repetitive noises..

What about people yacking on their cell phones in a library. I hate that. I thought libraries were supposed to be peaceful places. Times are changing, and I often wonder if things are getting better or worse.

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Good for you! Enjoy your time out and let us know if it helped any wearing them.

 

So I guess either you have to go out of your way to avoid it or they have to go out of their way to stop doing something they just do. I think it's kinda rude of you to expect them to stop. They could just as easily ask you to simply tolerate it or leave, in my opinion.

 

Libraries used to be peaceful places. It's as if people don't even think anything of making a ruckus in a library anymore.

If the library is near a high school, then there's the problem of altercations breaking out at the library after school, security people stationed there to stop the fights, etc.

But hey. Those who simply ask for some reasonable level of respectable behavior are just living in the past and being selfish for asking for so much.

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I dont find it rude, to ask someone to stop something, If it hurts you. Would you ask your friend if the music was hurting you, to turn it down, or would you just tolerate it, while your ears were screaming at you in pain?? I know People have the right to do whatever they want. I am talking about courtesy of other people. I have done many a things, to make people more comfortable, that they found annoying. and I just find it really hard to avoid every situation that would cause me pain. I am going to get earplugs and pray they work. Because I really dont want to be the one to annoy people, and ask them to stop. I am actually very shy in real life, so I hate to even talk to strangers let alone ask them to stop.


and thanks heat!!

 

Some people tap because THEY themselves have a disorder. Maybe you should look at it from that perspective.

 

I know someone with OCD who is overly sensitive to the most trivial of repetitive noises. She will be in another room listening to the radio of TV full blast and get infuriated over someone in another room making the tiniest of noises, such as picking one's fingernails, the scraping noise of utensils on the plate when someone is eating, etc.

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I think that has already been mentioned by top notch stoner. and You know what, I try my best not to ask every single time it is painful for me, just when it is intolerable. From now on, I am not going to ask anyone though. I am just going to leave, every single time. I dont mean to put anyone out, or stop people from being themselves. I just need to find better ways of dealing with it, and If I have to leave more often. I will have to.
I dont think I usually think of if people have a disorder to be honest, bc with aspies, most of the time. I dont think like normal people, and their own reactions to things.
That is one thing aspies struggle with, knowing what is socially acceptble and what is not.
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You do just need to find better ways of dealing with it, the world doesn't cater to disorders or syndromes (except cancer and AIDS it seems), so the best you can do is adapt to your surroundings. Do people really tap that often around you? I mean, stuff like that drives me batty (and smacking noises, it makes my skin crawl when people are loud eaters or kiss all sloppy), but I don't have to deal with it a whole lot. I know what it's like to be hypersensitive to your surroundings, definitely, but I also know that I have had to push myself out into the world and just deal with it. It's hard, but it is possible. And the panicky feeling...it's not likely going to just vanish ever, but you can learn to keep it at bay. Have you considered going to a therapist to help you with these things? I know it's not an option for most people, but I thought I'd throw that idea out there.

 

A therapist would do nothing for a physical condition. What I have is sensory processing disorder. It is where the brain literally does not process sounds, textures adn other things quite right. for each one that has it, they usually also have aspergers. Certain noises, and sounds, and textures, can hurt. Like for instance certain toothpastes are painful. Also certain noises, every one with spd, has different ticks, different things that coudl hurt. The brain controls a lot of our pain receptors. What we feel and how we feel it. And My brain is wired differently that it is actually painful to feel and hear certain things. The best I can do is avoid the n oises as much as possible and the textures. and get earplugs/headphones. Also a big one is if I am overwhelmed, i was told by a doctor to ask them to politely stop, if they dont to leave. And I do leave. Many many times.
Today I am buying earplugs, bc I dont want to have to avoid every social situation that could possibly have smoe triggers.
I am totally up for doing whatever I can to not bother other people, and I do try to leave the situations as much as I can.
but to put this bluntly, an therapist, is really not going to do much for an physical condition.

and it isnt just an panicky feeling. it is a literal Painful experience.

 

Btw I am not being rude or putting your suggestion down at all. I appreciate you taking the time to write it out.

 

Well, I'm glad you're trying. I'm sorry it hurts you, and I'm sorry the world doesn't have more sympathy for people that are sensitive. I don't think you're being rude at all, I'm glad that you are educating me, I don't want to sound like an ignorant ass who just thinks you need to "get over it." I don't think that at all. It's just hard to get the world to adapt to you so the best you can do is try to adapt to it. And a lot of banks have a drive-thru, it might save you from impatient tapping from other customers.

 

Yeah I wish mine had a drive through. alas, I have tried to suggest it to them over and over again. and You didn't come off as just get over it at all. I have heard that suggestion a lot, and It doesnt offend me.
Uggh, My husband just decided to go out without me, and the problem is I have major cabin fever, havent been out of the house all week, except for the grocery store. Uggh.
It sucks to want to go out so bad, and either my lupus or my aspie things, always come back to bite me in the butt.

I sense a camping trip is needed, it is so dang quiet out in the woods..

 

there is this lady that works in the parts dept, when you ask her for stuff she "tsk". at first I didnt say nothing,.. Then one day I wasnt in the mood, when she "tsk" so I said "is there a problem or something, every fucking time we ask your for parts, replacement material you *tsk* about it?".....

 

that lady is weird!!! LOL

 

apparently, she does not know, she makes that sound all the time...

 

Some coworkers get upset when you request something that they are supposed to fulfill as part of their job function. Seems like some just don't want to be bothered and don't want to work.

Things like that happen in retail and it seems to be getting worse. I come across workers where I politely ask a simple little thing that is not a problem and it's their job function to fulfill it. They get upset about it as if their day has been ruined. It would better for them to find a different line of work.

Most aren't like that but some are.

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Yeah she is probably saying that bc she doesnt want to to do it!! I agree with shaggie.

 

I hate it when people whistle.

 

Some of these behaviors sound like uncontrollable OCD tikc. It's the nervous or high (strung up) people who bounce their leg up and down really fast when everyone is in a row of CONNECTED chairs that kinda irritate me.