Question for heterosexual women

Greetings,

I'm a male who was wondering what do women think or feel when they are out in the public and a male that they don't know observes their form (body.) If he takes just a fleeting glance or if the glance lingers, what goes through women's minds or hearts when that happens?

I kind of get the feeling that some women think that a glance at their body means that I am interested in more than just looking at them. Do women think that if a man glances at their body he is automatically interested in more than just looking at them?

Thank you very much to anyone who answers,
nunnies

 

as a man, that is exactly what it means.

 

No it doesn't bro lol. I just like looking at the female body, as I am a natural man lol. I wonder do women feel offence at bodily glances from men.

 

Sometimes I feel self-conscious, sometimes I wonder if they like what they see, sometimes I don't really give it much thought.

 

On the general topic of male behavior with regards to women, my husband says this is how women feel: "If he's a hunk, it's sexy, if he's not, it's creepy."

I tend to agree. If you are sexy, women will think you are interested and most might be flattered. If you are Quasimodo, they will think you are a creep and be offended.

Personally, I'm not the kind of woman a guy would glance at, so I would be flattered if I was single. Now that I'm married, I'd be uncomfortable.

 

If he looks good, he can stare as much as he wants and I'll take it as a compliment.

Now, as for the real interpretation of the staring, it depends a lot on culture.

 

Thank you very much ladies for your answers. They did help me very much.

nunnies

 

There's actually a great Dr. Nerdlove article on this. I'll see if I can find it.

 

Thank you so much, Dahlia (if it's OK to just call you that.) You've helped me to decide to stop glancing at women because it might make them feel self-conscious.

Peace & Love,
nunnies

 

I couldn't find the article I was hoping for.

Seriously though, Dr. Nerdlove is probably the best dating/women/men/issues site going. Check him out.

http://www.doctornerdlove.com/

 

Maybe I'm not 'female' enough to give advice. :biker:
Ah well.

 

It's flattering, doesn't really matter who it is as long as he doesn't do it in a creepy way. I have had men comment mostly on my ass and that's ok. Women I know usually say I got no ass so they look too.
BF says I got no ass too but he likes it. It's not flat but it's tiny. The comments are cool, never had a bad one from anyone and I can't really remember being stared at to the point of feeling really uncomfortable by anyone creepy.

 

I dont notice when guys check me out anymore. When I do notice, I dont really mind. I rarely find a simple up and down glance creepy, no matter what the guy looks like and its actually really rare that I catch someone I find attractive checking me out. Its usually obnoxious, player type guys. But if they wanna look at me, whatever. Its no big deal and I don't think it means anything other than they think I have a nice butt or legs or whatever.

The only time I find it creepy is when a guy stares. There is a big difference between glancing and staring.

 

It really depends on the man, the context, the type of look......Sometimes I take offence if the the look is a leering one and the man is not what I would call respectable looking, other times I blush slightly & feel gratified if the look is one of approval & the man is good looking or respectable.
At the (nude) beach I take offence if the man looking at me is not giving me eye contact, if his gaze drops below boob level I might even be tempted to make a comment!

 

I'm not a woman but I disagree.I think if a man looks at a woman a certain way then he may be interested in them but just looking at a woman especially if it is not in a I like the woman sort of fashion doesn't mean that a guy will automatically be interested in a woman, People are not robots.

 

It really just depends on how a guy looks at you. It can be creepy or just like "oh geez, I don't wanna talk to him-don't look back" or it can be not bad at all but it totally depends on the look.

 

I also have to agree with he other guys and disagree with the HF member underwear, that a guy looking at a girl, does not by default mean they are projecting lustful interest toward them.

There is a stereotype about men regarding this and quite frankly I'm annoyed with it.

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How a women reacts in my view depends on these factors:

1. Her own mental maturity about herself and how she fits into the world.

2. The setting of where the social interaction of looking and noticing took place.

3. The guy's demeanor + his physical appearance. (Flirting; it is a form of selling or marketing yourself and like all sales pitches a friendly approach tends to garner a friendly response).

4. This might sound base, but hormone levels.

5. Is she out in public for the purpose of mingling sexually or romantically?

6. Is she with someone or not? Is she in an open relationship or a cheater type?

7. Is the lady a complete stranger or do you have some sort of "special" status when you hang with her or meet her in public? (Special statuses: family of a friend, friend of the family, childhood friend, friend of a close friend)

All those factors play roles like ingredients to a recipe for a meal, each factor can't be isolated in a linear sense as they will all interact to produce the final reaction.


Know how to read a situation, and look at all these factors is why some guys have more success than others on the "approaching" stage of mingling with the opposite sex. Or even if all that occurs is a fleeting glance, the same dynamics are at play.


Sure physical appearances you can't control, but the others you can by degrees.

Physically good looking guys have trouble getting girls too if their personality is off or too intense in the stalkerish or non-charming sort of way:

1. They carry their body language too stocky or stiffly.

2. The way they speak or use language is too judgement heavy or veils anger or resentment in general.

3. Or they are insecure men who are giving mixed signals, which to anybody is a bit unnerving.

People in general LIKE patterns, and certainty, they don't like wishy-washy people if that is their core nature. If you are unpredictable and not dependable at a reasonable level this is also a turnoff. (Note: this is separate from keeping a relationship fun and having a surprise element here or there)

 

Most woman dress up like they are.

 

I generally take it as a complement unless the guy is really weird about it. You'll have the occasional super long stare which is creepy and not a complement at all.

But the sort of automatic up and down glance a lot of guys do doesn't offend me. And when they seem to like what they see I actually enjoy it. The double take can be a nice confidence booster.

Then there's the time this guy stared at me forever and I was SUPER creeped out and it turned out I'd gone to high school with him and he was trying to decide if I was who he thought and whether he should come say hi.