pathological SMers take advantage of this situation because they are not distinguishable. A way out of this situation is strangely simple. It is very easy to use new terms to distinguish. For this reason, new terms were generated by me and the whole matter was published on a website. This way out, the use of these or alternative terms is freely available to anyone who wants to distinguish themselves from pathological SMers. Website: Sadomasochy (PS: the Advertising is fake)
This is an important subject to me as a sex worker as I know I may be putting myself at risk or in danger taking bookings from new clients who want to engage in S&M. I can't see what's to stop pathological SMers from finding out about new terms and using them themselves though. Vice versa, I can't see how non-pathological SMers will know about these new terms to prove their safety.
Yes, it's not so easy. The new terms are not so new. They are just not used. There are several reasons for this. Some see no need. Others are not self-confident enough. There are even opponents who think these terms are stupid. The point is to distance yourself with the use of those who play with the danger of pathological SM. The risk of pathological SMers using these terms cannot be prevented. However, it becomes obvious to everyone as soon as the SM becomes a pathological SM. Non-pathological SMers who use this term promise a non-pathological SM. They are not playing with the danger of pathological SM. If someone uses these terms, he does not play with the danger on the one hand and cannot play with the danger on the other hand, because the counterpart immediately breaks off as soon as an attempt is made to play with the danger of pathological SM. Yes, it's a bit complicated to explain, but that's how it's meant to be. Nobody is forced to use these terms. Everyone is free to use them.
My deepest fantasy is around titty torture. My wife and I have palyed with this, binding her tits, nipple clamps, and smacking them lightly with bare hands and a paddle, especially when they are bound and turning blue. She enjoys the pain but she has limits. I would love to go further, suspending her by her tits, piercing, and really walloping them with my hands. It's likely to remain a fantasy but it's one I really enjoy, especially watching porn of this type.
Oh gosh, tie me down and give me a zappy electro session with needle play and ball busting thrown in and I'll melt with pure bliss!
