Really Need Help :(

Yeah Alternative i understand and you might be right, the point is that she doesn't use fingers because she says she doesn't feel much, and even with slow sex doesn't feel much pleasure.

 

You notice how there arent any females replying in this thread

 

You two are not using any birth control? Are you wanting to become parents?

 

What the fuck am I? lol

 

Haha i forgot to mention we always use condoms

 

Very good. have ya tried different types? She could very well have a latex allergy. But she still need to see a Gynecologist, sexually active women need to do this regularly. Besides, she needs to get checked to see if this is a physical problem. Since you said it hurts at the opening it could be Vaginismis which is involuntary spasms of the muscles of the vaginal wall and can make attempts at penetration very painful.

 

Yeah she told me today that she also suspects maybe that is the problem. She is worried about going to the doctor but ill try to convince her. You think it would have to do something with the condom? What would be the best material for condom to use? She doesn't want to use pill.

 

Latex allergy is common, and you say it burns....that could be a problem. I think you'd have to just try different ones.

Try to convince her to go for a check up, she can look for a female Gyno if that would make her feel better. Why is she worried about seeing a Dr?

Many women masturbate by clitoral stimulation only and some will only orgasm with clitoral manipulation. The intercourse part may feel good, but not all ladies orgasm from it.


How old are you two?

 

She is 19 im 23. If she was allergic the pain would be all day? Because she usually after a while doesn't feel pain. She has many allergies though.

The doctor worry is that she doesn't know for sure what doctor will do and she told me doctor uses a wire (camera) to check inside and freaks her out a bit

 

Not necessarily...could just be when it is touching her.

She is 19...pretty much a grown woman and is having a sexual relationship. She owes it to both of you to go get a check up. It's the adult thing to do....for people engaged in adult activity. That is exactly what I'd tell my daughter.

 

hey now....she was 17 and you were 21?


hhmmmmm

 

Yeah you are right. You are amazing i really appreciate your help

I dont want to ruin this beautiful thing we have eachother because we just... didnt try hard enought to resolve the problems and just thought we *werent meant to be*.

 

No we are not together for 2 years, we met online and we were just friendly while i had other girlfriend but it didnt feel right with her so i didnt do much.

 

OK...I'm gonna get mean now. If she is old enough to have an adult relationship with a grown assed man, but is afraid of a gynecological check up is very telling, to me. I do not believe this girl is ready for this type of relationship. She may be better off dating, and going slow with the intercourse part instead of of a full fledged relationship.


If you at 21 years old was webcaming with a 17 year old CHILD, then shame on you. Her father should have put a boot up your ass. You are expecting an adult relationship with someone who is not yet an adult.


IMO...there is your problem.

 

A hairy sweaty dude

 

I read in several online posts that there are several women who experience pain during sex. Here is a good article which might help both of you to get back the pleasure that you both having been hunting for. http://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/pain-during-sex.aspx

As the article suggested, nearly 50 percent of women experience some form of pain during their sex, so I think, the first answer you and your girlfriend need to find is the level of pain and the trigger of the pain.
Knowing the elastic nature of vagina, one might argue that any penis could fit into a matured vagina, however, the pain associated during sex might not be the sole reason for justifying that she has vaginal muscles dysfunction.

And you assumption related to hymen sounds like you just read a book named “human sexuality” and comes to the conclusion that hymen might be the culprit here. I don’t think so because as the book suggested, after the first few intercourse the hymen could eventually teardown or in other word, the vaginal space would be even enough to handle a sizable penis.

The other important point mentioned in the article above is related to genital infection which might be deep inside her urethra. These are all guesses. Or who knows, the pain she had been mentioning during your intercourse might be related to the trauma that she might have encountered when she was young. Or even sexual abuse she might have gone through. In other word, it might be just a psychological cause.

If you want to have your relation continue, and want to enjoy your sexual life, it would not hurt to seek help from gynecologist.

 

Dude's a lying creepazoid. He lied after I called him out for cybering with a child. Notice he did not return after I called him out? This gal is not ready for a full fledged sexual relationship, she has told him...but he is pushing it. ppfftt


Needs a giant boot up his lying ass.

 

He isn't necessarily a creeper just because his girlfriend was a so-called "minor" when they may have started cybering. In some countries the age of consent law is lower than 18. My girlfriend of two years is still a minor in some countries but not in our own. The point that I'm trying to make is that I don't think it's sensible to jump to the conclusion that he is a creeper just from the fact that his girlfriend was a minor IN SOME COUNTRIES when they started their relationship, for they seem to be in a serious, long-term relationship and their love seems genuine from what the OP has so far described. Plus, they are both legal now, they are still together, still getting along well, and they are trying to improve their situation together. So really, it does NOT matter anymore. I say get off his back about the age issue because it's no longer valid.