I told a woman excuse me on the train she pretended to play on her phone but just needed directions and was just ignored what is the big deal for people just to be cordial it seems people are hostile just to communicate a little over things which are non consequential
We've honestly become super isolated from so many social situations. Some out there are seemingly vehemently against the little courtesies, the niceties, and being friendly for the sake of it. Unless they know you, they don't wanna know you. Lol. It's actually funny. Wait.. nah. Not funny, just very indicative of a changed social human landscape. I have mixed feelings on it, I guess. I definitely would be annoyed had that happened that same way though.
And i was basically arguing with people who made it seem like i was at fault for being upset like who would not be if someone was rude to them like that i did not curse the person out and I was just upset like how do people exist and have joy being so closed off its like people are more like robots now
Felt. It's really not nice being caught in that. I absolutely hate getting embarrassed or ppl think I'm in the wrong. Good luck explaining.. most of the time it just becomes a shit show.
So speaking from the experience of someone who is 4'10," lives in a decently-sized metropolitan area, and frequently uses public transportation, many people just don't like being approached/talked to by a stranger because it's a safety issue, especially for women, children, and short people in general. I've had grown men yell at me at bus stops for not interacting with them when I'm minding my own business. I don't care. I'd rather be safe than dead. We have to think about the possibility that not every stranger who talks to us in public means well, and aren't trying to make a statement about anything. We just want to get from Point A to Point B without being raped or killed. Apologies if this comes off as heated (my intent is just to be direct); this is just something that many guys don't have to think about a lot until its brought to their attention.
Big cities are like that. Unfortunately, for many people, it's a hyperconnected but not empathtic society we have today.
NYC from 1959 - 1982 Austria from 1982 -1983 NYC from 1983 -1984 San Francisco 1985 -1989 Los Angeles 1989 - Present Even in Austria I lived in a big city. And to be honest, there are many times when I pretended to be hard of hearing or deficient in the language of the land. An 'excuse me' can be anything from a request for money, an unending request that you find Jesus, or a ploy to do some pocket picking. Honestly, I like my private space and I often like people to think that I am not approachable. I'm not mean. I have to interact with strangers on the phone for a living. I also have to interact with people I have known for a long time and whom I have never really liked for a long time as well. Some folks are just like Greta Garbo and want to be let alone!
