Quickie BJ Advice

I posted something in the relationship forum, but thought I would post here for more specific advice. My husband and I have a pretty traditional marriage, with some Seasons that have been really hot and steamy and others that have been rather vanilla.

Blowjobs are usually incorporated into our foreplay, but 95% of the time lead to full on intercourse.

I really would like to spice things up and add in more quickie BJ's throughout the week. Would love suggestions on how to slip more BJs into our week. I really doubt my husband is going to turn this down, but it's just not a regular part of our life right now.

Disclaimer... We are in our 40s, parents of teens, busy life. Quite honestly I feel I need this just as much as he does to keep things hot and fresh. My husband needs the sexual release, and I need to feel sexy.

Hit me with your best quickie BJ advice!

 

You might try incorporating them into daily routines or chores.
For example. Many years ago, A G/F of mine would give me head if I would sort the laundry and load the washer. Of course there was the thrill of getting caught since it was the apartment building laundry room.

My Ex Wife used to enjoy trying to distract me from dinner, by crawling under the table and giving me head while I ate.

 

.

Well for me number one for me is that you took the time to go on a forum and ask this question. My wife would never do something like this! Wish she would expand a bit more.

Ok that being said sounds like you’re hubby is very lucky to have you.

Wife and I have a similar sex life maybe not as many bjs as you guys do but a bj will lead to full blown sex.


I do remember onetime I didn’t go into work and she had off for a Dr appt. Before she left she garaged my arm and walked me into the bedroom. Took down my pants and started giving me a bj for no reason. I very much enjoyed this. She didn’t finish me off, she said ok gotta go.

After she left I decided since she got me all turned on I would edge until she got home. Long story short I told her she had to finish the job she started and still ended up with some steamy sex.

Very very rarely will she finish me off from a bj.

 

I would say to try different things.
One example, while it was not a wife, or a girlfriend, somebody got extremely turned on being filmed, giving me a blowjob. We watched it together a couple of times after, and she really loved seeing her self doing her thing.
It led her to end up, wanting me to do something for her.

As mentioned above, use an incentive and reward play thing where you give him some oral to encourage him to do things for you.
But a word of caution, don’t use it as leverage, or you will ruin things in the relationship.

When alone, just take the unfortunate you to give him a quick pleasure to get him hard even if it goes nowhere, A few times a day.
It builds up the anticipation for both of you for later.

A twist on filming, let him have a short video of you giving him oral, you can watch it and get horny for later. You benefit as well.

wake him up with a blowjob, whether it leads to sex now or later

 

I am lucky in that my wife always loved giving me oral. She enjoyed doing it and knew that it was pleasurable for me - she's very good at it.
Like you, things cooled off considerably after kids, but we still found ways to sneak a quick BJ in, even with the kids home which of course made it more exciting. As teens, they knew what we were up to - even joked about it. We did it in the car a lot - usually when meeting other couples for dinner or drinks. Mostly though, it was in the morning. Got the day off to good start.

 

Once the kids were out of the house, there was a total re-vitalization of our sex lives. We went through several phases of sexual discovery. I remember getting bjs every day for the longest time. In the car in the mall parking lot and always on our boats.
No complaints from me. At the time, my wife really enjoyed sucking cock and swallowing big loads of my cum.

 

Just be spontaneous. Perhaps when you know the kids are busy and he least suspects it, lean in and whisper into his ear "I'd like to give you a blowjob baby"...

 

I have a friend (not with benefits but very open to talk about sex) who gives her husband a surprise blowjob once a week. No fail. Ever. She started by giving him a Friday blowjob the minute he came home from work after a long week. But she felt that they both expected that and although it was fun, it was the same thing every week. So she mixed it up. Jump into the shower when he's getting ready for work and suck him off. Meet him in the garage when he's busy doing house stuff. Suck him off on the way to a family gathering. Wake him in the middle of the night and take him.

Remember....he owes you so you should expect a return favor.

Oh.....what about a quick suck in someone elses bathroom. Or at the edge of a pool at night.....or in a movie theater....

Options are endless....

 

Try new things! Sometimes I give my bf a blowjob in the grocery store parking lot!

 

My ex-wife and I (in our mid 20's) went to a couple's party that was to be 5-6 married couples. We arrived at the hosts home about 30 minutes early to see a note on the door, BRB, went to the beer distributor. We went around back to the deck, and she gave me a fantastic blowjob. The hosts arrived just minutes after I came in her mouth. I'll never forget that evening spending hours with friends knowing I came in her mouth just before everyone arrived.

 

I've had lots of those. The best was getting sucked off through the open window of my friends car while I was tying a mattress set to her roof racks on her car. She was a great sucker and she was still swallowing as we drove away. Fun.

 

Take the initiative and just start giving him head in different places around the house and or outside even. I’m sure he will love it

 

Since it is a “Quickie” as you say…just do enough teasing with your tongue to get him rock hard…and if you are worried about the kids coming home soon, then take him fast and deep (in your throat speeds things up if you are able to) and swallowing every drop will result in less time cleaning up before someone opens the front door .

And do be spontaneous as someone else said and also taking the initiative as Redwingsfan suggested. Sometimes just sexy comments during a television show are an opportunity to just unbuckle the pants and just go down!

 

There's nothing like a woman pulling my zipper down and me knowing her mouth will be busy shortly. Blowjobs are the best!

 

We are watching a series called 'How to Get Away With Murder'. Lot's of great sex scenes . . . I've been 'unbuckled' a few times . . .

 

That’s great! Hope there are many episodes to binge watch

 

Yes! 6 seasons worth!

 

If there is a day he seems really stressed, then stand behind him and lean over and say, "if you are stressed would it make you feel better if I told you that you have free use of my mouth every day if you want it?"

 

I find that when we are the same watching horror films with a lot of nudity in I just unzip and she slips it out, then again I will often just pop it out in the middle of the day to get it sucked.

 

Good for her! And you!