questions about anal sex: heterosexual

Hello. I just have some questions about anal sex. I'm trying to research the subject but I think they are mixed messages. They say for some it hurts but I was thinking that if the woman is truly aroused and in to it and use a good amount of lubrication then maybe it really shouldn't hurt. I was also wondering about the length of the penis and the rectum. I've read that the average rectum is 5 inches, so if a man's penis is 7-8 inches long where it is going to go? Do the rectum stretch? do it hit the back of the rectum where the tight curve is at?

These are some of the questions.

 

My first wife was willing to try upon my request. The first two attempts I only got my head in (doggie position) and she asked me to stop. After a couple months of research together we made a third attempt. We started out as usual pleasuring each other in the 69 position but this time I ran my tongue over her anus which got her attention as she asked me to keep rimming her. She got on all fours with me behind her as I worked her anus with my tongue and finger, she was moaning in pleasure arching her back and wiggling her butt as I was stretching her open and tongue fucking her really good. She asked to be lubed up and we got in the spooning position, she relaxed herself and I went right in slowly working my helmet in and out as she was pushing her ass backwards asking me to go deeper. Before you know it I had all 8" inside her and she said fuck it like my pussy which I started doing. She was going wild, pushing her ass towards my cock as I was thrusting forward inside her ass. She was rubbing her clit and moaning quite loud as she had two orgasms when I finally unloaded balls deep inside her. After that evening she became an anal slut wanting fucked in the ass all the time. My advise is start slow, work her "bung hole" open and use plenty of lube. We used coconut oil and my 8" slid right inside. But stretching her open first and her relaxing is key. She said there was some discomfort at first but that subsided and turned to pleasure rather quick once we got a good rythem going.

 

It shouldn't hurt. If she is relaxed, well lubed and has been toning/practicing it should feel good from the start. I can take 9 inches in easy when I'm ready but if I'm stressed and clinched a bit even a 5 inch is uncomfortable. So only work the ass when the ass is in the mood. Keeps it happy.

 

If it hurts, youre doing it wrong. It's all a matter of relaxing. I can't jump right in and take a big dildo in the ass, but fter working it for a few minutes and I can take it to the balls

 

As everyone has said it's all about relaxing, going slow and a good amount of lube. Might even try some toys to get things going like anal plugs. Smaller and thinner wand type vibrating toys work as well.

 

Enjoy

 

Take. Your. Time.

My wife and I started anal play a few months ago. At first she could only tolerate the tip of my finger. After learning to relax and through patience and trial and error she has worked her way up to being able to wear a medium butt plug while having sex. Our hope is to have anal sex by the end of the year. She was brought up in a very conservative household and anal has always been "taboo" which led to her being very unwilling for the first several years of marriage. Watching porn together and her having a couple of friends who enjoy anal with their partners has opened her mind a little, but it's been a process. It takes time, but it's a wonderful way to build trust into your relationship.

 

I enjoy anal with my husband. It started when he slipped a finger in whilst going down on me and I came so hard, we then started rimming each other and I’ve used a vibrator in him too whilst sucking him off. The first few times we tried full anal it was uncomfortable at first but now we use a water based lube and I can take him all. We had amazing anal last night after a few drinks

 

The "taking your time" thing works!! My wife was against it until recently. I was orally pleasuring her and I lubed my finger and very gently worked it into her behind. She had no objection and came hard for me. I've done the finger thing a few more times with a vibrator on her clit. Big contractions!! Gently massaging her anal muscle ring with a well-lubed finger can be very relaxing and pleasant. It's a muscle just like any other muscle, so massage will relax it. Just do it gently, and use plenty of lube.

A few days ago I tried a butt plug I bought just for her and, while orally and vibe pleasuring her, I lubed the plug and started to insert it. I was going really slow and easy when suddenly her anus relaxed and it went all the way in on it's own!! It surprised even me. But after several heavy orgasms, and she was breathing a bit easier, she asked me if the plug had gone all the way in. I told her, "It IS all the way in!! It's been in for a while now." She couldn't believe it. She thought it would hurt when she first saw the plug before we started playing. But she really liked it!! I'm working toward getting inside her bottom with my cock again. It's been years.

So that goes to show that going slow and using LOTS of lube, it can be very easy ……… and then very pleasurable!! Slow and gentle with lots of lube and you'll find it's really a nice addition and very pleasurable.

 

Please let me be real here. I'm sure my experience isn't everyone's, but some important things haven't been discussed. I should state that I'm not really a fan of anal. Knowing that, here are some thoughts. First, anal does hurt...if you do it wrong. Not to be gross, but unless you just barely had a bowel movement, there is a turd in there, and I can tell you from experience, they don't like to go backwards. That means this is something that has to be timed just right. When empty and lubed, I can easily take my husbands full shaft. It doesn't feel bad at all, but compared to having my pussy stroked, I just don't prefer it. My pussy is where I want the attention. Grab my ass; slap my ass; finger my ass; bite my ass....but I really don't want your cock up there. That is what my pussy is for.