Questions for mothers/fathers/guardians, ect

Do you have any rules or regulations when it cums to your sons, daughters, ect and masturbation? Do you talk about masturbation with them? Do you show or tell them how to do it? Are they given permission to do it anywhere in the house/flat as long as its done in private?

I think when I become a parent, my only rules would be;
1) Do it in private
2) Clean up after yourself
3) Porn isn't real
4) Make sure you don't rush and take time to explore your body, ect
5) Don't do it around the house if family, friends or guests are around
6) Any questions, then just ask me

I'd be very lenient in the sense that no room is out of bounds apart from my bedroom, but my son (don't want a daughter lol) wouldn't be allowed to jerk off if friends or family were at our property. I'd also make sure that he cleans up after himself by providing baby wipes, tissues, hand towels as well as lube.

 

Thank you rayan2019 for your question. I always in my life when I was as a parent or now as a grandparent ask myself the same question.

I remember during the 50s or 60s when I was a child at 10 or later as a teenager talking about sex was a great taboo not only for children, parents but also for teachers too. On the other hand as the point of view of religion this kind of discussion was actually forbidden, and whenever I asked any sexual question from my mom, she said you are too young whenever you get older you will understand, do not rush !!!!.

Now many cultural factors and thoughts have been changed dramatically. Many cultures, education, and even religion's thoughts and beliefs are bombarding daily by internets, TV, radio, and mass media in different methods, including prone, sex movies and magazines. So the cultural and educational systems are changed basically all around the world.

In these social situations, we as a parent are not able to ignore or close our eyes to the kids'' sexual matters.

Now lets to get back to your question. How we can discuss and teach them. The methods of talking or teaching about sexual subjects are varied in different cultures and societies. For example, western societies are more open than the eastern communities and sexual courses are taught in middle school. So, it is a good chance for parents to follow up their children's sex education at home.

But what we should do or how to behave as a parent to be respected by our kids or teenagers. No paying attention to these facts is a great mistake, because first of all the children have to respect and trust their parents then accept their advice. Actually, they should accept their parents as their friends. It is so clear that our relationship with a friend quite differs with our parent. The shadow wall between children and parents should be broken down, otherwise, the distance between them

is a negative point in our closed relation. Short talk, I believe if we like to advise the sexual issue with our children we could follow the following factors.

1- Try to establish a closed relation like the relation between tow teenagers or kids as the same age, from an early age let say 5 or 6 years old.

2- We should give full trust and support to our children, and penetrate through their hearts deeply, so they gradually trust us one hundred percent, not only in sexual matters but also in their life issues.

3- If we get to the above points, we will be a good guide, advisor, leader who is accepted by their heart forever. In this situation, sexual teaching is simple.

 

I did read a article once where mother demonstrated and taught her preteens to masturbate, son and daughter. Kind of creeped me out. She said it certainly helped them get through their teen years and future relationships. Apparently, it was in a open household. New age I suppose.

 

If my son asked me how to masturbate, I would show him if he felt comfortable with me demonstrating or I'd tell him to google it LOL

 

i would never masturbate with my parents . with my bf, with friends, strangers, yes. but never my parents. hell id even masturbate with cousins, but eewww my parents

 

I wish I had male friends to jerk with, I only have female mates.

My cousin hates me but I wish I could jerk off with him or even catch him naked or jerking. Desperately wanna see him naked, he's so fit.

 

WHat??
UH....that would be hell no and illegal as hell and you could, and should, go to jail and risk losing your child!
You need to check these feelings, and perhaps seek professional help. If you are getting aroused thinking about masturbating in front of a child for ANY reason.... you need help...BEFORE you have a child.

 

Masturbation is natural and normal. If my son asked me to demonstrate and I showed him then I wouldn't see that as illegal or inappropriate? I don't get aroused thinking about masturbating in front of child so don't know why you're saying that? It wouldn't be about arousal or pleasure, it would purely be for demonstration alone.

 

Bullshit.
If my son asked me to demonstrate by jerking off in front of him the last thing on earth I would do is do it!! And i would very much want to know where he got the idea it was ok to ask his father to jack off in front of him!
WTF is wrong with you?
Boys don't need to be shown how....it's pretty obvious. We all "learned" how on our own perfectly fine. What you think you're the only one that knows to wrap your hand around it? What the hell are you going to demonstrate exactly?
I don't know who you are, but you are screwed up badly if you are sitting around thinking about engaging in sex acts with your own son!
Masturbation is natural. Masturbating in front of children is not. It is highly illegal as it should be and a fantastic way to lose your children and placed in foster care or a relative.
Do the world a favor.... don't have children

 

Masturbating with strangers is one of the hottest things. No pretense, just going for it. I've met lots of women just to masturbate with/for. It's safe, hot, fun.

 

I think my parents had a "Don't ask...Don't tell" policy. As long as I accomplished points #1 and #2 above.

 

We did the normal sex talks with the children. Didn't have any of them running around the house jacking off and squirting on the walls. No grade school pregnancies either. They learned well. It's amazing how that works. No on the job training. No video presentations. Just plain honest talk explaining the responsibilities that go along with sexual relations. Plus we equipped them with the proper supplies for birth control and disease.

 

As one of the commenters said, I'd tell them it's natural, a safe alternative and porn can be useful but don't confuse it with realty.

 

We've always told our daughters that sex and especially masturbating is something to enjoy. It's also something that has to be your choice.

We have never told them to masturbate and certainly never showed them how to. We did talked to them about about it and told them that it was a very natural thing to do. We also told them that it's something they should enjoy in privacy or in time with someone they felt like sharing the experience with.

We also warned them that not all parents are as liberal as we are when it comes to talking about sex and masturbating and that they should also be careful who they would tell about it.

My wife and I both know that our daughters masturbate and we are glad that we can talk to them about it and that they are comfortable enough to ask questions about it. We try to always give them a answer.

Yes there are plenty of people who would say we go much to far with our daughters. Like I said before we never showed them how or helped them in any physical way to masturbate. Yes we have walked in to them accidentally. It was a awkward moment for all of us. But because we talked about it, it never became a problem.