Questions for Bi men

My first homosexual experience was when I was 6 years old with my older brother. He was 11. We started playing, touching, and sucking each other. A year later my brother penetrated me and I really liked it. We fucked each other for 5 years. I always liked more to be penetrated. One day my father caught us, we never did it again. Years later I started having sex with my uncle. We did it for a couple of years. After that, I did not have gay sex anymore, only girls but I wanted to. After I separated I started to feel that I needed to be fucked again, and I did.

 

I have always been EXTREMELY sexual...it is who I am. I first started sucking cocks when 7-years-old and loved it..sucked cocks regularly until 14 when I first had sex with a girl..again, being so sexual I totally loved it with women, but still occasionally sucked guys still. Swallowed my first load a 16 (my best friend) and again, loved it even more. But at that time, late 60's, there was a huge amount of social pressure, at least among our teenage groups, not to be "gay" and women were fine for me.


Had some few more male encounters in my 30's, but from about 34 until 65 I was 100% hetero. I repressed my bisexuality for the most part but always got again extremely horny watching cocks cum...loved it.


My wife cut off all sex and intimacy 8 years ago..I got by with jacking off a lot and watching porn, but Craigslist personals really seemed exciting so at 65, I decided what the hell, I love sucking cock so I'll try it again...had 4 different guys first week and I was completely hooked. fortunately, CL personals was still active for a couple years so I would regularly slip out to suck at least 3-4 times a week.


Left my wife (still in closet) about 2 months ago - she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and I could no longer tolerate it. Now, I am openly bi and have no problem letting guys know it. Yes, woman cutting off all sex and intimacy helped push je back to true self, but it is something I do not regret and truly enjoy...problem is I am so cock hungry, still extremely horny, I could easily suck a few every day, but not in location now where there is much action.

 

I take your word for it, but I always thought that time was the beginning of the Sexual Revolution, and maybe the perceived undesirability for same sex activity would be starting to get relaxed then. Were same sex attitudes more relaxed on college campuses? Were swingers more open to it? How was Stonewall perceived by those who weren't stuffy establishment types? Was the typical hippie homophobic?
I realize not all pockets of American society were liberated equally back then, as unfortunately they are not now, but I digress. I guess I'm trying to get a feel of what it was like in the '60s.

 

Of course, typical hippies were homophobic. They came from a homophobic culture, so that is no big surprise. That's also the reason why Stonewall had to happen-- almost the entire American culture was down on homosexual activity. Stonewall was a spontaneous rebellion based on frustration with bigotry.

I was a hippy, and I just kept my bisexuality to myself and my male lovers. I never let the mainstream culture affect my choices for consensual and safe sexual encounters. Still don't.

 

I'm not disputing your assertion that most hippies were homophobic, just pointing out the irony. The hippie ethos very much supports the "live and let live" and "do your thing" ways of life. Those combined with relative sexual freedom should mean same sex love or even fun should've been a no brainer. I'm disappointed hippies didn't get that right the first time. But I guess homophobia is/was a phenomenally difficult force to overcome. Live and learn. It took years for me to accept my attraction to the same sex, and I have very much supported LGBT rights, so maybe I shouldn't be so hard on those homophobic but otherwise all right hippies lol.
I'm glad you were able to see beyond assumed culture since back then. I resent anyone else making such choices for me. I assert my right to be with guys who want to be with me consensually and safely!

 

Yes...it was just the beginning of the relaxing of homophobia, but it still was the major mindset...I'm talking 1965-1969...and I was raised in So California so while the drug culture was really ramping up, sex was still quite hetero oriented...had a couple high school friends that were suspected gay and it was hard on them...now days, my older grand kids have many friends that are gay and it is no big thing...they just accept it as part of who they are. I believe a lot of homophobia was the fear of being hit on. Also, in gym class, we had open showers with everyone showering together...saw some really nice cocks, but of course, never did anything beyond look at them. It was just safer to be hot for women and as a true bi, that was fine with me also.

 

You would think southern California would have the most relaxed sexual norms, well maybe outside of San Francisco or possibly New York. When did San Francisco start to get LGBT friendly?
Still, it's not too hard to imagine being bullied for perceived homosexuality back then. Unfortunately it's not too hard to imagine in some places now.
I never showered after gym class. I wasn't even aware of any attraction to the same sex back then but didn't want to. Actually none of the guys ever did except one time. Two of the guys seemed pretty eager to get in the shower. A bit too eager. I had no idea what went on, but I imagine they didn't do any more than check each other out. Maybe that led to a clandestine "arrangement" with each other. If I only knew then what I know now maybe I should've joined them. At least I'd know what they were doing.

 

There was no real open gay activity back then...I'm sure there was till plenty of gay action behind closed doors...hell my mother was bi and I caught her bed with a woman when I was 14...which she afterwards was very, very apologetic to me and offered to get counseling (I remember thinking I really hot didn't care with my raging sexual 14-ear-old hormones) ...she later became full-out lesbian for the rest of her life but she had real sexual frustration problems her whole life ( and drinking problems). She was 75 when she killed herself in 1995. The surprising thing we found in her apartment was a document on recent visit to a woman's gay counseling center. Even up to her last days she was tying to come to terms with her sexuality.

For me, that has always concerned me that she was dealing with her own sexuality so much that she was seeking counseling at 75. I had repressed my bisexuality for 50 years of playing strictly in the hetero world with narcissistic women - a real emotional waste - but now I am pleased to very much admit (even openly in some cases) that I am bi, and very much enjoy it. Sex with men is just like sex with anyone for me, it is enjoyable and very gratifying and truly fits with my highly sexual personality. I am not weird in anyway(want kids, consider rape, etc.) but completely open to enjoyable sex with any adult male/female/tg...why not?

 

That's just a heart-breaking story about your mother. Sexuality is such a powerful urge among humans, and so many people are ashamed of an urge that is rooted in over 100,000 years of human evolution. I understand the need for social conditioning against violence, but not against safe and consensual sex.

People who are able to set that socially-conditioned shame aside and enjoy sex are much more fun to hang out with than those who associate sex with shame.

 

Thank you for sharing something so personal and heartbreaking. I'm so sorry to hear what happened. I pray your mother has found her peace. This kind of thing is one reason why I'm so bitterly resentful toward homophobes. She had the right to be who she was, as we all do, and no one's judgement has the right to cause such tragedy. Fortunately we live in times where nonheterosexuality is first visible and is slowly less resisted, as it should be, though there's still a shitload of work to do. We can't even fucking get race relations right after all that was done in the '60s.
Anyway I know you have had your struggles with issues of sexuality too and I'm also sorry for them, but I'm very glad you have been able to overcome societal bullshit and seek happiness on your own terms. You have a healthy approach to sexuality, and I intend to have such an approach. I wish you continued happy, satisfying times with the consensual adults you match together with.

 

I guess I figured out I was bi when I fantasized being with men, even though I was attracted to women. When I was hit on by a guy at a bar, and he was flirt touching me, I was actually getting turned on, rather than being opposed to it.

 

Did you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

For me, I believe I’m truly bisexual. Since I can remember, I’ve been attracted to both sexes pretty much equally. I’ve had a relationship with a guy and I’ve had a relationship with a woman.

 

That sound hot!

 

Sounds like me. I don't understand why some people doubt us when we say we always have, and always will be bisexual.

For me personally, my bisexuality (especially my attraction to men) was never a matter of not being able to be satisfied by a woman. I've always had completely different needs and desires met/satisfied/fulfilled depending on wether I'm with a man or a woman.

 

Pretty much how I feel except I did not feel any bisexuality before my 20s. I feel each sex addresses my sexual needs differently and both in very beautiful and fun ways.

 

Spot on for me it's two different things

 

I really don't know... been happy with my marriage for 20 years although during all that time but I often played with my self...love to make me cum! I was a real "jealous husband" also during that times! My wife did catch me jerking off also about the time ! want bi ...............

 

I love it from a guy too, being used like a female slut.

 

I never really thought about "becoming" bisexual. My sense is I always was and just finally got around to understanding and acknowledging it.
Around age 13 a couple of us would occasionally masturbate together but we didn't put a label on ourselves. We just enjoyed getting off together..... watching each other jerking and cumming. The guys cocks were very attractive and inviting.