Question For Men That Are Married Or In A Relationships With Women.

Is it just me or does anyone else love candybottoms picture and it makes me glad that I only think about and seldomly toy with a dick here and there

 

I’m not gay. I haven’t cheated on my wife. Here is what I think is happening as an older married man. After having children and the ability to have sex regularly is reduced to almost nothing. Guys start looking for what is lacking that they need. They try gay sex because they don’t want to repeat the past, plus they may have less attraction to men so they don’t have any attachment.
My wife and I are both on medication that keeps me from being able to preform and hers make her not want sex. We took a different approach, to help with my problem and make her more receptive, we are doing anal play. It helps her destress. Stimulating the prostrate helping me get hard.
The toys have got bigger. The play has gotten more intense. Once she has gotten both of us ready we have sex. If not. We play in other ways. We have gotten to a point where we can both get off when we need it and still be intimate with each other. That is the key to a good marriage.
If I ever have sex with a man, it will be because she and I agree to have a threesome. My deal is that she will be in charge. If she wants to be fucked while I lick her clit that is what I’ll do. If she wants me to suck him off and get fucked in the ass by him that is what will happen.
We discussed threesomes when we were dating and those were the rules we agreed to. She said that she would not have sex with a woman. I’m willing to do what it takes to keep her happy. Even if it means doing things that I would not do on my own.

 

do gay couples not do wedding rings?

 

But (pun intended) if a man (especially a married man) is having an exclusive sexual relationship with another man, wouldn't that mean he's more gay than "straight" ?
Married straight guys, or ANY straight guy for that matter, ISN'T gonna seek an exclusive sexual relationship with another man. I'm not saying a bisexual guy can't/shouldn't seek a gay relationship... What I'm saying is that straight me DON'T seek out gay sex or homosexual relationships.
I'm a bisexual married man, and I've had sexual RELATIONSHIPS with both men and women in the past, but I've never tried fooling anyone (especially myself) into believing that I'm "straight".

 

I have problems with maintaining an erection. So we have gotten into pegging so she can have some fun. This has gotten me into considering bisex. So I can understand the desire to try gay sex although I’m still not attracted to men.

 

I learn something new every day.

 

Just a point about 50 shades. Yes women find the domination in the bedroom thing very hot and that side of the films must make women very horny. But Mr Gray was a flat out control freak out of the bedroom. If I treated my wife slightly like that she'd leave in an instant and everyone would think I'm a complete arsehole and horrible man. It's so degrading to all the good men who treat their wifes well while and their wives drool over the film. My wife loves the films too and we've used ideas from it to enjoy each other more. Just don't understand the whole picture.

 

Maybe everyone is overlooking the fact that sexuality is on a continuum with most people falling somewhere in between total straight and completely gay.

 

Its only ever bi guys that say shit like that

 

Do you think that people are born gay, or do you feel that early life experiences determine which rout that we take.
I have known 2 guys who followed a gay lifestyle following a failed marriage.
I don't claim to know the exact answer to my question, but I remember the evening when one of our most ardent gay friends told Jane that if he had met a tomboy like her in his early years, he may not have followed his gay lifestyle. Needless to say he was fairly drunk at the time. LOL.

 

So........You Married A "Tomboy".......Now I'm Beginning To Worry About You......



Cheers Glen.

 

A tomboy by London standards, where girls are happy to spend an afternoon discussing nail polish, but quite the norm on the west coast of Ireland, where she had to light the range to make tea in the morning and forage through the chicken house to find a couple of eggs for breakfast.
Although we enjoy the odd glass of wine, neither of us go out drinking and she loves cooking, so eating out is rare. Perhaps being the second eldest of 14 siblings made her grow up before her time.
We both hate popular music, although Jane prefers country music to opera, so most traditional nightlife holds very little attraction to us.
When we met, I drove her out to the country at weekends, where we spent our time walking and climbing trees, while collecting berry's and wild mushrooms.
While she has to wear a small heel for work, she has never owned a pair of high heels in her entire life, but she prefers DM's to wellingtons LOL

Discussing this with you, takes me back even further.
Before I met Jane, I went out with a girl from a remote part of Australia during her 6 months in the UK and her lifestyle was somewhat similar although she enjoyed a few beers. Thinking back 52 years, I remember that she was also very attracted to haystacks when we went out. .

I may be totally wrong, but I imagine that you would laugh for hours if you met some of the women in London who spend half their life polishing their nails and deciding which dress to wear.

 

You are a parent, and if memory serves a grandparent. So youve seen enough of kids to know anyone claiming anything is 100% genetic is a load of shit.

And I know by the way you phrased the question, do I think people are born that way or early life experiences - early childhood. You didnt even bother with another option, you know its one of those two

You are British, and old enough to remember Julian Clary and a younger Elton John

If I say to you, between Julian Clary and Elton John which one is gayer, which one more likely to have gone through life never having been with the opposite sex - The funny part is your brain already knows the answer.

The real answer to that question is a lot broader than just sexuality, and pisses off just about everyone - that what anyone is ever going to be is all determined by the time they are 6 yesrs old - personality, temper, social skills, IQ, motivation, predisposition for addiction

You are a guy thats been married for a long time, I'm sure by now you have noticed certain personality traits in the guys that are necessary for that to happen. Certain traits in younger guys that tell you they have no chance of a long term stable marriage

 

...is it Clary = more gay?

 

Lots of men who are married to women are also into other men... It's called bisexuality. Rings or no rings

 

bi...sexuality? who knew?

that does nothing to explain why OP thinks a wedding ring means that a man must be married to a woman.

 

That's very true. I would think almost every married gay couple also wears wedding rings.

 

My name's soulcompromise. It's nice to meet you. I'm a cisgender male, straight, and in a new relationship. Not married.

@Candybuttons as I'm sure it's occurred to you, there may not be much merit to what the guys are saying. It's one thing to talk and another thing entirely to do. I think as far as What's up with that is concerned, guys want to tell a story that makes them seem cool or hip. Why are so many men sneaking off to go fuck men? My answer is we aren't. Unless there is some secret homosexual underground railroad for married men that I'm unaware of, you would need to actually go out and meet. And human beings in general are looking for an emotional connection in their relationships. We aren't these angry, greedy, sex-crazed beings that can exist solely to put notches in our belts. It just doesn't work very well... Are men more exciting? In theory, a straight man might feel like he's being adventurous by seeking out interactions of this nature. But it's really imaginary. In reality, I believe that most gay & straight men are both looking for something more than cheap thrills. Are they secretly gay? lol. Probably? I don't know the answer to that one because everyone's different. I think that the reality there is that sexual orientation is really sort of fluid. People go where they want to go with it, so it's not like you're binary - either one or the other, gay or straight. It's probably a decision that's made on a more temporary basis, regardless of what is said on talk TV. What causes this to happen? Is porn putting ideas in their heads? Chances are that given the context of where you know these men, porn in fact does have a significant influence on what they're saying and their behavior. Whether or not they're actually going out and meeting people is probably a little bit removed from that. It takes some wherewithal to actually do that is what I'm saying. Are their wives boring to them? It's possible that some married men have not taken proper care of their marriage and as a result things have become less exciting over time. I don't think that's any excuse to go moving on to new things however. It's just as easy or difficult to make amends and fix a marriage.

 

Soul, I have to disagree with you about gay/straight being a temporary event. I have known several gay men and lesbian women in my lifetime and I assure you, none of them made a decision about their sexuality. They accepted that they are not what is considered straight and live normal lives. I am bisexual and for me that is a decision I made because I enjoy sex with both women and men.

 

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