Question for Bisexual Men

I think our sexual preferences and our "gayness vs straightness" are different things. I consider myself straight, yet I desire sex with with women and men. But I could never see myself wanting to marry another man.

 

I am only attracted to men physically. I could never imagine myself with a man on a permanent basis.

 

That thought is obviously not accurate. But we are a biased audience because we've embraced whatever it is that we are trying to find, enjoy or already know.
The whole "men are automatically gay forever" is a thought so deeply built into religious and cultural dogma that a lot of people can't get past it. Even during the revolutionary war in what is now America, Europeans were having all sorts of sex with both genders.
Ancient Romans had tons of sex with both genders and even children. Not that I'm advocating the latter is acceptable at all, I just use it as an example of human sexual desires are all over the place. They always have been and they always will be.

 

I think that that’s not true at all. I think true bisexuality definitely exists but I also think a man can be attracted to both sexes and not be bisexual but rather just sexually adventurous. I personally although am attracted to a man’s dick and ass am not attracted emotionally to men whatsoever. I love and couldn’t live without women and can only be emotionally involved with them. I don’t consider myself bisexual as to be truly bisexual one must be capable of loving or at least having feelings for both sexes. For me with men it’s purely physical, all about the sex only.

 

If you enjoy sex with BOTH women and men, that makes you bisexual

 

So be it. But those whom insist we’re gay don’t know what they’re talking about.

 

Absolutely. I agree. I'm bisexual myself... I've had 2 sexual relationships with men... And I've never identified as gay

 

See many people don't believe bisexuality is real.
They think bi men are just scared to admit that they are actually Gay.
But studies are and have proven that there is no such thing as gay or straight and that everyone is bisexual to some degree.
A "Straight" man suppresses any thoughts of sex with other men sometimes without them even knowing it due to social conditioning telling him that because he likes women he is straight so he would never think of having gay sex.
But as we all know there are many straight men that have a strong desire to have gay sex even if they never act on it it still haunts them their whole life sometimes.
And "Gay" men do the same thing they subconsciously block any thoughts of females in a sexual way. I don't know enough gay men to know if they fantasize about women the way straight men do about men.
So maybe some honest gay men will tell me
As a bisexual man I can say that bisexuality is very real and the majority of bisexual people lean one way or the other and it's very rare for 50/50 attracted to male and female usually it's 75/25 one way or the other.
I personally am 75% attracted to women and 25% attracted to men
Any time i see a good looking woman even fully dressed i think about how bad I want to fuck her.
But when I look at men I don't know if I think they are good looking or not because I think all men are ugly.
But the second I see a mans cock I instantly want to suck it and feel it in my ass.
For almost my entire life the thought of being intimate with a man like kissing or cuddling was gross and about equal to the way I think it's gross to suck a dogs dick.
But over the past 4 years I have made a very strong effort to do those things to see if I could learn to like them and now i am at the point that if a man kisses my neck and ear while he fucks me it makes it 100 times better and sometimes I can make out with men but for the most part it still feels like it's forced and it's hard to enjoy it the same as kissing women.
My only regret when it comes to being bisexual is i wish i would have learned how insanely awesome it feels to get fucked in the ass when I was a lot younger. I still can't believe how damn good it feels when you get used to it.

 

Sexfreakartist: It's almost like we're the same person...I feel and have felt just like you have and do.

 

Very well said sexfreakartist! I feel exactly the same way also. Not many people out there understand this or at least they’re not willing to understand. I have a couple female friends (ex girlfriends) whom do understand and tell me that I’m secure enough in my masculinity to be able to enjoy men and women and they love that.

 

This idea took me a long time to get comfortavle with. That I enjoy both having sex with women as the man in the relationship but also being thw bottom who gets fucked hard. Both get me hot but in different ways. The thought of being take. and bent over and fucked hard and good by a transexual is the best because I think it combines both gender types. But it comes down to just enjoying a penis inside me.
The fantasy with men has evolved as I became more comfortable with wanting to be completely dominated. Where I really want to go as far as exploration is becoming a complete submissive sissy for someone. I still haven't figured out completely why it yurns me on so much but the thought of being told what to do and to have to earn a good hard cock makes me so hard. I fantasize about doing dishes in a skirt while being talked down to only to be told what I have to do to get fucked and then taking his cum wherever he wants to put it.
I guess its the idea of being a piece of property to serve. Anyways...any doms in california want to explore I'm willing to chat.

 

I never watch gay porn but then I am not attracted to men nor do I desire to have sex with them. I love cock but only on a beautiful woman like my transgender girlfriend. I would do anything for her - she is my top forever.

 

It kinda makes you just like most of the guys here… including me.

 

I call bullshit on this one. Even as a bisexual bottom who's sexually submissive with guys, and the fact that I enjoy a nice cock as much as any other bisexual or gay guy, that has never diminished my sexual attraction to women

 

Not necessarily. Most bisexual people (men and women) have a preference one way or the other.
And just because a bisexual marries an opposite sex partner, that doesn't suddenly make them "straight" either

 

I've never heard that one before.. sounds like mental masturbation to me.. intellectualization that seeks only affirmation of an existing presumption..

it certainly wouldn't explain setting aside MM pursuits to be married to a woman for 1/2 century and have kids/grandkids if one were forever gay and off limits to loving/desiring a woman..

 

I'm new here but I very much remember the first time I heard this... and how silly I thought it was both then and now. I ignore it because I know the truth of things...

 

Men who have sex with men and watch gay porn are obviously interested in gay sex. Does that mean we're totally 100% gay? Not necessarily. There's lots and lots of truly bisexual men out there.
I've actually been more offended by gay men telling me that "I must be gay if I enjoy being a total bottom and sexually submissive with men" then when my wife sometimes makes comments that she thinks I'm"more gay than straight." At least she knows me
If I weren't married, Would it be possible for me to fall in love and make love (not just "sex") with another man? Sure. But that still wouldn't necessarily mean I'm gay. Bisexuality is very real, and bisexual is it's own sexual orientation

 

Bisexuality in men is real and anyone who thinks it isn't, well, we need to talk. Just because a guy watches gay porn doesn't mean that he's gay or even wants to be - but the visuals of two (or more) men doing each other can be very damned fascinating and encouragement to jerk off. Once a guy has that first experience with a guy, it's utter nonsense for him to think that he's now off-limits to women even though there are a lot of women who'd kick him to the curb for it and if they even knew about it. Such notions are so totally asinine that every time I've heard this come out of someone's mouth, I laugh at how utterly clueless they are about sex, sexuality, and men.

I grew up hearing that being homosexual was the monster under the bed and the one thing to be very fearful of - and crap like that statement only serves to perpetuate that fear and, yeah, to scare guys into remaining straight. Like DaveTheBiGuy, I've had so many gay men trying to convince me that I'm really gay, that I should give up women and other such sentiments - then get pissy with me because I'm never going to give up women, I have known for the longest time that I'm not gay and I honestly wouldn't want to be relegated to a single source of sex and, oh, yeah, just because I might be good in bed doesn't mean anything other than I'm good in bed because I still don't like guys like that.

So, I do my best to ignore it. It used to bug the shit out of me but I learned some stuff about what people don't know or what they think they know and how it's nowhere near what I have learned for a fact about sex, sexuality, and men.

 

I suspect everyone is capable of enjoying same sex pleasure and will under various circumstances..

take the situation in the movie Cast Away.. suppose two males were stranded.. weeks, months, years(?) pass.. at what point do you think the need for physical contact with another human being surfaces? it will.. or you'll go nuts..

whether same sex or opposite sex, needs are needs.. everyone will eventually need it.. or go nuts..