Revenge

If someone say, hurt or killed one you love, you just forgive and forget?

Personally I see that as weakness. I don't mean that meanly. I respect other people's way of dealing with life.

 

No, but I would't waste my time on revenge.

I see your point of view, but at the same time I try not to waste time on things that don't have a benefit to anyone.

If someone is attacking my family, I would take action up to possibly killing someone, but if they had already been killed, I would like to think that I would stick by my belief and not take revenge. It only makes things worse. It never, ever makes things better for anyone involved, even if it seems to on the surface.

 

I'm not really a revenge kind of guy - more "Walk Away' if you like .Obviously if it's something serious going down in my local vicinity I can't always judge my reactions.I tend to to break up more fights than I get into.The Police can be real pigs but in the end I concede to put whatever little trust I have into the due process of the law.That said,I've known several suicides,but no homicides,so I really don't know how I would react to something like that.I think artists,writers,musicians,actors and big business people should start speaking out for a a more peaceful world,but a lot of people are living in a state of poverty of both property and mind.It doesn't cost any money just to try and get along with with each other and I just kind of pray - because I am multi-faith atheist - that some day peace will break out and people can be happy.Anyway that's my pseudo ex-hippy/kind of still a bit of a hippy rant over.I hope I didn't bore you too much if you bothered to read.

 

I try to be cool with everyone until I'm being murkd. That crosses the line for me. Really.

 

I kind of agree Wizardofodd.

 

revenge is retarded and self perpetuating.

 

but also strangely erotic...

 

must be eye of the beholder. i certainly haven't found it so.

 

Have you seen Kill Bill?

 

I honestly think it isn't humanly possible to forgive and forget, except for the few exceptions on the far, far end of the bell curve.

The goal is Justice. We aren't built to tolerate injustice. Injustice is a violation and violations are violence. The only thing we can strive for is Justice (to make things *right* and to *right* the wrongs). Forgiveness is good for the person doing the forgiving but we sometimes need more than that.

For example, people who have endured torture (I base this on a blog I follow, called World Without Torture). Those victims could forgive but their needs for Justice are immense. Forgiveness does not erase our needs.

 

I believe my gods wouldn't be happy with me if I didn't try for revenge on the death of my partner.
No. The halls up high shall greet me with horns of mead and plates of well cooked swine! as I bathe my bloody hands in the guts and the gore of her assassin. =]

 

Thanks for the opinions guys, like I said I'm not going to do anything. It was a friend of mine but I am not willing to risk my life or anything for revenge. If it was family though, thats a whole different story.
From what I've been hearing though this will be a closed case fast, the community is outraged right now and a lot of people are looking for these guys

 

I think revenge can be useful. In most cases maybe not...not to the point of death...no...but the idea of depending on police and the judicial system is not always what it's cracked up to be. As a victim, you have to go through hell to be questioned and often blamed for what happened to you.

 

I agree with Irminsul, revenge has something very romantical. It is an amazing emotion/action to work out in art like movies, music or books because frankly everyone can relate to the feeling of revenge in one way or another.
It feels so good to watch the harmonica man in Once upon a time in the west get his revenge, right?
This does not mean that 'in real life' we can or should always act upon such a feeling in the same way That's why we do not judge the punishment of a wrongdoer ourselves but have installed an objective (as possible) justice system.

 

eroticism is retarded and self perpetuating

 

I was thinking of replying to this post. (and yes, bird, it means killed/murdered)....

but yea, I pretty much agree 100% w the sentiment of this post.
Granted if someone ever hurt one of my kids, I'd be right on them for revenge but typically I think revenge in those situations.... well, what's that gonna solve? The person will prolly just get caught and spend life in jail over something that originally wasn't their fault.... and end up w their life totally ruined forever. That's just giving too much power to the original perp.

 

All justice is a form of revenge in some way or other.

Personally, I try and avoid difficulties. But when they appear, I always like to be ready for them. I tried living the quiet life. Found it was shit. Don't get mad, get even. Then get ahead. Or rather, come in peace. And leave em in pieces. :-/

 

I've read numerous threads on different boards over they years where people are talking about revenge and what they would do if it was their kid or their wife or if they caught a burglar in their home.....or whatever the situation may be. I think the truth is that nobody knows for sure what they would do until they actually have to do it. I have no idea what I would do if someone killed my wife. I really doubt I would hunt them down at take revenge though because I would probably be nearly distraught over losing her and worried to death about how my kids are handling it and what the future would be, etc.

If it were a friend or other family member....I'm sure I would be pretty upset but I still doubt if I would take an eye for an eye. One person already ruined lives by doing something that can't be undone. Why should I ruin more lives (including mine) tomorrow for the sake of feeling better today?