I had bladder cancer. During my treatment for this and enlarged prostate, I ended up with permanent retrograde ejaculation. It took a bit of getting used to, but I now love it. I am looking at like minded guys to share experiences.
I didn't have the cancer or any operation, but I had a serious bladder problem and I retain water, so I take a lot of diuretics including tamsulosin that causes me to have dry orgasms like you have. I had to get used to the dry ones as well, but it sure went well when I discovered that I can have multiple ones, just a couple of minutes apart. I don't know how many I can have because I usually get pooped out or need to stop for other reasons. Not too bad to have to leave for an appointment after 'only' having five. haha In fact, I just had two before I sat down at this computer and found this thread. Welcome, by the way.
Thanks for the reply. I must try the multiple orgasms. I found not only do I have RE, but my sensitivity has gone through the roof. The orgasms are so strong now that I nearly pass out. Also they must have touched some nerves, because my balls are ultra sensitive.
Were you taking Flomax, by chance?? I see one of the supposed side effects of Flomax could be retrograde ejaculation.
So yeah me too, at 1st I was kinda upset I wasn't told this was going to happen but the sudden urges to pee or not cause you get these random signals and then you don't cause you just through Oh no I wet myself and you run to check and there's nothing then another time you get the same signal and I would ignore it but then I would realize oh yeah I did pee myself so with that being a constant problem I decided to go with the TURP. I haven't regretted taking care of that problem but like I said I didn't know I was never going to squirt anymore and if you are doing that since the age of 9 it's kinda a shock it doesn't anymore. But over time like anything there's the Ying/Yang of things and I began to discover and let myself feel these deeper more inside orgasms. I never felt that kind of depth and lasting satisfaction. When it's not so penis oriented there are really nice satisfying deeper orgasms and all I did to make this better was to stop expecting to ejaculate and just feel. Another upside is yep No Cleanup on Isle 7 deal, and for some reason I'm also no longer tired after a good session. But yes I absolutely agree that now they are more intense and my preferred method and it seems to have opened up a whole new side for me.
So hey, but yeah I would like to also, I live alone and I can't talk to anyone about this or even know anyone to compare notes with. At 1st I though all of my new masturbation times were in my head but now I see I'm not alone. But yeah it's very freeing to admit all of this to others, I don't think I would ever go back, it's just so amazing. Like what another person said below I too also go out of my head now, even at this age it's way better than what I ever had years ago.
I had a TURP so I have the same thing you do, may I ask why you love it?? I like the mess, is there anything I can do to get back like it was??? Thank you in advance
Hey Mule S. So like 99% of all things in life it's about subjective experience & the differences in how & what we fall into. 1st the main thing is not when I'm out I don't have to worry now about getting that pee tingle and then worrying if I just wet myself. It seems it does take a while to fully heal from the TURP. At 1st I couldn't leave the house without wearing a pad and over time I gained much better near normal control but I still wear a thin one for just in case, but I'm almost back to feeling like I was in my 30's. But anyway yeah sure at 1st it was kinda weird not shooting anymore and again at 1st the orgasms weren't the same, I guess there's some kind of extra sensation you get from a normal one but over time I began to notice a more deeper sensation that even though I had like 50% of mine removed, my prostate became much more sensitive and deeper. Plus I don't feel as tired afterwards and I think it might be a good thing that because it goes into the bladder maybe we reabsorb some of the good parts in it too. Maybe some studies should be done, but who knows. I also had cancer but not in that area, I had one of the most rarest ones on the planet, I only had like a 3% survival chance, but that was like 8 years ago and well I guess I beat it but it wasn't fun. So though to get to your main question, I read that you can have a reattachment surgery but it's not always successful but hey it might be worth a try. I have a very good female friend that when I told her about what happened and I can no longer ejaculate and for a while now I don't feel like a real man, she said and we are pretty honest with each other and she just wasn't trying to make me feel better but for her she thought that it would be great not to have the old "clean up on isle 7" to deal with afterwards for various female reasons. The other benefit is and I don't know if you are seeing anyone but for 9 out of 10 women they don't like with oral sex having to swallow, I only had one women really like it in my life but all the others and the odds are they don't. Can't blame them wouldn't want to force anyone to do something they don't like. But now you can go all the way with them and it won't be any of the ick factor some don't like. So that's a win/win. Just look for the glass half full thing here. Try to move away from as we are taught to just hit the goal, think more about sensations and feelings and discover new levels you might not ever have found. Just give it some time and rejoice you were lucky enough to be born in a time when you could deal with the cancer and live and not die a painful death if we were both living in the past or in a 3rd world country. You'll be OK just give it sometime, take a weed gummie they really up the libido and just relax. Also the CBD will help prevent any new cancers that might come along, man it's always something. Thanks for reading.
An older man, a friend of mine had retrograde ejaculation from a bladder and prostate problem. This, along with his small dick, saw him divorced. He set himself up as a cock sucker to please frustrated married guys. Worked well.
