Hello everyone, So here is the thing. I met a guy a few months ago and we started seeing each other on and off for 2 months. Then, when I thought that things were going great, I saw him with another girl. I felt really bad because I had started to develop feelings for him. So after that I told him that it was over and that I didn't want to see him again. That's hard considering we live in the same building. Anyway, a month and a half had passed, I hadn't talked to him and he contacted me. He wanted to talk, explain. In that time I was at my parents so I told him that we would talk when I get back. So I got back, I saw him, we said nothing to each other, and about 30 mins later I recieved a freakishly long text. He said that he was really pissed off about the situation, that I made it like that, like we didn't talk anymore, etc. And he finished off by saying that he wouldn't harass me to talk to him, it was my choice, at least he "tried". The stupid fragile creature that I am, I answered him and told him how I felt, how he made me feel. I felt like he only called me when he didn't have anything else to do, etc. He said that this was completely wrong, that if we were seeing each other, then there was a reason, he really cared about me and that he didn't want me to believe that he only called me when he had nothing else to do, that I haven't seen him with a lot of girl and stuff like that. Long story short, we saw each other. He texted me every day, was really sweet and then he suddenly stopped. More than 2 weeks had passed and I asked him if everything he had said was true and he answered yes, completely. He said that he was really busy with school, work and he didn't have time for anything. I understand that it's hard to have many tasks to do and a social life, but you can see me once in a while, no? I don't know, I am really confused. He doesn't show a great interest in me, he says he does, but I don't see it. What should I do?
he lied to you and strung you along to get into your pants and now he is hoping you just go away move on.....try to be more selective next time....
Well, perhaps I've grown a little cynical, but this is what I'm getting from reading that: He played you. You were absolutely right, and you shouldn't have answered that text he sent you. Guys like that are always gonna find a way to make YOU think you're the bad guy. How else do you think they could possibly do what they do and not have their conscious wreck them? He didn't try, he made you try for him. IMHO he's a waste of your time
I agree with River Blue's comments. You can do much better than a man like that astrid so don't get too downbeat about this one. You won't have to try very hard when the right man comes along.
Thank you for the answers, everyone! Deep down I knew that he wasn't worth it but I couldn't accept it. It's okay now, when the right one comes along I will know it.
No you won't. At least, not when you first meet him. Time and patience will serve you well not only in waiting to meet him, but determining if it is, actually, someone who is right for you.
In the meantime don’t be afraid to date and have some fun. Life is short enjoy each day as much as you can.
