Relationship help !

Have a bit of a tough situation been dating this girl from work just happened naturally even though I was put off because she slept with a friend before hand and has had many lovers which shouldn’t be a problem but really bugs me we both spoke about are situation as we both have fallen for each other But I don’t feel I can date her without shame / embrassnent and a weird sort of jealousy / anger am very confused and torn

 

Specifically, what is it that you’re ashamed or embarrassed by? Specifically, what are you jealous or angry about? Specifically, what are you torn or confused about?

You make it sound like you’re dating the town whore and everyone in town knows. If she’s monogamous with you, consider her experience your benefit. If you really care for her, why do you care what others think?

Also, it would be easier to read your posts if you use proper punctuation.

 

If you just come to roast me then am not going to reply seriously

 

I’m not trying to roast. It’s MUCH easier to read when you use punctuation. I was asking why you feel so negative. If she’s happy and you’re happy and you’re both STD/STI free, monogamous and using protection, enjoy each other. That’s my point.

 

am just a bit upset cause she banged a freind of mine its a bit embrassing when your with her and they could just be like ive fucked her already

 

You buy a used Ferrari, it's still a fucking Ferrari! Who cares who drove it before you.

Your friend wasn't good enough to keep her. She thinks you're an upgrade but you're not acting like the man she needs

 

So tell your friend she says you're bigger and better.

 

i know i should just be the man and step up old news is old news we all have it but i just dont get it so stupid its like a mental barrier shes a absolute babe real cute its not my style to not step up but think maybe due to old relationship effects on me im a bit dunno holded back i guess appreicate all the messages by the way

 

I think it’s a bit of contradiction to say you have this deep connection while also saying you have a mental barrier.. do you like her because she’s a babe or because you’re really into her? I mean there’s a ton of people out there who we all find attractive but for it to work it has to be more than that.. but anyway, I think she deserves a judgement-free relationship if she is indeed looking for one with you (or anyone for that matter).. if you can’t give her that type of respect then I would say move on

 

im dont know am so confused but appreciate the comment will report back on decision when i make it

 

decided to stick it out we both been pretty happy

 

I grew up in the age when the only potential girlfriends were supposed to be found as inexperienced virgins under a mushroom. Not a recipe for happiness in the real world. I know know that all one can usually find under a mushroom is compost.