Questions for Bi men

Discussion in 'Bisexual' started by Candybuttons, Jan 2, 2018.

  1. jtghost

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    I’m a bi mwm , I’m a natural born cocksucker. I love my wife and I love sex with her but I just have to have a cock every now and then. I prefer other married guys but if it’s clean I’ll suck it.
     
  2. DaveTheBiGuy

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    I would put my self in that same category.
    I'm a bisexual married guy (married 12 years). Although I love my wife very much and can't imagine a future without her, if my marriage were to become irreparable and fail, I'm also CERTAIN I'd be done with women, and live a gay lifestyle.
    Prior to meeting my wife I had sexual relationships with both men and women, and being in a sexual relationship with other men has given me/caused feelings that I've NEVER experienced with women before. I realized from my very first gay experience/Relationship that I can be just as (if not more) happy, satisfied and fulfilled in a gay relationship as I am with a woman. I also realized early on that I need/crave intimacy with another man, not just the sex. I know this sets me apart from the majority of bisexual men, as most of them simply want the sex and not the actual romance/intimacy with another guy.
    Truth be told, one of the most erotic things I've ever done is showering with another guy... And since I'm being honest here, I'd much rather kiss, make out and cuddle with another man than with a woman. Again, if my marriage were to ever fail... I'm almost CERTAIN I'd be living a gay lifestyle.
     
  3. DaveTheBiGuy

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    I don't think I became bi or "turned" bisexual. I think it's always been a part of who I am. I knew at a fairly young age that I was sexually interested in other guys, long before I realized I was also sexually interested in women too, and even thought I might be gay in my early teens. Those were some lonesome and trying times, and I tried to suppress my gay desires because I grew up in a homophobic family. In trying to fit in, not wanting to be an outcast, and not wanting to be rejected by family and friends, at about 15 I started dating (and had sex) with a few different girls because that's what my family and society expected.
    While I did have fun with females, my gay desires NEVER went away, things felt a bit "forced", and always kinda felt like " something was missing". Even though I hadn't been with another guy to that point, I figured I was bisexual.
    I didn't have my first gay experience till I turned 20 an moved away from home, and from that very first experience, I realized what had been "missing". To be desired, kiss and have sex with another guy gave me that "butterflies in my stomach" feeling that I had never experienced with women to that point in my life... To be naked and having sex with another guy just felt so right and totally natural to me.
    After almost 3 years of dating and hooking up with guys exclusively, I began to question my sexuality again. Then I moved back home after some unforseen circumstances, and met my wife. If I didn't move back home and meet my future wife, I may have stuck exclusively to only dating guys, because through my previous gay experiences I realized I can be just as (if not more) happy, satisfied and fulfilled in a gay relationship as I am with a woman.
    My wife made me understand and realize that I hadn't lost my lust and desire for women. After almost 2 years of dating, we got married, and we've now been married for 12 years.
    Although I love my wife very much, and can't imagine a future without her, that doesn't make me any more "straight" now then when I met her. I am who I am... A bisexual married bottom guy.
    I have never identified as straight, and a couple different times in my life I questioned wether or not I might actually be gay, but nope... I'm definitely bisexual, and I truly believe it's always has been, and always will be a part of who I REALLY am.
     
  4. Biodome1980

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    I became interested in sex at an early age. My first sexual experience was with my best friend. A guy I lived near during late grade school and early middle school. If he hadn't moved away, I'd probably be gay right now. As I got older, it was more of an opportunity based thing.
    It wouldn't happen again until I was 18. My boss flirted with me. I refused but only because I was afraid it would become public knowledge and I wasn't ready to face possible public ridicule. Then due to circumstances out of my control, I had to stay the night at his house. Kind of a no other choice type thing. He offered his bed to me. I hadn't planned on being there so I only had on work clothes. He said I could sleep nude. I just let go of my worries and we had sex and it was pretty amazing. He even told everyone we had sex but nobody believed him. He even told me he could tell everyone and they wouldn't buy it. That was a relief. I had a girlfriend at the time and we had sex but rob and I ended up having sex twice a week every week for the next few years. He got transferred to a different state or else we would still probably be having sex.

    Wouldn't get another opportunity until I got married. My wife and I hung out with another couple on the weekends. Me and the other husband eventually ended up hooking up. His wife didn't want sex as much as he did. At least not with him. I ended up having sex with his wife a few times without my wife's or his knowledge. The wives did know about me and Craig hooking up. Well not all the times but they did see he and I have sex one time. My wife even said it was the sexiest thing ever seeing craig fuck me in the ass. My wife and I divorced and she got their friendship in the divorce.

    Common theme in all this is that it was secretive. After it was over I felt like it was something I shouldn't be doing. I was brought up that gay sex was wrong. It wouldn't be until about 14 years ago that I would be comfortable coming out (to myself) as bisexual.

    My current wife doesnt know I'm bisexual. She certainly doesnt know I have been hooking up with the neighbor once or twice a week for the past several years. In this case, she will want sex once a week for a month or two, then will stop wanting it for 6 months. I'm perfectly happy masturbating daily but when my neighbor texts, I happy go over there. He does things my wife cant or wont do. My wife hasn't sucked my dick in 13 years. My gay lover can and has sucked me to consecutive orgasms. I'm almost always a one and done guy. This guy, once his lips get around my cock, he doesnt stop. He's sucked me off to a quick orgasm up front then continued to give head for another 45 minutes until I gave him a second load. I've never had a woman ever do that. Its skill and passion like that that keeps me wanting to be naked with a man.

    I also like being fucked. My wife let's me fuck her in the ass on occasion but I highly doubt she'd ever be willing to peg me.

    So for me, it's about availability and opportunity. I wont be with another woman. I've done it before and women eventually want a relationship. And I'd just want a fwb.
     
  5. Michael McLauchlin

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    I started being bi in high school. I didn't have a girlfriend and one of my male friends wanted to fool around so I did.
     
  6. Usedtwo87

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    when i was in my teens i bought a tiny vibrator from spencers gift and when i got home i proceeded to see if i liked anal. It never stopped been bi for 15 years now. It wasnt that i wasn't having sex with females at the time. It was more my sheer curiosity on how it felt.
     
  7. Jayjangle

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    I’m in the camp of thinking this is normal for all bi’s To some extent. As for me, I’ve been turned on by penises since I was really young and I often thought I was gay, so for me accepting being bi was a matter of combining acceptance and thinking changing my attitude towards things.
     
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  8. DaveTheBiGuy

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    I feel like I could've written this myself. Although I've NEVER questioned my love for the ladies, I've also been attracted to guys and penis since my early teens. I've also noticed that the older I get, the stronger my gay needs/desires get.
    Having had 2 gay relationships (1 boyfriend, 1 FWB) prior to being married, and 1 "gay affair" that lasted 6 months since being married (I've been married for 12 years), it has caused me to question wether or not I'm actually more gay than "straight".
    Although I LOVE my wife very much, and can't envision a future without her... My gay desires are DEFINITELY getting stronger as I get older. That DOESN'T diminish my LOVE, lust and desire for my wife in ANY way.
    In an ideal world, I'd LOVE to keep my marriage, and have a boyfriend too, and try to keep the relationships separate from each other... As I get DIFFERENT needs/desires met depending on wether I'm with a woman (my wife) or a man.
    My wife has also noticed my need to be with a man getting stronger over the years, and that has caused her to frequently question wether or not I'm actually more gay than "straight" as well.
     
  9. nudistguyny

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    I don't feel anybody " turns Bi" anymore then I believe that people " turn gay". I feel that being bi or gay is something that you are born as. But from birth on you are taught to act like the body that you are born with. Parents buy dolls for girls. And they buy trucks for boys. So from a early age you are taught what you should and should not like. I think the addition of Adult movies allows people to see other sexual viewpoints on the spectrum of human sexuality. Watching a cowboy movie does not turn you into a cowboy. Watching Bi or Gay movies does not turn you int a Bi or Gay person. What it does do is show you that there is more out there then just black and white. There is many shades of gray . The same is true for human sexuality.
     
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  10. Poplo.

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    With me it had always been on my mind even before i got married! When my wife caught me masturbating in a unlock bathroom door she asked me if i
    ever had a man and I said no! She smiled and closed the door to let me finish playing with my self!
     
  11. Poplo.

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    Wow that's awesome the four of you! I'm happy for all of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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  12. Creampie80

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    I like your curiosity, Candybuttons. I have pondered this issue of how guys get curious about sucking cock and I am sure that some get the urge and become curious due to viewing porn. Porn often makes it seem that women are having the greatest times of their lives when they suck cock and have a guy get off in their mouth although I have yet to find that 'perfect' lady.

    I think it is probably common for many porn viewing guys to wonder what it is like to enjoy one of those 'perfect' porn cocks. The reality of cocks is not so perfect. Rarely does one find a nice big thick blemish free cock like we see in porn. Also, I would venture that there is a vast difference between our sexual fantasies and how we would feel about those fantasies were we to be able to live them.

    Now...all that said, I can't blame (or credit) porn for instilling my desires to suck cock. I experimented lightly with watching childhood friends masturbate and I held a cock in my hands when I was a young teen, well before ever viewing any type of porn. I enjoyed seeing another guy's cock and I really liked it when I first felt another guy's cock in my hand. After those experiences it was many years before I ever took the step to suck off another guy, but in the interim it wasn't from viewing porn that my interest grew. I simply was never put off at the idea of pleasuring another guy's cock. I was always openminded about sex between consenting adults no matter the gender of the parties involved.

    When I first discovered that there was a place I could go and, for the most part, feel safe experimenting with other guys, it made me so curious that I sought it out. I sucked my first cock before I ever had a computer and before I ever had the opportunity to safely view porn in any quantity. I had the desire well before porn was easily accessible, and I found that I liked doing it on my own, without any outside influences bringing me to try the act. It's just a part of my open mindedness as regards sexual matters and the fact that pleasuring a cock is in the spectrum of my sexual interests. Why? I don't know, and I am not sure I ever will know, but that's ok.

    While I am certain that many have been influenced by porn, I have not.

    As far as your interest in "trying to figure out what starts the whole Bi thing", I would say that it depends on the person. The whole Bi thing has been around as long as humans have been around. I would say that each individual is unique as far as their sexuality goes. Some of it is nature, being born that way...and some of it is nurture, possibly due to outside influences such as porn or possibly due to sexual trauma or other sexual events that are introduced at an early age, thus opening one to sex in a way that otherwise might not have happened. I am sure there are many cases of the Bi thing being brought about by a mixture of nature and nurture. We are all somewhere along the sexual spectrum. Some are purely 'straight' and some are purely same sex oriented....along with many who fall all along the spectrum.

    That's about all I have to say about it. Each person can examine themselves to find their own reasons about their sexuality. No one else can answer such a broad question for you/us/them.

    As for me, I embrace my desire to suck cock now. I admit that, at first, I felt guilty about doing it. I perceive my early guilt as being thrust upon me by a society that was unaccepting about such behavior. I fully accept my desires now. Why deny myself something that two adults enjoy with each other?

    I admit that it is an act that I hide from my gf and I admit that is wrong. I should either refrain from doing it while I am in a relationship with her or I should open up about it and let the chips fall where they may...but I am still working in a society that might bring some level of ridicule or rejection if I am found out. I choose to keep my secret.
     
  13. Creampie80

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    I don't quite understand why your wife asked if you ever had a man just because she caught you masturbating. Every guy masturbates. Did she have any sort of clue that you might have had m/m sex?
     
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  14. Poplo.

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    At that time I hadn't!
     
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    At that point in time my wife had lovers and one time when she was with a lover making love she let me watch that's when she asked me to join them and that is when I had my first male lover! I learned how to suck a guy that night with my wife watching!
     
  16. LowHangers

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    My wife and I love sucking cock together. We do solo too, but it's really erotic to suck a cock with your spouse.
     
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    It didn't really occur to me at the time because I was and still am super into women, but I had my first interest in a guy when I was 11, and the interest in guys never really went away, it just intensified. It went from just noticing my interest in attention from guys, to sexual curiosity, to romantic/sexual curiosity, to bona fide sexual attraction and romantic interest in guys.
     
  18. spike9

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    My curiosity started back in high school. I would find myself in bi and gay chat rooms during the early days of aol. I very much enjoyed talking to other guys. It made me feel sexy in a way I didn't get talking to women. Don't get me wrong, I was still very much into women. At that time I was only actually involved with women, everything else was just fantasy. Then when I was in college an old high school friend of mine came out as gay. I talked to him all the time. I asked him question after question. It wasn't long before he caught on to the fact that I was curious. I eventually opened up to him and we made plans to hang out so I could experiment a little with my desires. It started kind of slow. All I wanted to do was try sucking his dick. I knew I didn't want to do anything else. But there was a point where it all just kicked in and I became hornier than I had ever been before. We started making out and it was on. I loved every minute of it and never wanted it to stop. We did so much more than I originally planned on doing and I have never regretted any of it. Since then I have mostly only been with women, but that is on me. I know that I am bi, more into women, but absolutely bi. So for me it had nothing to do lack of sex from women, it was inside me all along and I had to act upon it. I am still very attracted to both men and women. It is just who I am, and I wish I could be more open about it.
     
  19. Freak4u

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    I have been attracted to both men and women since I was about 10. I am now
    48. Just my preference
     
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    I love a hot top trans girl!!
     

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